Test Day: Post FET *Update: Result*

[SushiTilly]

Hello Everyone

For all those who’ve seen my post and story, I’m on Donor Egg journey after three failed egg retrieval journey. It is my fourth DE FET. Today is blood test day, it will be postal one so I won’t find out results until Saturday or possibly Monday. Home test kit came yesterday when I went into work so I’m waiting for it still. I asked my DH if I should get otc urine test, and he advised we wait for blood test results. I know my clinic abroad would like to know today.

So what is my question? Women in this community have been here, the dreaded 2ww, with symptoms and no symptoms. Today is D Day. What can you advise me for the best mindset and approach to take on test day? If I can give myself some pet talk what do I say to myself?

I think this day can be anxious where hopes and dreams are made or broken. I’ve only had failed cycles and this time round I’ve kept level head. I’ve read happy stories and sad stories most days in this 2ww.

I had to spend yesterday in the office listening to work colleagues talk about their pregnancy to be fair they had difficult road to getting pregnant as well so I did not feel any jealously or frustration. I can only imagine if I get hard outcome that I’ll feel sense of dread seeing them again.

this year I decided I want to step into the light, I’m tired of feeling like sub standards human being full of bad luck and negative narrative. Also I’m not full or positive sunshine. Maybe I am just okay, and grateful that I had chance to try but this morning I did pray and try to visualise having a family.

This morning my dog decided to sleep on my knee to be near me rather than on her bed. Reminds me I have my fur baby. Xx

**Update: Negative HcB reading at 3.1**

[JA-fnuk Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hope you get some replies to your post that are helpful and supportive Also wanted to wish you good luck and take care of yourself

Thinking of you

Janet-Partner

[Angelikid88]

best of luck to you! i would say test early but do not get disappointed if you don't see the second line. Say to yourself than nothings ends here, no matter the result. Stay strong

[SushiTilly in reply to Angelikid88]

Thank you, I know it will be hard to take in the news and staying sane and strong will be required from myself. Nothing ends here is a true sentiment.

[Angelikid88 in reply to SushiTilly]

let us know what happens over there

[SushiTilly in reply to Angelikid88]

Waiting for results even my clinic is chasing me. I almost don’t want to know…I’m going to keep praying with all my effort. Xx

[SushiTilly in reply to Angelikid88]

Got results today for first time in 4th transfer I got 3.1 HcG reading, it’s very low but negative. I can’t even process what this means. It was last DE transfer with no other Frosties. Appointment with clinic on Tuesday. Heartbreaking, I did go into it open to something positive and keep open mind. 💔

[Angelikid88 in reply to SushiTilly]

I am so sorry SushiTilly

I hope you will recover fast and you will find the best way to move forward. I know you are strong

Thinking of you

[SushiTilly in reply to Angelikid88]

Thank you. My body is crashing coming of the medicine. In part makes me feel down. Got follow up clinic meeting on Tuesday and considering change of clinic. I really thought this de route could work. It’s been so long and tough. Feel floored, no embyro left back to zero.

[Angelikid88 in reply to SushiTilly]

hello there, just wanted to check on you see if you are feeling better

[Sunshine809]

I really hope it's good news for you! 🤞 It sounds like you've already got a good attitude - hopeful but realistic.

I think there's no harm in doing a urine test today give you an indication, but it depends if that would make you feel better or worse. Personally I prefer to live in hope until i get a definite yes or no, unless I have a big work event or something right after I get the official results, so i want time in advance to start to come to terms with the probable result before I get it confirmed 'officially'.

I think it's good to plan something fun, maybe for next weekend. Have a day out or a nice dinner. Something to look forward to if it's bad news. The last time we got a negative we went for a champagne bruch at Cote. It was nice to treat myself and I enjoyed being with my husband, feeling sad together but trying to have a bit of fun and move forward.

I try to focus on all the good things in my life - husband, pets, family, friends, my lovely house etc. And I also like to start planning what we are going to do next....once I've had a couple of days to let the bad news sink in.

Hopefully this is your time though 🍀✨️ xx

[SushiTilly in reply to Sunshine809]

Thank you, I’m living in hope. I decided against the urine test because I know money spent on the blood test is what clinic wants to see. Also I’m doing some solid academic essay this weekend so I can do focus time. Of course in back of my head the results will be sitting in the lab and I’ll get it either Saturday or Monday.

You are right about making plans. We have anniversary coming up in Feb, but I like the idea of champagne brunch.

Thank you. I’ll pray and hope it’s my lucky one. I really appreciate you taking the time to write to my post. It means a lot to have women who can understand this anguish.

❤️

[Sunshine809 in reply to SushiTilly]

Good idea - it would be really hard to focus on your essay if you had a urine result but you didn't know if it was accurate or not!

Hopefully it's good news for you! 💗

[SushiTilly in reply to Sunshine809]

I have to say essay is good distraction if I can complete it by Sunday before looking at any results at least I got one thing over the line. I’m not sure if I’ll get results tomorrow or Monday either way I have consultation with clinic set up Tuesday to discuss the outcome. I’m being a complete chicken and hiding from results day. 🤯😶‍🌫️

[SushiTilly in reply to Sunshine809]

Sadly not my time this time, a HcG of 3.1 is best we’ve ever seen and wonder if little embryo tried to attach…hard to know which way next…speaking to clinic in Tuesday 💔

[Sunshine809 in reply to SushiTilly]

Oh no, I'm so sorry 😔 I know exactly how you feel - we're using donor eggs and I thought it would just 'work'. It's devastating and hard to comprehend when it doesn't. So disappointing. It does sound like it started to attach so at least you have a bit of extra information to use if you want to move forward.

