My dad spent a month in hospital after collapsing backwards and suffering brain injury. Got home but no support for mum as slipped through net for proper care following catalogue of disasters for his care. I am going back to work but mum doesn't drive and stuck in house. He very frustrated and on a short fuse at home and we don't know how to manage or help mum. She feels let down but now doesn't want outside help. Can u give advice.
My dad had Brain injury after collapse. - Headway
Sadly it is not uncommon for people to get lots of support whilst in hospital and then zero when you come home. Worse still the hospital never seems to prepare the family for the changes.
First place to contact will be the main headway help line whom will assist where they can.
The other place to seek help is from your local County Council Adult services whom have close links with all the other agencies in your area.
It will be a long and arduous journey but hope it goes well
We have been together for 43 years this March, think she stays with me out of spite
In time when your mum is up to it, see if they can go to one of the Headway groups. Most of them have sessions for survivors (those with a HI) and a simultaneous one for carers. The carers one can be quite emotional and cathartic where carers get to let it all come out with others in the same position.
Perhaps your mum could post on here and speak to other partners - it isn't as scary as people imagine.
all the best
It's difficult situation as my mum won't accept outside help at the moment and trying to manage my dad herself . My dad gets very agitated confused and flies off handle at slightest thing and is different person . I wondered if I researched how to manage his behaviour I could pass this on to mum. He only been at home a couple weeks . He doesn't have any interest in anything won't watch t v or won't have any friends visiting and doesn't recall brain injury and how bad it is. I was thinking of speaking to head way. I would love my mum to speak to people in similar position .