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Hi Iv been diagnosed with fibromyalgia and been on LTS . My place of work have been supportive in that they have given me 10months absence leave. But it’s near the time to decide if I can return . I’m saddened to think after 21 years service I truly feel my health won’t let me cope with going back. I have a week to decide my future with the company. Either dismissal due to incapabilities to do a job or early retirement due to ill health. I’m 56 and feel so sad and it’s so soul destroying as fibromyalgia is a dreadful condition and makes me feel punished , and loosing my independence is so hard to accept .

[Bobbassett]

Hi Pinkissmo,

As tough as it is, you need to listen to your body, be truthful with yourself and accept what it is telling you.

Acceptance is probably the most difficult aspect of developing a chronic condition as it is a two-headed beast: accepting the physical and mental challenges and perhaps more so, the limitations and lifestyle changes it brings.

I struggled way beyond by trying to keep on working on an empty tank.

Inevitably I hit the wall and it wasn’t good!

Pushing too hard made any chance of improvement harder and longer.

I hope you have love and support around you to help. You will certainly get unconditional support from this forum.

Take care

Jan xx

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Thankyou for ur kind words and yes a bit of a reality check. My health must come first . I just don’t want to loose any of my rights having to give my job up after 21yrs. They appear to think I can just leave on capability’s or early retirement due to ill health . Not much support really .

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Hi

I really feel for you. I had to take ill health retirement last year due to my many conditions. My boss was and still is very supportive. I'm lucky to have a great support network and everyone on here too. I was lucky to receive a fairly good pension and also got pip. Take care Lynne

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Aw that’s so nice to hear. I’m completely lost with it all Iv been absent 10 months and still not had much luck in finding a bit of help to settle things down so I can return to work. But I believe it takes time and I’m in shock that my place of work have treated me so badly after 21 yrs service. I simply can’t volunteer to just leave n to be told to make my mind up in a wk I believe is wrong. I can keep puttin in a sick note I’m not going to be bullied into walking away with nothing . New structure to the company has left it on its knees . 😩

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Very pleasing to hear! I feel let down by a large company that have now seriously lost the plot xx

[Bobbassett in reply to Hidden]

Morning hon.

Perhaps you should take a trip to the CAB unless you’re in some sort of union?

Whatever new structure is in place, legal rights will stand.

Unfortunately, I was self employed, so my income just stopped.

Good luck and don’t let them bully you.

If they do, you could sue for unfair dismissal?

I’m sure you don’t need that kind of stress, so hopefully you’ll be granted your rights without hassle.

Take care

Jan xx

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Thankyou for ur support and tbh the work place are making me worse with stress n anxiety because they are tryin to push me out the door volunteering ! I was only diagnosed in Feb and have taken all sick notes in so I shall continue to do so in the hope I either find a miracle or they compromise a pay off . I’m so tense with it all n can’t wait to see my GP on Monday x

[Bobbassett in reply to Hidden]

Best of luck. The fibro fighters are with you xx

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Hi

I wish you all the very best for Monday. Please let us know how you get on, work have no right to treat you like that. Please take care Lynne