On our quest for a sibling. Failed cycle end of Jan and just been accepted for another FET starting meds tomorrow. Anyone else starting soon, just started or just wants to chat? Feels so much easier chatting to others and knowing we aren’t alone ✨
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Hi, currently in the TWW following transfer Tuesday 27th. Also trying for a sibling after multiple losses and complex pregnancy complications.
Wishing you all the best for your transfer x
I started a similar thread for TWW. Lots of lovely ladies there waiting for official test date and some awaiting upcoming transfer definitely good to speak to others in a similar situation.
I'm trying for a sibling using donor sperm as a single woman - 3 failed IUIs, 1 failed IVF, second cycle starting in approx 2 weeks time 😀
Wishing you a successful cycle!
Wow what a lot to go through, have you a good support network? Hoping you get a sibling for your little one very soon 🙏🏼
I do not know how I've done it or survived it to be honest lol plus it's all been since August. I have a great support network, my parents and aunty/uncle are just amazingly supportive. I feel sad sometimes that I might never have the newborn stage again or be able to give a sibling but I don't want to regret it.
Medically there is nothing wrong, just low AMH and it'll take a while but I have faith it'll happen xx
That a lot to go through, so glad you’ve got good support aswell.
I totally get what you mean about not wanting to regret it. We will never get older and regret having more but I think I would regret not trying in a few years. We’ve got 2 embryos left so if that doesn’t work I’m happy that we are done and can move on with our lives xx
I’m also trying for a sibling and had a failed fresh transfer in Jan. Just waiting for my next cycle for a FET. Are you doing a medicated or natural FET?
I didn’t think trying for a sibling would be as mentally as hard as for no. 1 but the pressure I’m putting on myself to give my daughter a sibling and the growing age gap is overwhelming.
Minnie92 in reply to
How are you after your failed cycle? It’s tough isn’t it. I’m doing medicated so patches then cyclogest, same as last time. How about you? Is your next cycle due to start soon? Yeh it’s so hard having a little one to run around after, definitely helps to take my mind off things at times x
MiniMe23 in reply to
I know that feeling as we’re trying to do the exact same. But it’s proving harder than I initially anticipated. I always thought mine was fine as an only child but a sibling would be nice. But lately all Iv heard is “why can’t I have a baby brother or sister?” So I’m feeling the pressure even more. But like yourself I worry about the growing age gap. Starting out again and the trying to explain that a baby won’t be able to do the same things or play as I think my DC is expecting.
I’m starting to feel like I have let them down slightly for not pushing ahead sooner. To be fair Iv said it over the years it was the hubby who’s put it off and wasted years without realising. Now he’s more desperate for success than ever.
hey, wishing you all the best. I’m just starting a fresh cycle in hopes of a sibling (last cycle for us) xx
Thank you, wishing you lots of luck too. We are down to our last 2 embryos and then that’s it for us too. The age gap grows and I feel I want to close this chapter of my life (ivf and infertility) asap whether that’s with or without another baby xx
Totally get that, I think I’ve finally accepted that this is the end for us and it feels weirdly a huge relief. We’ve been dealing with infertility and IVF for over 8 years now and I feel ready to start a new chapter. How old is your wee one? Xx
It’s such a big part of your life and you dedicate yourself physically and mentally for such a long time, we started trying for our first in 2016 then realised we had issues the year after.
I always feel really guilty saying this but we’ve got 2 children both ivf. 4 and 2, they will be 5 and 3 this year. I don’t know why I feel guilty as i literally thank the universe everyday for them both and have friends who are praying for one healthy baby but we always wanted 3. Feel like I always have to explain myself when anyone asks 🙈 how old is yours? X
You have nothing to feel guilty about, nobody asks for infertility, I literally wouldn’t wish it on anyone. My wee girl is 3. We’ve been trying since 2016 too xx
We in the same boat …we have done 8 Fresh ivfs and 3 Fets in total … 11 transfers …we were successfull on our 4th fresh and 6th fresh… we have 2 children and also always wanted 3 or 4 … its harder and harder … and having to explain why we want another .. but still we feel guilty its worked for us and for wanting another also… if that makes sense… currently in our tww… all the best to everyone
Just because you have been lucky before. Doesn’t mean you should feel guilty for wanting more. We grow up expecting to have kids and don’t consider infertility as a factor when making life plans.
