bfn second transfer, 💔

[Babyluck95]

Hi I've posted a lot here, as it says really I've just tested 7 dpt and it's a clear negative, really had high hopes as my first transfer was positive and I had a positive test at 7dpt but I had a missed mc at 7 weeks 3 days that was around 2 months ago, that was our last embryo for this cycle, just don't know how I'm feeling right now just honestly don't want to be in this world sometimes😭 is 7dpt to early this time round or should I just accept the fact I'm still going to be childless.

[Mercury363]

7 days is still very early. When is your otd? I got my bfps early when I tested and my first and third turned into chemicals and seeing that stark white is never a good thing during the tww. Try holding off until day 10 or you otd if you can. I do test early myself so I understand the urge but it drove me crazy on the last one.

Lots of ladies on here will tell you 7 dp is still early and you should wait a bit longer bit try to keep yourself amused in the meantime. This is a cruel game we play xx

[Babyluck95 in reply to Mercury363]

Mercury363 hi, My offical test date isn't until the 15th, I will definitely have to take a test then anyway so we will see, my clinic rang me today as they do after a week hads passed to check in on how your feeling and it was so hard to pretend to sound positive, even though everyone says it's early you still can't help but think it's just over this time, thank you for your reply x

[Positivechangeplease]

it’s always a bit of an issue when you test early - 7 days is super early. I think my test day was 11 past and testing early is such a brain mess I waited. I don’t think the jury is out until day 9 or 10

[JA-fnuk Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

As previous posts say bit early to test Hard to do but please wait till OTD before retesting Meantime eat a healthy diet - drink plenty of fluids - rest when you can Try to keep yourself busy - go for walks - read a book Continue to take any meds you were given as directed

Take care

Janet-Partner

[MrsOrangejuice]

It's still early, don't give up hope. Also no you don't have to accept that you're going to be childless now or at all, unless you want to. You got pregnant once - that's massive. There are many on here - me included - that thought that was an impossibility. If it happened once and developed as long as it did, you, your genes and your body have overcome so many hurdles and ruled out so many possible and maybe insurmountable conditions and complications. You won't feel like it but that's a good thing and increases the odds of it working eventually. I had two early losses after transfers and felt totally hopeless so I know but my consultant said even if it's unexplained infertility, age not a factor and everything's 'perfect' the odds are only 1 in 3 will implant and that's the same as natural conception. That's just nature being cruel. And we have already had enough cruelty from nature to be going through all this in the first place so that's hard to swallow. But next transfer was my just turned 2 yo. Then I had another round to try for a sibling and ironically bank - one egg, one PUL and surgery at 10 weeks. Then a BFN. Then a natural conception out of nowhere and she's 3mnths. So I beat the best odds in a way as I got implantation 4 out of 5 transfers and instead of seeing the losses as meaning that I had less chance of having children now I try and see them as actually meaning the opposite. So I know the pain of your first loss and if this is a BFN, that too, but you are in a much better position than so many women that you, especially, don't need to accept anything. I really hope this one works out but if it doesn't and when you're a bit stronger, regroup and see if it helps to reframe things as this journey is hard enough without going straight to the worst possible case. Give your body a bit more of a chance and you have just as good odds of getting there as anyone else.

[Babyluck95]

Thank you for all your positive comments 🙏 I know there are ladies on here that have been through much worse and more and also some of you commenting have to but its just so bloody hard, I think it just makes it worse because I'm thinking of last time when it was a faint positive 2 month ago at this stage so makes me feel like if I was pregnant why would it not be faint now, but I'm definitely going to do another test on the 15th and just deal with the outcome, I've shed so many tears today already and it's only nearly 4pm! I really appreciate the replies x

[Slm123-]

I know how devastating this is for you right now but hang on in there. It’s still early and it could change by the 15th. The worst thing you can do is compare as each time is so different so try not to let your mind trick you into believing things should be a certain way at a certain time. This is a journey and you’re a lot stronger than you know. Give yourself time. I really hope it works out for you, if not now, in the near future. You’ve got this xxx

[Ttc-39yo]

Was the embryo PGS tested?

[Babyluck95 in reply to Ttc-39yo]

Ttc-39yo no it wasn't but I will definitely be looking to do that next time if it's another fail x

[Twiglet2]

I’m so sorry you are feeling so down I can hear the pain in you post and I’m sending you a big hug 💔if I’m honest with you I’ve never had it change from the result at 7/8dpt but I do personally know people it has changed for by day 10 with a stark negative up to day8! it also depends what test you used and time of day as well.

They don’t tell you this going into IVF but 2 transfers for a lot of women is still very early to be getting a positive and losing hope that it won’t work as for many it takes quite a few more transfer. It can take quite a few transfers to get pregnant and stick even with IVF and all the modern wonders of science there is still a lot of guesswork and luck! For us it took our 4th embryo to bring us our litle boy and now trying for a sibling we are on embryo number 14 transfer number 9. It doesn’t make each BFN or early loss any easier knowing it but it is quite normal and doesn’t mean we won’t get success eventually of course but does help me prepare my mind a little better as they really don’t explain this during treatment and everyone is always so positive you can get caught up in the only planning for success and then a massive emotional drop on test day 😢 thinking of you and hoping it does turn around for you but I promise you it’s okay if it doesn’t and just take each day as it comes xx

[Babyluck95 in reply to Twiglet2]

Twiglet2 oh my word you really have gone through the ringer, I honestly do feel a bit more positive today because even though we have to wait a bit longer for our miracle the main thing is we did get pregnant which we were so lucky in the first place for it to be our first transfer, so I do know in my hearts to heart it will happen again like you said it just might take a few more tries, also were opting for the 2 cycle package so statistically at least one of them has got to work I really hope! 🤞 I wish you all the best in your next transfer and I hope you can bring your son a sibling home! Thank you 😊

[Twiglet2 in reply to Babyluck95]

Exactly 🤗 treat yourself first before you dive back in though to the next round.... you deserve it! 💜

[Mittenz]

Sorry to hear, don’t give up hope. It could just be a test too early. Keep doing it next few days. This IVF thing is really a marathon and so many of us are going through the same xx