I CANT HANDLE THIS

[Troubledwife]

I thought that I could deal with this but I can't. Every day that I deal with the hospital and home life I feel my energy sanity and well being being pulled apart. I'm viewing my husband and family in a totally different way. We (my husband and I) are totally different people and since this tragedy it's opening my eyes to who we really are.

[BBDEBS]

Have no confusion, this is an awful experience for you and your family. My husband ended up on anti depressants and CBT but 5 months on, we have got through it and he has finished counselling and is reducing his anti depressants.

Please get an emergency appointment at your doctor today, and get some meds to help you cope and get referred for some counselling.

Please don't struggle alone, we are all here for you xx

[Luckyone]

There is often little thought given to the distress & trauma relatives go through, while a loved one who is critically ill in ICU, is often fighting a very different battle that at times is terrifying for so many of us, I can understand your frustration my own wife went through 3 months of hell not knowing if I would ever leave alive, if it hadn't been for great family support I'm not sure how she would have carried on with life.

Debs is right in her reply, get an appointment with your GP asap and ask for any help possible before it all gets to much to handle, you've been incredibly strong in supporting your husband as well as trying to juggle family life with young children and we all know how difficult it can be financially, also try telling other family members or friends how difficult you are finding things, sharing your thoughts is a great pressure release.

Many of us ex-ICU patients carry an immense guilt of what we put our families through even though everything was beyond our control and trying to readjust to life after ICU can be very difficult too, the body take a massive pounding both physically & psychologically but with great family support we do come through it and of course the community is always here to support you all the way.

Bill

[angelrock]

Please be kind and compassionate with yourself, these times are hard enough and try not to put yourself down. I felt very guilty about what I put my partner, family and friends through even to this day nearly two years later the guilt does not leave me . Please get help and some counselling as this will help you so much. Your health is so very important and you have to start to feel stronger and more positive with each passing day. I began to see some light at the end of the tunnel and now I am at the end and in the open where it looks very bright.