9DPT BFN

[Edith85]

Have a 5 year old girl. Wanted to give her sibling. Had second embryotransfer.

1st cycle ended up in ectopic pregnancy and I decided to remove both tubes in view of IVF. Maybe wrong decision as it took away my minimal chances of falling naturally.

This day I am 9dpt and for a bfn. I guess I m out. It bothers me a lot as I cannot jump to consecutive transfers as I m in between career exams and need to focus on these as well. I m so sad and frustrated and don’t know how to control my feelings without affecting my family.

[Twiglet2]

I’m so sorry 😢 negatives really do suck!!!

Good luck with your exams and your future cycles but either now just take some time to treat yourself and spoil yourself as it’s blooming tough xx

[Edith85 in reply to Twiglet2]

Thank you! I am out. Will try to recover thank you for your messages.

[Fruitandflowers]

I'm sorry, I found trying for a sibling to be very difficult as I think I was more confident it would work as I had frosties from the same batch and thought my hormones etc and correct protocol was sorted. I had a PUL/suspected ectopic and surgery at 10 weeks from a fresh transfer then a BFN on a FET. I found the emotions of losses and disappointments, plus health impacts and guilt of not concentrating on my daughter, extremely tough. I felt like I was being selfish, but equally that I was letting her down by not giving her a sibling. In my rational mind I know neither is true. I was also starting a new job that I was worried I wasn't able to give my all to and that would be a disaster. That too turned out to be fine. I don't think it can be a wrong decision to have the tubes removed and not one you or the doctors would have taken lightly - it's your health and you need to be around and well for your child and the risk of another dangerous ectopic is a huge consideration and now not something you have to worry about. Things happen when least expected and sometimes when everything's bleakest, you're most stressed and nothing is 'right', but equally you need to have a life and a career so you can be a rounded happy person and be a role model for your child. Odds-wise my consultant said when everything's perfect, unexplained infertility, and age isn't a factor, you're looking at 1 in 3 for a successful transfer. So it may take one more for you, or a couple, but generally I was told if it's worked once it's much more likely to again, just not as quickly as we might expect.