my friend

[steve55]

as you will know, afew weeks ago i reported the passing of my very good friend.

today was his cremation, a lovely sunny day here in west sussex, with his friends and relatives to say goodbye to our friend, the chapel was packed.

a simple service to see my friend on his journey.

til we meet again, sleep well my friend.

[cat3]

I do empathise Steve. We said goodbye to my friend of 40 years on Tuesday and, after the cremation & tributes, we all went back to her (now empty) house and sat for a few hours in her garden to say our final goodbyes.

There aren't really any words to describe the feelings of those left behind are there...........

Take care Steve. Cat x

[tillymint16 in reply to cat3]

Hi Cat

Aww condolences about your friend🌸

Andrea xx

[cat3 in reply to tillymint16]

Thanks m'love. xx

[steve55 in reply to cat3]

cat my little brain had just worked out that your sad event was on tuesday.

having got to know you through your personality, i can imagine you were a very good friend and it must have been hard for you.

steve x

[cat3 in reply to steve55]

It was, but I must confess that I would've preferred to leave the crematorium and spend some time alone in my friend's garden ; I found the 'rellies' didn't know her at all and it showed in their ridiculous eulogies in which they virtually deified her.

I know we don't 'speak ill' of the dead but remembering loved ones needs to be kept real or else it's a sham. We were friends and we were kind & loving but we were also fallible, and guilty of all the usual human mistakes, including outrageous drunkenness on many occasions !

I suppose you and I will be feeling the after-shocks for quite some time Steve........ ............you know how the realisation hits in those moments when you happen to be off guard, and it's like it just happened...........

Thanks for your words of kindness. xx

[Hidden in reply to cat3]

Had the same at my father's funeral, I was the closet person in the world to the man, on his death others jumped in to organise the funeral I stepped back the eulogies were a sham to the point of my turn to speak which I refused to share with the imposters why would I share my personal moments with them all in all it was a sham, smiled all the way through it.show your respects to the living as it's wasted on the dead and becomes something else.

[susief]

He would have been so happy that you were both with us today and that you joined us afterwards too...he thought a lot of you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for all your support at this difficult time and most importantly... just for being you....

[steve55 in reply to susief]

and having had a shower!!!