Sttoke

[Coznick]

I had astroke in October and it’s still hard, I’m only forty five, I miss my wrk and struggle to stay positive

[Lann62]

Hello Sttoke, I am sorry to hear of your circumstances. I totally understand where you are coming from however. I'm older than you, but I also had a stroke unexpectedly. It meant I had to retire early and I felt as if a rug has been totally pulled from under me. I loved my job and having to give it up I felt worthless and devastated. I am 3 years after my stroke. At times I felt absolutely worthless, but that has lessened as time has passed. It does take a while but things hopefully improve, of course never as quickly as one would like!) Try and take one day at a time. I have good days and not so good days, but the good days are getting more and I am feeling more positive. I am always happy to communicate with you if you think it would help. Just being able to read this site has helped me immensely at times. Id be lying if I said there are not days when I feel totally sad that my life has changed so much. For me its been my confidence that has been knocked so badly. I seem to lack confidence even in the simplest things. Iam however trying my best to stay positive. I do some voluntary work which really helps. I feel so blessed that I am able to put something back. As said I have my good and not so good days. I know its often easier said than done, trying to keep positive. Things will improve bit by bit. As said always happy to communicate if it helps you. Just being able to read other peoples experiences on this site, in some ways has been a help to me. Thinking of you. Lann62

[cat3]

Hi Coznick. I'm sorry to hear you're feeling lost since your stroke ; it's challenging adapting to the difference in circumstances & pace and it's something we all struggle with, especially 'til 1st anniversaries are over with ('This time last year' etc..)

But it gets easier as time passes and we start finding new ways to feel fulfilled and valued. I've done various types of voluntary work in the past (retired now) and it's been SO rewarding and taught me more than any salaried work ever did. Give yourself more time for healing and adjustment, whilst gradually testing your limitations/abilities along the way.

Don't despair ; there's something for everyone if you take your time and look around. When you feel ready, you could try 'do-it.org' for voluntary posts......which can often lead to permanent paid work of a less demanding nature.

Take care m'dear………. Cat x

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I'm the same, 50 years old, worked for 35 years then nothing, takes time to adapt but I'm slowly coming to terms with it

[Bradbike]

My son also had a stroke, he was 28. He’d just got his business going and found a purpose to life. It’s coming up to a year since his stroke and he feels he’s lost everything.

For us it’s heartbreaking watching him go through this, we are trying to help him find a new path in life. Each day there’s little improvements, little bits of positivity to point out.

He doesn’t say what’s on his mind or how he feels, just sadness behind his eyes.

Lean on the people around you, I’m sure they will be more than happy that you felt you could share your feelings and be there for you to help find a new purpose.

[WinB]

I am an old Dear Coz and I had an SAH a form of a stroke ...Keeping happy and singing helped me so whatever you like do it but keep happy always xxx Good luck Coz Now I am learning to walk again xxx