So congratulations on your successful cycles. And good luck for this one. I’m currently inthr TWW also and trying for a sibling (1 child already).
Here’s hoping the TWW goes quickly and successful is just around the corner.
All the best in your tww… its a real pain and the worry never ends .. my otd is tomorow
Thank you. My test is Thursday. Wishing you all the look in the world for a positive test tomorrow x
Wishing you all the luck in the world for OTD tomorrow I’m keeping everything crossed for you and your family 🙏🏼✨
I’m in the same boat, ladies, and I just want to wish you all every bit of special magic baby dust. We’ve tried and failed a few times for a sibling and getting close to the end of the road on our journey. It’s really tough to accept but I am so grateful that we were in the lucky camp and actually have a beautiful boy. I can’t wait to be free of IVF. I think I will have a survivor’s party once this is all over.
Where abouts are you in your cycle? Wishing you all the luck in the world. It’s so tough to accept and I feel I’m putting a lot of pressure on myself with each embryo we use. I almost didn’t want to ring the clinic this morning to request treatment, just the thought of this dominating my life for the next 4 weeks was sending me over the edge! I love the idea of a party, we definitely deserve that at least!!
I’m also hopefully starting my next FET for a sibling for my little girl. Hoping to transfer in a couple of weeks after having had missed miscarriage at 8 weeks for both of our last 2 transfers. Really hoping this one is the one! Sending positive vibes for this whole group that it’s going to be a whole run of BFPs!
good luck 🥰💜 hopefully I won’t be too far behind you in our mission for no 2! Look forward to hearing your updates 🤗 xx
me too! Currently on the quest for #2 and in the middle of a stim cycle. #1 DD was a relatively easy ivf journey, #2 has been really trying so far and this transfer coming up will be number 5. Definitely keen for a chat throughout this process - community is key
This is the thing when the journey to first/second has been so straight forward (like us) then life just throws you a curveball and makes any other babies harder to get!! Community is definitely key - the only people who understand xx
Good luck! I'm in a limbo, I will find out in a matter of 1-3 days if I'm starting my FET this week or in April 🤞
If you would like to chat I'm more than happy too 😀
How are you feeling? Would you prefer to start this cycle or next? Hope you’re doing ok xx
Overall ok, I promised myself that I will be ok if we will do April FET but secretly I want to do transfer in March 😅 and what about you? How are you feeling? I also had failed transfer- chemical by the end of Jan, also trying for sibling 😅
Sorry about your chemical, the body has a terrible way of getting our hopes up and crashing them down all in one go doesn’t it.
It’s all the waiting isn’t it - I feel like I’m constantly wishing my life away, spending hours at the clinic all whilst my 2 precious children are growing up so fast and I’m scared to miss out.
I’m ok thank you, had some bad news at my baseline scan today they have either seen 2 cysts or 2 follicles which obviously isn’t ideal on day 2 of my cycle and my lining is 10mm and should be under 5. They did some emergency estrogen bloods which were 750 and from looking online that’s very abnormal considering I only started the patches this morning so I’m thinking this cycle will be cancelled. Gutted but what can you do xx
Thank you.Yes, waiting is a time and life killer 🙈 and right now I am running to the toilet every 5-10mins because it feels and I think that my period is starting - and it's not 😅 so I can't have "closure" for March FET and it is so stupid that it keeps me on my toes because I was supposed to have April FET 🤦♀️
Oh no, I'm so sorry, when are you having follow up about the blood test and the next steps?
