Appointment after failed cycle

[aso328]

We had our first failed IVF-ICSI cycle earlier this year. We have an appointment tomorrow to discuss what occurred and plan for next cycle?Have you ladies any suggestions of important things to ask? I was doing well with dealing but I feel last few days in run up to the apt that I've slipped to how I felt after the cycle failed.

[Always_hope_andpray]

Sorry about your failed cycle, mine failed in Feb too, I had my remote consultation this week, where I found out that I should have perhaps had a scan with the consultant post endo surgery before starting IVF. I wasn't told that at the start of IVF or post surgery! The nursing team started my stims and I didn't see the consultant until EC. I was not very happy after finding this out. Anyway,

What I asked was, where it went wrong? Did the embryos fertilise normally? How was the sperm? Could it be an implantation issue?

What are my options moving forward? What would you do different?

What supplements should I be taking?

[aso328 in reply to Always_hope_andpray]

I'm sorry to hear this. Why should they have scanned you? My scan before the cycle was almost 2 years ago as we've had a long road to get here due to male factor issues.Did your clinic check your progesterone levels at any point during cycle? Mine didn't and I want to know why. I had zero bloods throughout the whole cycle.

[Always_hope_andpray in reply to aso328]

I'm not sure why they should have scanned me, he said to see if there was any endometriosis, but I was under the impression it couldn't be seen with just a scan. My progesterone levels weren't checked during the cycle either. I'm so disappointed. I keep thinking would things be different if they had done what they were supposed to? Who knows How did your appointment go?

[Lobster_Berry]

Hi Aso, I am so sorry to hear about your failed cycle.

My first IVF attempt also failed 2 days ago on 26th March. I cannot cope with the depression I am currently experiencing. They transferred two day-3 blastocysts but neither implanted. It's devastating. I just cannot digest the result as I had really high hopes. In fact, at this stage, I have lost my faith in God 😭. I am so clueless.

[Doodlebug23 in reply to Lobster_Berry]

I just wanted to jump on and say I 💯 understand how you are feeling. I really struggled after my last failed transfer. I was so so positive and it got me nowhere. I don’t really have any words of advice as I just sunk into my own pit of wallowing. The thing that picks me back up are figuring out the next steps and moving towards the next transfer.

Just know there’s always someone on this wonderful forum if you need to talk. Take care x

[Doivf2024]

I have no words to make you feel better - other than I know how you feel and I’m holding hope for all us desperate mums to be.

We just had our first failed round of IVF and we only had the one embryo. Its so emotionally draining and it can be hard to think of questions for the debrief.

We asked about each step (collection/fertilisation/transfer) and what could be changed or optimised for the next round. Xx