I've run out steam...Today whilst thinking of Christmas this year, I actually caught myself rolling my eyes 🙄 5 minutes ago I had a sudden and brilliant plan. It's simple...(don't know if I can swear on here) f**k Christmas! This is the first year since finding out I have fibro , which was 2013, that I've actually just had no interest what's so ever. I have no interest in having the pain that comes with doing Christmas, I have pain every day and I'd like a minimal pain related Christmas this year. My Christmas gift to myself 🎁❤️ this my choice. Of course it's easier said than done for other people, I'm "lucky" that I don't have anyone in the UK that I have to deliver this wonderful news to. All my family members live abroad and what few friends in still have after the fibro diagnosis, are doing their own family Christmas thing...
Any ideas for taking my mind off being homesick and alone for the Christmas season?
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Go home sweetheart even if you need to borrow money. Life is too short. Your family would love to see you. I've lost a lot of friends and family mom and dad a brother ,sister. All I have left is my girls and partner and we enjoy Christmas we do what we can to have a happy one. Even though I have fibro and I hurt it was worth seeing them. It only comes once a year surely you can handle that. Your going to hurt if you go or stay home. So please go you won't forget you spent it with your family. Love susiejo1948
I'm. sorry I wish I could help you I'd do it in a minute flat. I hate it when people are alone for the holidays. When Christmas comes I'll text you and wish you a less pain and we can talk a little. So you know your not alone. Love susiejo1948
I’ve never liked Christmas, I even found it quite stressful as a child.
Best Christmasses I had were when I worked. I’d work from Christmas Eve evening through to Boxing Day, usually pretty peaceful
DVDs/ Netflix/ any online entertainment you can think of that you’d enjoy. Or plenty of reading material or music.
Buy yourself what you like to eat and drink, stay in bed when you want, get up when you want.
If you like things like face packs, painting your nails etc... take time to do that.
I’ve spent more Christmasses on my own than with family and that way there are no arguments, no guilt or tears over burnt food and no screaming kids.
Most communities do charity meals, you should ask around and see if there is one local to you. Then you will get to share a meal and conversation with somebody, get a nice meal and feel the happy atmosphere x
2 years ago my children were with their dad over Christmas and it was horrible. I just did whatever go me through the days...if I remember it involved sleeping, food and not making any effort at all...and feeling quite miserable and sorry for myself...Then I picked myself back up..sometimes a wallow is good I reckon!
Be kind to yourself. Do what is right for you. Just don’t make an effort...we spend our lives doing that with this condition!
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Sarah
I do this. I put up my tree as I’m home a lot like the lights. I buy myself a tiny something as I’m broke. I make myself night before a delicious huge cream cheese dip. I buy myself Xmas cookies I like & have marshmallows hot chocolate with baileys a few times. I have fresh fruit I go to the library beforehand pick up some dvds incase I’ve watched a lot of Xmas movies. I get Xmas dinner from a restaurant day before put it in my fridge for Xmas day whatever I fancy. I go for a walk with my baileys and coffee around my place or nearby forest taking pictures with my phone I blow off Xmas other than calling my parents & text my sisters best friend. If you can’t see your family and really want to blow it off don’t feel guilty it’s fine it’s done me good a few times to skip and eat my face off whatever I like. I love dip!! Or make yourself a great pancake breakfast just snuggle up and enjoy tv and reading music. I like to be with my parents but they’re far away and I’m 50 they’re older. They appreciate everything and don’t go nuts on presents it’s family. I realize the broker I became it’s nice to get stuff give stuff but even lotion awesome it’s the food and family I like now & tree. I don’t like the commercialism it’s amped up so much and lots of people get so depressed for good reason. So if you need a year out and you won’t get depressed ... you go for it.
Treat yourself to your favourite luxury meal pre prepared pick A film
To watch make your yourself cosy and comfortable refrain from social media ! You dint want to see what others are doing that day and keep in touch with others on here x
Lots of good advice. Think I might just be the two of us for Xmas this year as two daughters are at outs, and although we have had great Xmas's in the past, mainly with them all coming to me/us, they now want to spend it with 'their own families'. I did have them here on Xmas day evening last year, but am reluctant to do it again this year. I did propose taking them all out for a 'party evening' between Xmas and new year, but so far have had no response. This all seems to have happened after my health problems escalated and DH was diagnosed with dementia and had accident so isn't very mobile. I am trying not to feel bitter or angry and agree with above, to put a positive slant on things, at least it will be quiet, we can pick what to watch on the tele, and can go to bed when you want. My advice to you would be to plan your day, in advance, so it will be a bit special. What time you will have your lunch, select tv viewing, go for a walk if weather ok, have a nice soak in bath, listen to music. Anything that will make you feel a bit pampered and special that you wouldn't do on an ordinary day. Will be thinking of you . Best wishes. xx
I,m not a lover of Christmas,it has lost its meaning ,I don't think it was ever meant to be spend and create debt time of year. I would just surround yourself with nice music, DVD,s if you can,its only one day really
I understand completely this fibromyalgia is getting harder and harder to deal with let alone keeping up with everything else it's sad really 😞 but it's our reality and when you do go no one understands what your going through even if you tell them so you end up wishing you were back home relaxing so I get it
You might be so relieved at not "doing Christmas" that this year you might actually enjoy it. Just buy yourself some treats that you might not already have, if you are a reader treat yourself to some new books to read over the festive season, same if you are a film lover. Then cuddle up nice and warm and immerse yourself in them.
I used to quite like Christmas but had so many family illnesses and deaths around that time or my husband and I have both been ill that I have given up celebrating as such and we just have a nice meal and a glass of champers but I have done away with starter, pudding etc. I let him watch any Xmas shows he wants and I immerse myself in a book I have set aside for just that purpose. My health has been much better for it rather than me trying to make the day very special and being so exhausted I couldn't enjoy it. Hope you find some way of having a good time but in your own way.x
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