Bleed on the brain

[Dynamite36]

Hi I'm Adam, I wondered if anyone else had a bleed on there brain like and had to learn to talk, e at, tell the time, read, dress, talk, walk, then trying to get your life to find happiness some how

[cat3]

Hi Adam and welcome. Can you tell us how long ago you had the bleed ? Mine (a subarachnoid haemorrhage) was almost 6 years ago and life has been very different since then.

I'm someone who appears fine though I still have some mobility and balance problems, and my short term memory has been badly affected. But semi-isolation is my personal choice as I cope badly in noisy/brightly lit/crowded situations and,even in a one to one, I'm easily overwhelmed by conversation and the frustration of word finding.

Maybe you could tell us a little bit more about your history and your interests. Loneliness is something many people here will identify with, but what I've noticed over the past 6 years is that many folk develop a social life through other interests, which occasionally lead to personal relationships.

Please tell us more about yourself Adam so we can engage more easily with you as an individual rather than just a name on a screen ! Look forward to hearing from you..............

Regards, Cat x

[Dynamite36 in reply to cat3]

I’m 36 it happened 3 years ago it happened 3 years ago since then my mobility hasn’t progressed as much as I liked and I’m going to college once a week which is really pushing me as my brains not what it used to be but I want to be successful and need things to drive and push me. I also don’t like the loneliness so I got a little dog who’s like a person to me my little baby lol

[cat3 in reply to Dynamite36]

I'd love a dog ! I've been agonising about getting a rescue dog for ages but it worries me that the poor thing wouldn't have its 'walkie' needs met when I'm periodically out of action.

But that's great for you Adam. I believe pets can actually be better companions than humans ! I sometimes walk through the park and chat to local dog owners (& pet their pooches) ; I'm quite envious of their community.

It's interesting seeing the different owners interacting in the park whereas, along the riverbank, they just walk by. I suppose it's the open space and ball-throwing which connects people & pets in the park.

College is a great place for meeting people. I went back to do A levels in English, French & Art after my children started school and made some really good, lasting friendships, apart from enjoying the courses and qualifications.

I hope you can keep stretching yourself without too much burn-out and continue to extend your social horizons. I'm sure you'll agree that developing ties from friendship is usually a better basis for a lasting relationship than one where the alcohol scene is involved.

In the meantime, I hope you'll stay around and make some friends here ; it's a great place for staving off isolation, with no judgmentalism.

Hope to see you around............... Cat x

[Dynamite36 in reply to cat3]

Cat you sound a beautiful lovely women.when I spoke to my social worker about getting a dog they told me there’s people that can walk your dog for free if you suffer with some sort of disability why don’t you look into as I think you’d make a great mummy to some lucky dogs life. I got mine because she’s got something called Cherie eye which is hardly noticeable and I thought of the similarities in me in how people judge me with my walking stick. I agree college has been great for me as I’m really shine round people with my personality cracking jokes and making people smile and feel good about themselves

[cat3 in reply to Dynamite36]

Where ownership is concerned, I know how pets become utterly devoted to loving owners and, being older, I worry that if I pre-deceased it, it would be homeless once again.

I've always had cats in the past. My last moggy was a big, beautiful, black, bad boy with a white bib and paws. He was unwanted due to a ferocious temperament, but I adored him and taught him to trust me until he became my best friend and a feline version of a cuddly teddy bear.

He lived 'til he was 20 ; nearly broke my heart, so the thought of going through that again is another reason I'm ambivalent. You know the ad. with the ginger cat...........'Be more dog' ........ that was him ; he followed me to the shops and waited patiently to accompany me home.

I'm so glad to hear you're enjoying college Adam ; what's your subject ?

PS.......there seems to be a ghost in my machine. Every so often it shifts randomly from basic text into italics !

See you later ; night night................. x

[Dynamite36 in reply to cat3]

Night beautiful, sweetdreams, xx

[EffieGee in reply to cat3]

I worry about that with my 2 rescue pups so I contacted an organisation called the Cinammon Trust who will look after your animals if necessary, including temporary fostering if you're unwell etc. Worth looking at. Mine make my life, they're everything to me, even thought they're terrier terrors and rule the roost here!

[Dynamite36 in reply to cat3]

You don’t look that old in your picture to get a dog. It was a tough choice of what to do at college as I worked in the building trade and I not fit enough to do it which is a shame asi loved it the physical aspect and the crack with the lads so I need anewcareer so I put it in two category’s money or job satisfaction so I went for money which is in computers so I’m trying to do that first and have to do English to get in the course. I’m finding it hard as I was clever before my bleed and find myself looking at the work thinking this should be easy and why am I putting myself but I want to be successful

[EffieGee in reply to Dynamite36]

You can get help for dog walking etc through Borrow My Doggy!

