Dearest all,
Whilst I am fully aware that having unused embryos is an extremely fortunate position (my first round I had no embryos to transfer), I am seeking your advice on a complex, perhaps moral dilemma.
I feel I am at the end of my journey after six egg collections, but I have two unused embryos. I went through hell to get them and even ended up in hospital with OHSS to get the last embryo.
There are three possible options:
1) transfer them and go through the trauma of IVF again and worry in case they both worked (how I would cope financially), or the grief of miscarriage again if it didn’t work.
2) donate them (but I still feel so emotionally attached to them) - has anyone used a donated embryo and had contact with the donor if successful?
3) discard them or give them to science - whilst I would love to contribute to advancing treatment, I see those embryos as potential children and I could never destroy them, it would feel like I killed them!
Does anyone have any thoughts? I know it’s extremely personal, but I would love to hear what people think and their perspectives. How do you view your embryos? As cells? Babies? Thank you x