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Is it me?

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Or are others, especially in towns, beginning to notice a general breakdown in manners and behaviour. Sorry this isn't specific to brain injury (I have one btw), but an awareness that the general public - on roads and in supermarkets - have become more aggressive. A large swathe of the general public have adopted a "me first, get outta my way" blasting attitude.

Does anyone else feel like this, or is it me being hypersensitive?

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pinkvision

Haha, was chatting about something similar to do with drivers. It seems to be day specific, mondays and tuesdays and fridays are bad. mind you I live in the sticks and the drivers are from towns. Maybe the people that live in towns have lost the plot on either side of the weekend.

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swedishblue11 in reply to pinkvision

Haha, Yes you are right, maybe town people have lost the plot! I live in the sticks as well, but ever since the start of the pandemic, the roads have become much much busier with delivery vans using villages as "rat runs"!!

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moo196

I think it's part of Coviditis..... People are really fed up and showing it in different ways (depression, bolshiness, addiction, withdrawal).It's not just you.

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swedishblue11 in reply to moo196

yes alas, I'm sure you're right. Pre-pandemic we seemed to be more compassionate, patient and supportive to one another. Now that's gone out of the window....people are uptight/worried about inflation, fuel price increases, etc. "survival of the fittest" en all that.

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BaronC

Started noticing that about thirty years ago. Covid has merely added to it. Part of the reason we moved out into the middle of nowhere. We rarely see people, it's bliss and very relaxing.

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swedishblue11 in reply to BaronC

Oh my goodness, that sounds like heaven...no people!!

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Leaf100

It isn't just you. I thanked someone in a shop the other day for going out of her way to find something for me and she actually said 'awww you are so sweet, so one says thank you to me!'

I find that rather horrifying.

Though I had to go to the cify about a month ago and traffic was more civilized there than where I live, where there are a few too many young men in big trucks with 'outta my way, boo boo!' driving habits...

Things are really koo koo out there just now as they are predicted shorts of some things so a lot of people are running to get things for Christmas now.

Leaf

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swedishblue11 in reply to Leaf100

A senior friend said the other day, if there are shortages, we can deal with em, just like we did during rationing (second WW). It brought comfort strangely.

Hello, as you know, I don’t live in Britain. I did spend a total of four years in Britain, during the mid 1980’s and 90’s. The local communities (cities and country) were always welcoming and polite. Maybe I was lucky! Your recent observation fills me with horror. Hopefully in time to come, things will calm down.

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Is that you CR? I can see through your cunning disguise from your drawing. Don't be alarmed, Britain is still the same more-or-less, just it's people feeling stressed. I may have over-egged the scene here, but times are troubled at the moment as they are around the world.

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It sure is AS!

Good to hear that Britain is essentially the same. I did suspect that your observations may be due to a number of factors.

The world has vastly changed, since the pandemic.

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ored13

Oh this is a thing! I noticed after the 1st lockdown that the general population had suddenly become a ruthless, impatient and rude. It was a thing others in my field were commenting on constantly as well. Must have been something about being in lockdown, I don't know. But doesn't seem to be changing terribly much, so this must just be how people are now.

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Painting-girl

I've noticed some people are a lot more on edge too - but on the other hand more people seem to want to reach out, smile and say hello, I've probably had more positive exchanges with complete strangers in the last year than previously. My explanation to myself is that Covid and economic stress affects different people in different ways. Someone was a bit confrontational at the start of a long café queue the other day, but as we were in it for the long haul, I noticed how drawn she looked, and while we queued, I learned she was having a very traumatic time in her life, and squeezing out time for a bite to eat with a young cousin who'd lost her mother, before dashing back to the hospital herself. We finally got to the front of the queue and parted empathising like crazy.

So ok, I get that won't be everyone's reason, and some people will be more aggressive just because they can't cope with the additional stressors at the moment - and those instances are quite shocking - but I suppose on the plus side, at least it's not totally the norm yet !

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Pedal2

It is definitely pandemic stress - some people can't deal with forced changes in their lives and hence panic and become hostile to other people, and lose all manners in the process. I believe that dealing with the massive changes to my personality etc. post brain injury have improved my ability to deal more easily with the situation at present. Like many people on this site I had an accident which basically radically changed my life immediately for the long term. I am not saying that I reacted easily to all the changes immediately but overtime you get used to consistently changing your life as a means of survival. Therefore it is important to gain positives from an accident which had so many negatives so I am pleased to say that I have not panicked and become rude and selfish due to the pandemic crisis because of my past experiences with attempting to overcome brain injury problems.

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