My partner is a daily shopper / spender (he loves the social aspect of shopping locally ) thankfully he loves charity shops and good food and not designer gear or costly gadget and tech. It's very important to him and me that he has control of his own money, (he as loss so much due to BI ) we are once again set are up standing orders to make sure the bills get paid but last month the standard orders ended without me realising. In six weeks all my partner income, savings as been spent on daily shopping with no bills being paid, no Xmas present bought and nothing to show for the money ) . I just can't work out where it as all gone. We're setting up new standing order for the year but Christmas is now really financially stressful for me.
I just want my partner to acknowledge that he as a spending problem so he can change his spending behaviour. He will acknowledge in the moment but then just forget and continue to engage in the same problematic spending patterns. I don't want to give him a daily cash allowance that feels so controlling and childish.
He buys multiple of things so we have 20 toilet roles and no milk ect
He shops daily and he overspends daily. He then goes into.his overdraft or saving to get to the end of the months. I'm generally good at budgeting and know that he could live within his means and we could have a family holiday if he budgeted carefully and didn't shop every day. He will reluctantly agree a plan but just forget the next day.
How do I support him without taking over his finances totally and giving him pocket money. How does he break the habit of daily spending. And how do you budget when you have memory problems. Our margins are tight so a daily over spend quickly adds up to major trouble and at Xmas it hurts. Any one found a system that works