[Saltness in reply to cat3]

Hello Cat I have just joined today and have been reading through at lot of posts. You will see that I am speaking for my son who suffered a severe bleed in 2012. We have had a hard 8 years and we are now trying to cope with a very unhappy, frustrated young man at 41. Who needs some serious motivation in his life in respect of 1. Hopefully a relationship, 2 Less support as he presently has 24/7 in his own tenancy. 3 also doing some of the things a 40 year old might do.We live in a very small community which does not have a lot of scope. We do have good Clinical support which we are presently pursuing virtually. Would be interested to know if you have come across anything similar with your time on here, or have any suggestions how we might further pursue this. His ability at present does not allow him to write like this without serious assistance. Probably he won’t recover much further but for a miracle!. Be glad of any views you might have.

[Towards_Healing in reply to Dynamite36]

Welcome Dynamite36. You are at the right place here. Looking forward to knowing you better. Good luck!

[Towards_Healing in reply to cat3]

Cat, I can very much relate to what you are sharing. I had brain bleed in 1999 after hitting my head on an opened airplane compartment. I got better over time, but had other substantial brain injuries since then. Like you, I do better when I spend time alone for the noises bother me. Yes, it gets lonely sometimes and I am thankful for the internet and the connections we can make here.

[Lyndaryan1]

Hi, I had a Subarchnoid just over 10 years ago & my memory was really bad. The first couple of years were really difficult but the one thing that worked for me better than any other Medication was Omega 3 Capsules - Just one a day & after about ten days the difference was HUGE!! I had watched a TV Documentary with Professor Winston about Memory Problems with children. He carried out the experiment on a class of young school children who he knew were clever but they never did well in exams. He proved the poor results were down to memory so he put these kids on Omega 3 for a few months & the results were amazing. The programme showed how electricity works in your brain & how Omega 3 really helps the electricity flow across any problem areas & the results were outstanding. My husband bought me some & honestly within 1-2 weeks my memory improved beyond belief!! I look back now & wonder how much difference I might have had without them. I was really lucky as I recovered fully over time then just as I was moving on with my life I got diagnosed with a Brain Aneurysm that I've had clipped recently so I'm back in recovery at the moment.

[keeley24]

Cat3 losing a pet is so upsetting I know but getting another can really help and way I see it is you have years and years of happiness with them compared to weeks or months of upset over losing them so the good outweighs the bad of course the bad comes last but still worth it.

I lost a dog in a car accident where I got BI he had just turned 5 a week before. He had been my 21st birthday present and was always with me. I’d had him from being 6 week old. I was in coma after the accident so the first thing I’m told on waking up (when I asked for him) was that he’d died. It was the worst news ever I was still not completely aware of stuff I remember thinking I hope this is a nightmare and not real. My mum tried her best to comfort me promising to get me another dog from being a pup. Right then honestly I couldn’t have cared less if I never had another dog nothing could make me feel better, but knowing I’d always had dogs I agreed. As time went on I wanted to get to stage where I was ready for another dog. It did tame time 2 month which may not seem long but the not having a dog upset me as all my life whenever my mum cut grass on front we had to shut back gate so the dog didn’t get out well now there was no reason to shut it which upset me. May sound daft but it was a reminder of what I’d lost.

So I was getting ready to getting another pup. My mum had said we would start looking in October. End of September I’d been out for hospital appointment got transport home to find my mum walk in the room carrying a pup. I had no idea she was up to something. She’d been to see some pups weeks before and told me she was going out with a mate, then picked the pup up while I’d been out. It was only then I was able to look at photos of my other dog without getting upset. I did wish his puppy stage over as I just wanted to know what habits and personality. I did wonder if I could ever love another dog as much as I loved the one I lost. The answer is yes I do love my current dog as much, also he means more to me cos my nan got him for me and she sadly died the year after. So ok I know at some point I have the heartbreak of losing another dog to go through again only this time could be harder, but it’s brought me 5 years happiness and still counting. I don’t think losing him will bring that amount of upset so will have been worth it.

[Dynamite36]

Dogs are so giving and always loving unconditional.when we lost our first dog I was devastated and didn’t go to work in that and got so much p*ss took out of me as I worked on on a building site my mum said she was going to get another straight away as she couldn’t stand the silence in the house so she got another which I loved just as much and took her straight in to my heart. Dogs don’t want for much just someone to love them and what you get back is so much they never see the bad in anything sense when your down and are always there for you no matter. If only everybody’s out look on life was the same the world would be a better place don’t want for much just love and a treat to brighten up there little face. I would advice anybody to get a dog