shared experiences needed to help me make an informed decision

[Miaow1975]

Hi there after 4 failed cycles and my last one ending in an ectopic pregnancy I’m seeking some guidance and reassurance about whether to try one last time this year. I will be 50 in July and am feeling anxious about being pregnant and a mum at 50/51 and would like to hear any experiences of mums of a similar age with successful pregnancies between 50 and 51 and how it was for you. I’m trying to weigh up whether to give it one last try or whether to go straight down the adoption route which I know can also take 2-3 years so am trying to weigh up the pros and cons and would be grateful if you lovely ladies can share your stories to help me out. Thanks in advance xx

[Minichedda82]

I dont have experience of this but my suggestion would be get cracking with the adoption while you're making your decision. You have to be clear in your mind where to draw the line x

[Greenleaves1 in reply to Minichedda82]

This! I've had to draw a line in my head of how much of the process I can take.

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi. So sorry to hear about the ectopic pregnancy and hope you had plenty of support ar rhe rime. Back to basics I’m afraid, is your other tube ok, as you don’t want any excess lubrication from a blocked tube preventing a developing embryo from implanting. A hysteroscopy to check out womb and biopsy the lining , then if all good to go either with yout own eggs or a donor. Timescale important so need to get a move on, so you can still jump on the adoption route if needed. All sounds very bossy, but I am not intending to upset you. I really wish you well and will be thinking of you. Diane

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[Londonlady2024]

Just want to wish you luck, give it one last shot. I had my baby 4 weeks before my 44th birthday if that helps - using my owns eggs.

[Boo718]

the adoption process is so long I’d get on that band wagon asap. Then you can have a think. We got accepted for adoption when we had one left so we said if this doesn’t work we will adopt .. it worked. But the process was very long xxx