Hi All
I’ve posted on here before. We are 4 years post my husbands TBI. He made a great recovery and people who hadn’t met him before wouldn’t know he had a brain injury. It’s been a tough 4 years but we’ve got through it together. However in October 2015 my husband got made redundant and he’s still not working now. Not long after this we found out I was pregnant. We now have a beautiful boy who has recently turned 1. I’m just really struggling as my whole outlook on life changed when I became a Mum and a lot of things that didn’t bother me before with my husband I know find really hard work like how fussy he is with food and the fact he never wants to do anything. He’s got himself in such a rut and I honestly can’t see him getting out of it. He won’t accept any help either which makes it all the harder. I feel like I don’t have any more to give I’m so drained with it all. I want a better life for us both but I just can’t see any way out. My husband keeps saying he’ll get a job but never does anything about it. He was hoping to start his own business but he’s just putting too much pressure on himself & never gets it started. I totally understand his motivation is affected by his BI & I’m pretty sure he is depressed but I don’t know how to help him if he won’t help himself. The pressure on me is immense, financially and emotionally and I’m feeling really suffocated as he doesn’t go out even socially. I feel like I’m at the end of my rope with it all and I’m thinking being separated might be the best thing now but then I just feel so guilty as not sure how he’d cope on his own. He has no income at all for a start. Not sure what I wanted out of this post - anyone been in a similar position?
Hi I don't have any advice but I've had a stroke. It really does change your personality and spirit. Your kind of there but you're not. The depression is really hard. I can see that you can feel as if you're sinking. I think we need a lot of support. Which is tough when it's frustrating for your partner too. It's like why don't you do something? When you're in the biggest rut it's so difficult to get out.
Hope you can get some support and care. For yourself too x
Thanks for your reply spider555. I know it’s really hard for him too it’s just such a difficult situation. Take care x
If it helps...the shock can get stuck.. I've been pretty much paralysed from shock and trauma. It's getting out slowly but I bet it's worse for men. With the front and not being able to get your emotions out x