It’s like the period knows your waiting so just hangs on a little longer !! Hope it turns up soon for you though 🙏🏼
They rang today and cancelled the cycle so I stopped the meds, was expecting it tbh so not a shock just another small hurdle! Going to take a break from anymore transfers and enjoy the summer with my 2 precious miracles xxx
I think it does 🙈 I started spotting today so if it will hold with the full flow till after 12, my official cd1 will be tomorrow 🙊 I sent a message to the clinic about my current situation asking, if my cd2 will be on treatment consultation is it will be possible to start taking meds on that day if we've got everything settled, or do we just need to give up March FET anyway.
Sorry for your cancelled cycle... I hope you will have a wonderful summer break with your little ones 
When we had our mc last summer we gave ourselves Iike half a year to recover before we went back to the clinic. IVF is such a crazy and unsettling journey.
hey lovely, we’re on the quest for a sibling too. I had a failed FET before Christmas and I’m 10dp 5dt today and got another BFN. I’m so frustrated as we’re using exactly the same protocol as the one that worked (6th FET) and PGT-A normal embryos. I just don’t get it! I really didn’t think it would be as hard this time 😢 xx
So so sorry you’ve had another bfn. It’s really frustrating when nothing has changed and it still doesn’t stick. We had a fresh transfer in 2019 and a frozen cycle in 2021 both worked, now can’t seem to get another to stick. Iv started my meds today and had my baseline scan and my lining is 10mm (I’m day 2 of my cycle so should be about 5 or less) and they’ve found 2 potential cysts on my ovaries. So will find out tomorrow but likely to be a cancelled cycle - feel like the universe is telling us to stop. So I really feel your pain with the constant hurdles xx
Oh love, it’s so frustrating isn’t it. There’s always something. Weirdly these past 2 FETs have been more straightforward than any before and still they don’t seem to be working.
We have 3 frosties and won’t do anymore egg collections so that’s it for us after that. In a way it’s kind of good to have an end point xx
I have got so much comfort reading the comments on this post. I am also on the same journey, trying for a sibling. Just recovering from a chemical after a FET and trying to prepare myself mentally for another round with our last frozen embryo. Our daughter was from our first fresh transfer 3 years ago and so so grateful to have her.... she would make the best big sister.
I just want this infertility chapter to be done so I can start enjoying life again.
So glad you got some comfort from this post and really sorry about your chemical, hope you are looking after yourself ❤️
I’m the same I’m done with tracking cycles waiting to start medication, scans with the dildo wand, prodding and poking all for a negative outcome. Here’s hoping our next transfer is the one ✨
Exactly this ! I have changed into such a modest horrible person and can’t wait to get my sparkle back xxx
* moody 😂 xx
Reading these posts is such a comfort, knowing I’m not alone. We’re on a fresh round in the hope of having a sibling for our 4 year old daughter. She was our first frozen cycle and we had 2 left on the freezer. In 2022 I got pregnant naturally (!!) at 40 for the first and only time in our many years of trying but miscarried at 7 weeks. Next FET failed then we thought we’d been lucky with our final frozen embryo but sadly lost that little one at 9 weeks. 💔 Took a while to pick ourselves up from that but had 2 unsuccessful fresh rounds last year and now back fro another try. I had my first stimulation injection 10 minutes ago!
I naively thought that things would be easier the second time around- like a second child would be like the cherry on top, as we’d already won the jackpot with our daughter. Sometimes I cannot believe we’re still doing this and I’m very much looking forward to this chapter being over, one way or another, but need to know we’ve tried our best. As you may be able to tell, I’m not feeling that hopeful for us! Just don’t know when will be time to stop. Wishing you all the best of luck. Xxxx
Hi NewMoon I’m so happy all these lovely ladies are giving us all some comfort!! It’s what we need. Sounds like you’ve had a very emotional time in the last few years and I’m really sorry for your losses - it must’ve been awful to get pregnant naturally after ivf and then have the heartbreak of a miscarriage aswell.
