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Boss says I'm not allowed to talk & have to look miserable in corner

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Said you're here to do the job in hand, no friendships can be formed under my roof..........who does she think she is, she's not even the head or the deputy. She's took her stress out on me & I've problems as it is. This is a real shame too, as I was in a really confident mood following the previous weekend & she spoils it. It's like she wants a bunch of robots; she even said "don't talk with anyone either", it isn't a happy work force: there's a few of us "they're happily chatting away"...whilst I'm sat on my own looking miserable; that's not good for a childcare setting.

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AnthonyMs profile image
AnthonyMs

Leave the job before things boil over, I don't know how you can tolerate it. You have my sympathy.

in reply toAnthonyMs

Nah, I'll cope...I've dealt with worse. Many thanks

leeleeleelee profile image
leeleeleelee

pepole that belive you should not interact with another person need to be reported to the head of department

tell her she a f!!!!!!!!!! dip s!!!! and to go and get f!!!!!!

if she reports you then you can have your say

good luck

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sospan

it is not uncommon I worked in an office like that many years ago. Myself and a colleague were called into a room by our line manager because apparently we were talking in the office. When we challenged them - what talking too loud, too often, inappropriately etc. No just talking about work. Apparently, if we needed to discuss a work problem we should arrange a meeting away from the desks.

We both left the next week.

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Mikesghost

I have worked in places that could have been great but management had so many petty rules that everyone was miserable most of the time. I eventually left but it took years for me to find another job. My advice would be to find another job first and then leave.

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Danslatete

Communication is the key to an efficient workplace. Camaraderie is also high on the list of a good healthy workplace.

Remind the 'lady' that time out is for the tots, and if she continues to act like one then she will be timed out like one.

I work in a primary school and there are lots of similar personalities and we can rub each other up sometimes, but because of openess and support and honesty aswell as friendship, we can say what we feel if someone is dominating or overbearing or rude. Sometimes they are not aware.

Maybe you could ask for a meeting with the depute and take a union rep (avail to you even if you are not in a union) as an independant advocate.

Keep a dairy of any incidents because if it does keep happening then it needs sorting.

Like children, behaviours seem to mirror worries/stressors a person is struggling with.

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SASSYIAM

SO CALLED BOSSES LIKE THIS BI**H MAKE ME LAFF OUT LOUD.IT IS SOOO OBVIOUS SHE HAS SOME SMALL SELF ISSUE BUT I AGREE WITH ALL OTHER COMMENTS ON HERE.I HAVE A MALE FRIEND WHO WOULDN'T HARM A FLEA.HE IS SOO LAID BACK IT IS UNREAL.HE HAS BEEN IN HIS FACTORY JOB FOR LIKE EVER.RECENTLY THE BOSS HIERACHY CHANGED.HE NOW HAS THIS UP HIS OWN BUM KINDA YOUNG WHIPPER SNAPPER CONSTANTLY BELITTLEING HIM.MY FRIEND IS NOW OFF WORK SIGNED BY HIS GP-STRESS RELATED.SO WHAT A FAB FORWARD THINKING BOSS-NOT.HIS WORKFORCE IS NOW 1 DOWN WITH OTHERS SET TO FOLLOW.THIS BOSS CONTINUALLY POINTS IN PEOPLES FACES,TELLS THEM THEY ARE RUBBISH.UNBELIEVABLE.I REALLY FEEL YOUR ANGER BUT SURELY THERE HAS TO BE A BETTER WAY THAN THROWING IN THE TOWEL WHICH SHE WILL LOVE THEN MOVE ON TO HER NEXT VICTIM.BEST OF LUCK WITH WHATEVER U DO.

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Taul-Zulloates

Hi Cheeki_Boy,

You need to be wary & courteous in dealing with this problem. Don't go running into a 'mine field' of rules of conduct, don't be aggressive or provocative, & always remember when saying anything about this to your workmates or your boss "how will this sound when reported to your boss's boss &/etc...", don't lose your temper! Be reasonable, be conciliatory, but arm yourself: get your boss to say the abusive, unreasonable, aggressive, or etc., in front others or record her when she is having one of these tantrums. Don't forget you will be fighting up hill - they will always tempted to believe your boss's side of the story - so any evidence (& you must bring evidence, as much as you can) that you bring to bear has got to look & sound as damming as possible, while leaving you looking & sounding as reasonable &/etc. Having said this, you must be sure that it is worth it: you might be taking on more than the job is worth to you, in which case 'Mikesghost's' advice might be sound for you?

First, check with your work mates &/or someone you can trust & discuss it with them. Or, if it is worth to you, might start by taking her aside and pointing out firmly (but not aggressively) to her the 'error of her ways', i.e., that she has no right to make those aggressive unreasonable, personal, & etc., remarks, & make sure she knows that it had an alarming & miserable affect upon you, but do not attempt to force her into a corner & be respectful. You might find she backs away, as do many bullies when confronted & made to understand you will not be intimidated? Only, when all this has been done & tried on multiple occasions without result would you go to your boss's boss (or your firm's way of dealing with disputes), & make sure you 'have kept your powder dry' & there's enough of it, stand back & let her 'blow herself out of the water'. Do it right & remember to duck when the 'shit hits the fan'. Having the last laugh is all ways the most delicious!

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fred57

I think your boss is after brownie points,try to ignore the hassle him/her are giving you,him/her see you as easy prey,be strong and keep your nose to the grim stone,dont give up,just let her/him blow then selfs out.And will annoy them so much when you show them you cant be beaten,and your here to see the job through.All the best for the future.

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