update; coping with a loved one in coma

[imconfusedandscared]

First of all, thank you all so much! All of you who have comforted me in form of wishes, sharing your own experience, advice and/or just kindness in general. It’s my first time confiding in an online community and i am so beyond surprised anyone actually wants to hear about any of this!😀

So thank you so much, i have to say i do feel lighter and better now and that’s thanks to being able to share with all of you and getting all the heart-warming responses!

Some of you have asked me to keep updating, and i have every intention to do so:

Grandpa is actually doing worse, he is still in a very critical state. I believe they have the pneumonia under control, but they discovered a new infection and are currently trying to figure out what it is. It may sound weird but i still feel very hopeful and positive, even after hearing all the bad news, but maybe that’s just denial.

My mom is ok, she’s helping whenever she can and my dad (whose dad is the grandpa in hospital) is doing ok too. Actually i’m very proud of him, he is so incredibly strong. He’s still hoping for the best and even when there was the possibility of death mentioned, he seemed okay with it (as okay as a person who is told his father is dying) but still, he keeps his cool. He just knows that that’s life, the cycle of life and he knows he still has a lot to live for. He takes an incredible care of grandma. It’s very hard on her, she is so deppressed and just crushed by the state grandpa, her husband, is in. She often cries and shakes, she’s taking anxiety medication given to her by the nurses. She’s already talking about funeral and living alone without him. She’s already grieving as if he were gone. I feel very sorry for her but at the same time, this mindset is not helpful. Dad spent the night with her, comforted her, he drives her everywhere, shops for her, helps her at home…he’s being very strong.

Well, i guess that is all i have for now. Again, thank you all very much, i appreciate the wishes and love!

I wish all of you good and strong health, love, strength and good energy! xx

[Painting-girl]

Such a hard and frightening time for you all to live through i, so sorry to hear about your grandpa. It sounds like your dad and mum are both being very supportive to each other and your grandma though, which is good. Take care x

[imconfusedandscared in reply to Painting-girl]

Thank you so much for your compassion!

Yes, my parents are very strong, especially my dad. I admire them a lot for the strength they keep showing.

Thanks again for your wishes, appreciate it very much! xx

[cat3]

Your dad will be on 'Auto-pilot' - something which often kicks in at times of crisis ; a protective instinct which keeps us temporarily strong and focused on matters in hand, and the welfare of others. He will be a blessing to your grandma.

Thinking of you all... Xx

[imconfusedandscared in reply to cat3]

Yes, he has been working and taking care of grandma a lot. He really is a blessing. He barely sleeps, i feel so sorry for him We all try to cheer him up though, he has us+some amazing friends.

Thank you for your loving wishes, i appreciate it💓 sending strength and good energy back xx

[Alibongo60]

Hello do we have a name we can call you, hopefully you feel less confused and scared we will always support you, there are lots of lovely people on here who have been in similar situations and will help. I think your mum and dad will be very proud of you too, how you are dealing with this grandpa is obviously very much loved, grandma is just dealing with it in her own way, and just needs as much support as you can all give her, I am sending lots of love and hugs to you, because your doing a brilliant job too, love Alice xx

[imconfusedandscared in reply to Alibongo60]

You’re too kind!! Thank you so much!

Also sorry for the username lol, reading it back now it actually sounds a little funny to me. But my name is Aneta

Thank you so much for support, you have no idea how much this actually helps. Sending lots of love back! Xx

[Butterfly28]

You are all supporting each other through this. I’m sure you’re making your parents proud. Take care . x