Too good to be true :(

[scotchegg]

Well it was a fun 4 weeks after miraculously falling pregnant naturally for the first time ever, but my anxieties have been realised and I'm losing the pregnancy

Had a spot of pink blood on Friday night which sent me into a panic. Then nothing until yesterday (Saturday) lunchtime when there was more, and red. I called the EPU who were closed but redirected me to the women's health suite. They booked me in for a scan on Monday morning and said to attend A&E if I started to soak through more than one pad an hour.

I soon realised I wasn't going to make it as far as the scan as for the rest of the day and all night I've been passing a lot of blood. Not enough for A&E, and I'm going to try and manage this at home if I can.

I feel deflated both physically and emotionally. 2nd pregnancy, 2nd loss (this time I was 8 weeks, last time I got to 12). 2 failed transfers and 1 possible brief chemical. I really think my husband and I are making unviable embryos but I know I won't get anything tested again this time and I know that I'd have to suffer this again if we were to be investigated for multiple miscarriages.

If anyone has any advice I'd be happy to receive it, otherwise just sharing with some people who will understand

It was so wonderful having that hope, and now once again, it's been torn away and we're back to the beginning.

[Endofitall]

I am so sorry for what you are going through. Please still attend your scan. And if you have pain or feel unwell go to A&E. I had bleeding and it was an ectopic pregnancy so it’s really important to rule that out.

If this is your third loss with one at 12 weeks, even with the third being very early/biochemical, you should still qualify for recurrent miscarriage clinic referral. Or seek help privately if you can if your local CCG have awkward rules.

Sending hugs. Have you listened to or read the worst girl gang ever books and podcasts ? I found this really helpful. Xx

[BenjitheG]

I am so sorry you’re going through this. Sending a huge hug. It’s so so hard when you glimpse hope and then it’s ripped away from you.

Be kind to yourself and how your feeling at this time.

Have you looked on the Tommys website as they have information and support for multiple miscarriages.

I second listening to the Worst Girl Gang Ever as a great source of miscarriage support. Xx

[CyclingAddict]

Please go to the scan and take it easy! I had spotting followed by a huge red bleed between 5-6 weeks (I honestly thought I'd weed myself, it was that heavy). It was bad and I was sure I'd lost it. I went to a scan and the baby was still there. I continued to bleed for another week and had to use heavy duty period pads. That baby is now a 5 month old bouncing boy. Definitely attend your scan. I'll be thinking of you x

[GranolaHippo]

I am so, so sorry. There aren't words.

Just to say, as Endofitall has, chemicals count but, also, you can be referred after 2 losses, depending on where you are. Check out the Tommy's website, when you're ready. You just need your GP to refer you and if you go to Coventry/Warwick, you have all your tests locally to you, and appts are over the phone.

Worth still going to EPU, to check what is going on and, if all as you suspect, that it is complete. I know other is hard to fathom just now, but your health matters too.

Take really good care of you.xx

[Mischie93]

i am so sorry to hear this. Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone in this. Keep fighting!💪🏻

There are times that i felt hopeless, me and my husband have an issue too, but i realised it’s better to just go with the flow of life. Less stress and less anxiety. But of course your feelings are valid, hope you will find comfort soon! Hugs 🫂

[nat55zt]

Sending you a big hug! Sorry you are going through this. But please go to the scan. Your health is important and this could be an ectopic pregnancy. Also it might not be over. I went through both scenarios. First time bleeding was miscarriage and the other two times it was “only” hematoma.

[Booda21]

Oh I am so sorry for what you are going through. Life can be so cruel. Sending you so much love and a huge virtual hug. I really hope you get some help/answers to move forwards. But yes maybe go to your scan today if you can manage it, they might offer you some help. So sorry again 🤍🤍🤍

[scotchegg]

Hi everyone and thanks for all your kind words.

With the amount of blood lost this weekend and accompanying pain, I knew I had lost the pregnancy but of course needed to have the scan for confirmation and advice.

I attended my scan this morning and they confirmed there is no sign of a pregnancy in the uterus and nothing visible in my tubes either. I had a blood test for HCG levels which needs repeating in 48 hours' time to check levels are coming down (they are currently still over 3000).

They also said my progesterone levels were low, so if I fall pregnant again naturally in the future they would offer me an early scan and look to prescribe me pessaries. I'm a bit concerned the opportunity to do that this time was missed as I made my GP and booking midwife aware of my past history. But maybe they would think 1 previous MC is unlucky and I wouldn't qualify for progesterone support based off that.

Fortunately, the pain and bleeding are getting better although being poked about with a TV uss hasn't exactly helped! And most fortunately they're pretty happy at this stage I'm passing everything naturally and don't need surgical intervention, as I found that pretty horrendous last time.

All I can do now is rest and wait, and hang on to the ray of light that if we conceived naturally once, it can happen again.

Love to all you warriors xx

[Elmo13 in reply to scotchegg]

Hi, just wanted to say I’m so sorry to hear this. It’s a really tough place to be and I just hope you can rest and try and process it all and then plan your next move.

If you haven’t already, definitely push your GP to refer you for recurrent miscarriage testing. As others have said above, chemicals count too if so you would fit the criteria for referral (unfortunately).

I had a bunch of testing done after my 2nd miscarriage and still testing a few things now as I’m terrified of another transfer since last 2 were a missed miscarriage and then a very painful spontaneous one consecutively.

Focus on yourself right now in whatever form that may be- watch some TV, eat food that you want and try and switch off for a bit.

Wishing you lots of strength. Xx

[CyclingAddict in reply to scotchegg]

I'm so sorry. I wanted to check back in and was really hoping it would be good news. Sending you a huge virtual hug x

[Freeway24]

I am so sorry to hear of your loss and everything your going through. I know how devastating it feels. Rest up and be kind to yourself. I am sending you a huge virtual hug. Take care xx

[Doodlebug23]

So sorry to read your post x

[nat55zt]

I am so sorry! I kept coming back to this post to see if there is an update. I was really keeping my fingers crossed for a different outcome. I wish you all the strength to go through this and I really hope your next pregnancy happens soon and gives you a beautiful baby. I am sure that your angel baby will look after you from afar.