Three years Today

[New_beginning]

Well, my anxiety on today's date started months ago, but today unbeknown to my husband ( all day) I treated today; his 3 year TBI date like a celebration, never thought I use this approach.

We went for a cooked breakfast (I booked table with River View), we went shopping (well 50/50, he sat on benches for rest ), we was child free and after school run (daughter still on half days) I baked a cake (unicorn type), then finished the day off with a takeaway, then cake.

At 6:15pm I said to my husband, our lives changed today and it's from today we now need to embrace and look what we have faced, but we know we can fight the challenges.

I felt the tears this morning brewing, but not cried I literally fought them off, literally speaking out loud 'not today ' (quite repetitively). Only 2 days ago I had this urge to celebrate, however this knot in stomach no matter how I present , I know won't go, the anxiety prior working up not changed. But considering first date, I was nearing passing out, 2nd date fighting acceptance, 3rd date realising this is our life, it's improving.

Also, still waiting on news from consultant, was meant to find out this week on these hormone injections starting, crikey absolutely no change, I'm leaving messages fingers crossed we find out soon, will keep you posted.

[ored13]

❤️ I love this. You have worked so hard for so long and inspire me to be a bit less gloomy in my thoughts when they come flooding in. I am definitely going to implement your technique. There is something to be said for telling ourselves something over and over again. Really glad to read this post. ❤️

[paxo05]

Hi, can I first say well done. Well done on accepting the new begining. Hopefully if your husband hasn't yet he will with your support.

For me it took longer. Old friends ( past term) thought I was strange celebrating an event where I nearly died.

They couldn't understand I was celebrating not dying and also the new ( although not improved ) me.

In my case the date of my bi is just over a week after my actual birthday. I have not celebrated my actual birthday for years, but do celebrate the date I changed.

I look at this as a positive step and has allowed me to move forward with my life.

All the best , ad keep pushing forward,

Pax

[Hidden]

You have faced everything over these 3 years with an inner strength that few have, not only with your husband but 2 children too.I hope things continue to move forward❤️

[cat3]

You're a heroine N-b. Your devotion to your man's quality of life and progress has been amazing, alongside caring for your children and numerous other complex issues. And you're still going the extra mile by creating special moments 3 years on.

Fingers, legs, eyes ....everything crossed for the hormone shots soon..😉

Wishing you lots more good days to come m'love. Cat x

[skydivesurvivor]

am in admiration /awe!! U learing to tolerate a T.B.I! My siblings couldn’t do it, I supported mum through dementia/alzimers. My brother is now my cater. The others have cast me aside respect you greatly, god bless!!

[Nanapal]

Your post has made me smile NB.

Having followed your journey and felt and understood your ups and downs it is so good to read of your ‘celebration’. You are an inspiration for us all especially those just at the start of living with/ caring for after a TBI.

Very best wishes to you, husband & children. Nana pal x

[Silkwood20]

Thankyou for that positive and inspiring post, coming up to our second anniversary in May, it won't be so bad as the first I know, but good to hear your perspective. God bless you and your dear family.

[Silkwood20]

Thankyou for that positive and inspiring post, coming up to our second anniversary in May, it won't be so bad as the first I know, but good to hear your perspective. God bless you and your dear family.

[Weloveajigsaw]

we are just approaching 1 year and I thank you for your posts. You are amazing. I am about to host an almost identical family do to last year and the night his heart stopped and chaos ensued- I am pushing the boat out for me and kids and hubby - but maybe lots of ‘loo’ tears . You inspire x