I have a dilemma...we have been invited to my husbands Daughters home for Xmas Lunch & Supper, this is something that has never happened before, so wanting to support my husband totally, we have accepted. I did however point out that I was not eating gluten or dairy for health reasons. (usual coeliac issues & amongst other things dreadful cough/wheezing which is much worse when these 2 groups eaten, so much so that at bad times my diaphram can go into painful spasms & I have difficulty breathing......let alone the diahorea!).
However, she has now e mailed me & told me that she has got lactose free cream cheese, butter, milk etc & GF bread mix.
This is fine, but with the dairy I don't know whether it's lactose or cassein I have an issue with & hence I don't eat any dairy products. At some point next year I was going to very gently try out some lactose free products but at a very controlled pace when I felt I was ready to do so & in tiny amounts.
I don't want to eat these products at Xmas, but how do I tell them that, after they have already been bought & they have been thoughtful enough to buy them in the first instance?
I know it will be a bad mix if I try them, as there will be champagne too & at times that can cause me problems, so the 2 together will be a double whammy!!!
I had already suggested that I bring some of my own stuff to mix in with her food etc, so she doesn't need to go to any trouble, but that was not accepted well!
Have other people had similar dilemmas & how on earth do you tell people without offending them & without wanting too much attention made of these issues???