Living with a partner with high irritability due to head injury

[Alcerosso]

I have been with my partner for 9 months. She is a lovely person but has a very low stress threshold and becomes upset for nearly everything that is not as she expects.

She had a terrible accident more then 20 years ago when she was 17. She was hit by a bus in the street and remained in a coma for a week. She recovered but had cognitive difficulties for about a year.

She told me that after the incident she becsme very irritable. She huffs and pants in disappointment when she does very ordinary things and often shifts from English to her native language swearing and blaming at a minimum obstacle on her way.

I am really struggling with this situation and although I understand it is not her fault, I see that I need some help not to take these things personal.

I am wondering if any of you has any suggestion to give me. Is there any support group available on this subject?

Thanks a lot.

Massimo

[cat3]

Have you talked seriously & calmly about the impact your partner's issues are having on you ? Survivors often need reminding that loved ones need TLC and consideration too.

It can be nigh on impossible controlling the intense frustration and irritability resulting from brain injury but I'm fortunate enough to keep mine controlled (mostly) with medication. Do you think your partner would be agreeable to seeking help, whether medical or from therapy/counselling, after lockdown is lifted ?

Sometimes the root of the problem isn't down to the obvious, and counselling (or just regular talks together) can unearth hidden or repressed issues/resentments.

I hope you can address this problem, for both your sakes ; we're always here to talk m'love….

Cat...

[walkingtalking2]

Please try to open a dialogue with your partner about this, explain you understand that it might not be something she has immediate control over but maybe you can find coping techniques for both of you. Even discussing might help find ways you can both cope easier.

[tennijul]

There are of course local carers centres which might be able to support you and local Headway groups. These may have online support in your area during the current situation. Unfortunately I am in your partners situation. Kindness and understanding can help her but she also could take some responsibility for herself. CBT with a qualified psychologist may help. This would need to be via a NHS referral. Preferable to a specialized psychologist with a specialism in TBI. Hope this is of help