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Hi all happy new year!!

OMG what have I done? I have given up my job just could not do it anymore so tired and in pain everything is such an effort.

I have had so much time off over the last few months Christmas was bad for me spent most of the time in bed.

So decided I could not do it any more and resigned!! Now I am panicking what am I going to do for money!!

Has anyone got any advice or done this too? I know it is my own stupid fault but just could not carry on!!

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VonnyM

Get in touch with your doctor, then the dwp. Go to the disability advocate and ask fer help and support, never go to any jobcentre interviews on your own, the same goes for dwp assessments

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rosewine

My doctor wanted me to give in my notice as he knew there would be little hope of me returning to my job and then h said it might be better for any benefits you decide to apply for to wait until they dismiss you. I can fully understand you giving in your notice though as when I tried to go back to work half way through my sick leave and last barely a day I wish I had just jacked it in. I kept on n the hope that some miracle would happen as I adored my job and unfortunately my OH had been finished on health grounds a year before so our income had been severely curtailed.

You must go and get a note from you doctor to say you are unfit for work and VonnyM is givng good advice about getting the advocate on your side. Mind you when I saw th disability officer at the Job Centre he said he could not envisage me being fit for work again yet when I had my second ESA assessment they ignored his opinion.

What you need to do now is to stay calm and concentrate on getting the right treatment and meds in order to minmise your fatigue and pain as it is much easier to think straight when your body is easier.

Do let us know how you get on.z

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Scottish-piglet

If you are still on good terms with your employer ask them for a letter saying you had to resign for health reasons, I got this and didn't have too much hassle claiming benefits. That was just over a year ago and yes I miss work but health must come first. Good luck xx

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Dawn_mum

Thank you all for your kind words

I will let you know what happens xx

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BlueMermaid3

Hi Dawn mum

You've been given some great advice already, but I was wondering whether a trip to the CAB might be a good idea? They are extremely clued up on benefits and will know when and what you can apply for.

Another thought was maybe to start a pain diary. It could come in useful for several things further down the line.

Finally, but most importantly, please stop beating yourself up. Being in severe pain is not your fault. You made the best decision you could at the time.

Keep popping in to see us. You'll get loads of good help and advice from everyone and we'll do our best to keep you cheerful 😊

Keep your chin up.

Lu xx

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TheAuthor

I am so genuinely sorry to read that you have needed to stop working, and I want to genuinely wish you all the best of luck. I think the other respondents have hit it on the head as the best course of action is to get a note from your doctor.

FMA UK also have a benefit helpline that you may find useful. I have pasted you the link below:

fmauk.org/contactsmenu/help...

All my hopes and dreams for you

Ken

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Dawn_mum in reply toTheAuthor

Thank you ken😊

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denvajade

No advice as I live in Australia but I know what you mean, I went part time hoping that would help but in the end just had to give up, the pain and exhaustion was too much, also in the end I felt I could not do my job properly. I wish you well.

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Fluffybunny80

You need to ring DWP to claim ESA.

You left due to health reasons and I did the same. I'm on my husbands ESA claim but I could have claimed it in my own right but only per household can claim income related benefits.

Did you put your notice in writing? As I forwarded my resignation email which stated I wouldn't be returning due to ill health. I'd also just had a baby which made my health deteriorate a lot.

Good luck and let us know how you get on xx

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