Hope you are feeling ok after your first injection? Totally get what you mean about picking yourself up - we have been trying for a baby since 2017 and started ivf in 2018 but it feels like forever. So lucky to have 2 children through ivf but was so naive that we could have a 3rd that easily. Its really hard to know when to stop isn’t it, both financially and emotionally! just hoping to give it our best shot and then we know we’ve tried our best xx
Thank you. Finding others who really understand is such a lifeline xxxxxxxx
First injection done! ✔️ Needles don’t bother me anymore but still stress that I’m going to mess something up and waste £££ of drugs! 😆
hiya, I’m in a very similar situation.
Infertility for many years until I got pregnant naturally after 4 years TTC, got my beautiful daughter. 4 years later we decided to try again, took ages and I wasn’t getting any younger, then embarked on IVF. In my 3-year IVF journey I had 6 failed transfers - 3 chemicals and 3 BFN. All untested. I also had 2 natural pregnancies - 1 MMC at 10 weeks and 1 chemical. It’s so damn hard.
I’m just waiting to do an ERA etc before my next FET. Wishing you and everyone all the best with their next transfers. We got this xx
Morning Everyone ❤️ I’m going in 4 weeks after failed fet in Jan . I’m trying natural as I didn’t get on with medicated . Have to wait unfortunately to let my system regulate which is driving me mad . Just want to get on with it ! I’m keeping busy looking into other clinics and investigations while I wait as it’s our last embryo xxx
The waiting is the hardest part about this whole thing. Life always seems to be on hold whilst waiting!! So frustrating. Do you mind asking why you didn't get on with the medication? I did a natural cycle when I had my daughter and medicated this time round so can't help but question whether this had an influence (so easy to second guess everything I know).
Im also looking into what I could do differently for this next FET (also our last embryo). Wondering if anyone got any experience on endometrial scratches?
I felt really sick , tummy cramps and felt absolutely mental on the estrogen . I couldn’t put myself through it again . I also had horrendous withdrawal headaches and eye twitching . So absolutely didn’t get on with me . I do ovulate and have regular cycles so I don’t have to do medicated , I only ended up doing it as I was being impatient and didn’t want to wait two cycles after my failed fresh 😩 the pressure is immense when you are down to your last little one isn’t it . I just want to do something, anything 😂 and the scratch was all my clinic offered . When are you going again ? X
I think I could probably go natural too but my clinic only do FETs on a Tues and Thurs so all the timings would have to work and I'm not sure I can handle that pressure and the letdown of having to wait another cycle. That's so strange, now you said about the eye twitching I also had that but put it down to stress 🤣 maybe it was the estrogen!
Did you have a scratch? I didn't have it but tempted to get it this time.
I'm still waiting for my follow up consultation then I guess I'll have an idea of when we can go again, I only had the chemical last week so I feel like I need a couple of months break at least.
I will actually check with my clinic because they didn’t actually tell me they only do fet on set days … 🤯 that’s a huge risk of it being cancelled . U managed to get in to see dr lower on Friday who is going to give me a saline scan to double check my uterus . Excited and nervous ! Decided not to do the Emma / Alice test as I’m going to Coventry for their tests and feel like it would be a waste of money to do both xxxx
Well ladies Iv had some bad news today that my cycle has been cancelled. My baseline scan yesterday showed 2 ovarian cysts and my estrogen levels are 750 (should be less than 25 on day 2 of a cycle). Kind of relieved that it’s been taken out of my hands and we have decided to have a few months off, enjoy summer and some nice holidays and try again towards the end of the year. The quest for a sibling is temporarily paused for now 🙏🏼✨
Hope everyone is doing ok xxx
Aw I'm sorry to hear that but maybe it's fate that you feel relieved by it. Enjoy your summer and hopefully you will feel refreshed and ready to go again afterwards. 💞
I’ve just seen this- So sorry Minnie- ours was cancelled too as I was only showing 2 follicles at the first scan.😞 Urgh, it’s all so frustrating and exhausting. But I totally understand about the relief too. Being in the Hope zone is excruciating! Trying to hold onto the gratitude for our first with everything I have. Sending love strength and solidarity to you. Xxx
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