Thinking of you 🩷

[Believers]

This is hard. I had 8 transfers in total. Sone test days I went into ‘knowing’ it hadn’t worked so almost making peace with receiving bad news and some I went into really positively which also failed. My successful transfer I had done a urine test which was negative so turned into a blubbering mess when the clinic called with my hcg results. The outcome is out of your control now somewhat. You’ve done all you can and take pride in that. X

[SushiTilly in reply to Believers]

Thank you Believers - that has really helped me to settle my anxious emotions. I think learning to take pride in what I have achieved and done to sacrifice my body to conceive is important. Totally out of hands of humanity, down to Mother Nature. In the end nature decides more than science. Xx I should get the results in the coming days. 🙏🙏🙏

[SushiTilly in reply to Believers]

Sadly negative results today. A fourth failed attempt. So sad, but tears has not hit me yet.

[Believers in reply to SushiTilly]

So sad to read this. Thinking of you 😢

[Millbanks in reply to SushiTilly]

I'm so sorry lovely - it's crushing. I hope you have lots of support around you. Sending love xx

[Moshine13]

I would definitely test... that is what I did in all my transfers. If your test day is today then that means that urine test should be positive.Wishing you all the very best, sending love ❤️

[SushiTilly in reply to Moshine13]

Yes, I might do it tomorrow if I don’t get results today. Now two days past test day. My abdomen feels tense. 😬

[Moshine13 in reply to SushiTilly]

Wishing you all the best ❤️

[SushiTilly in reply to Moshine13]

Thanks, I just got negative result. 3.1 HcG, I said to the clinic it seems on bloods alone it tried to implant. Hard to comprehend these outcomes. I spent whole year on treatment at implantation failure clinic. Hard to know what to do next. I’ve never had 3.1 result before. 💔

[Moshine13 in reply to SushiTilly]

I am so sorry 😞 my heart break for you...I know how you feel, I had 2 failed transfers and the 2nd I had he lightest line...it disappeared the day after. My doctor told me that the embryo tried to implant but that it just didn't, that probably had some chromosomal abnormally. I thought it would just never be me....the last FET, the doctor told me to have probiotic from a month before ( not sure if it was this or just pure luck) this time, I had a positive and I am currently 17 weeks ❤️This journey is a fucking horrific one, full of heartbreak. I am telling you my history in the hope that helps and give you some hope in this very horrific time.

Sending you all my love xxx

[Doodlebug23]

positivity, positivity positivity!

[SushiTilly in reply to Doodlebug23]

I’m visualising and praying. 🙏

[SushiTilly in reply to Doodlebug23]

Doodlebug23 - I did turn my mindset to sunnier direction but sadly 3.1 HcG reading, meaning negative outcome. It’s my fourth try, no more DE waiting for us. We never had 4.1 HcG before always 0.5. Hard to process these feelings. Now dilemma to switch clinics or stay or what. Strangely not cried yet, even this morning I was gunning and daring for something better this time around. 💔

[Doodlebug23 in reply to SushiTilly]

So sorry 😢

[Dotty0483]

Hi I just wanted to wish you the best of luck and lots of baby dust. I had a long journey getting pregnant myself, but currently I am nursing my 4-week-old daughter. Don't give up hope! Even when you don't get the outcome you want, just keep trying. I had a miscarriage and two failed IVF cycles and when I decided to live my life to the fullest, I spontaneously became pregnant last May, so life can take an unexpected turn. Your turn is coming soon! xx

[SushiTilly in reply to Dotty0483]

Oh wow that is amazing. I’ve not experienced a miracle so my brain can’t even comprehend it for myself but I’d love to experience that joy. I’ve got real life friends with sad outcomes and I’m really hoping to make my journey different. 🙏

[Kitkat10]

Wishing you good luck, you will get there 🩷🩷. I remember how draining it was on my soul and positivity at the time of BFNs but your success will come, try and keep faith that DE have much higher chances of working compared to not working.

I just tried to remember that and I was very blessed with my double donor daughter 7 months ago. She completed my life after what felt like an emotionally traumatic time of fertility treatment even though I had a relatively ‘easy’ time compared to many. It really took its toll but most of that is now forgotten. I can clearly remember how hard the 2ww is but this could definitely be your time and just try and keep a determined mindset. Wishing you luck and success xx 🍀🍀 you are doing brilliantly, just hang in there xx

[SushiTilly in reply to Kitkat10]

Thanks for your kind message it means a lot to me. I don’t know people in my life who can give this level of emotional support. Congratulations on experiencing this complete feeling in life. Having family would be wonderful for us as we’re such loving people and our dog is our furry companion so she’s getting loads of love. Still waiting for the results and barely any signs of what’s going on the inside. 😶‍🌫️

[SushiTilly in reply to SushiTilly]

Sad news DE didn’t work, we are wondering if we should go double donor or keep trying de either way we had no Donor Egg embryo to try. So back to square one. 💔