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Let's make some progress!

Problems are relative, whether you've lost your keys or you're starving in Africa, stuff that happens to you are measured on a scale of your previous experiences.

A guy says "Rain AGAIN! I swear to God if I can't go body boarding this week, I'M GOING TO FLIP OUT!", in that moment, the world is out to get him, and the world is a terrible place. But then something in his brain goes; "What are you on about?? Are you really whining about this??" and the guy slowly gets over it. While this is happening, someone else, in another part of the world, is just happy that the water they just drank only had one kind of parasite in it. We measure our life to a certain standard, and we certainly notice when it falls below it.

This is where we enter dangerous territory, we have a serious thing to be bothered about, and it's generally accepted that we're not going to be ok with it. But this means we don't have anything to pull us out of it, we have an excuse.

See if you can remember some things you were mad about before your injury, there must have been one occasion. I'm willing to bet they seem trivial now! But the point is that at the time, they seemed awful.

I don't know how far along you are in terms of when your brain injury was, but it's been 16 months since mine. I'm going to assume that my surgery is working, and I'm working extremely hard to get what I deserve; that being everything I used to have. I've been doing my degree, I've been running, I've been doing weights, and I'm continuing to learn the piano. I sleep like an absolute dream at 10pm and wake up at 8am, that kind of clockwork keeps me motivated and keeps me supplied for the next day.

The brain is a miracle, and is surprisingly capable of adapting and improving. We have to work for it though, it's tough luck, but that's the way it is. It's quite literally a case of use it or lose it.

We might feel like crap going out there and getting on with it, but we have to get our bodies to man up, so we can drag it out of the house and get on with the things we want to do.

DO YOU FEEL IT?? That, m'dear, is the feeling of progress.

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could you simplify this?


Sorry, I get a bit carried away sometimes...

Basically, everyone has problems, sick or not, and they're relative. I'm sure there were times before your injury that seemed terrible to you, and now they seem trivial.

But problems before were easy to pull out of because, in the grand scheme of things, you know it's ok. Now there's something horrible that's happened, it's fine to stay upset. That's trouble because then there's nothing to pull us out of it.

Then I just started talking about my progress.

There's a point in there somewhere, I didn't describe it very well, so sorry!


for me, before my acquired brain injury, I enjoyed good health, so did not comprehend how debilitating an illness is. I saw every obstacle as a challenge, The one thing that I focused on to pull me out of it, was the desire to get back as far as I could to either the person I once was, or a person I was happy to be; that has meant reinventing myself to some extent.


Great stuff, sounds like you're going for it, which isn't easy to do.


People have problems everywhere, ours are serious, therefore we have an excuse to feel that way, so then it's hard to progress.


Brilliant, love the reply sums it all up, know what BSA means though it's sometimes too difficult to try, my days vary wildly, just wish I could go running or to the gym, but I do my best and it's taken a long time to realise its ok to sit and do nothing sometimes[only 5 knitting projects on the go at the mo ] I'm frightened of wasting my precious time now, but the flesh is weak! Up and at 'em again a new day dawns, let's see what this one brings xx Janet


Oops, there was a point in there somewhere, looks a bit incoherent when I read it back!


i get your point, really, I thought the reply was a bit tongue in cheek, my sentiments entirely but you must know how hard it is to keep the upbeat approach going, I do it for the family sometimes when I just want to crawl away and lick my wounds, keeps me going though so its a good thing, keep up the blogs., I've restarted my diary, for early mornings when I can't sleep, gets all those hidden feelings out and on paper, very therapeutic, take care Love Janet x


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