Advice on 2 embryo FET!

Hey all,

So unfortunately we had a miscarriage at 7 weeks on our first FET! To say we are devastated is an understatement! Also the miscarriage was incomplete so after medicated, I had to still get a D&C - the whole process dragged out over 5 weeks, It was a long and physically/emotionally draining experience!

We are just waiting on my next period to start our second FET! I want to transfer 2 embryos this time, reasoning is higher chance of a live birth from this transfer and also my impatience of wanting a baby!). My partner is skeptical but to be honest even if we were blessed with twins that would be us done on our fertility journey as we only want/afford two kids!

I was looking for some advice for you guys on 2 embryo FET. What are your thoughts? (We are still deciding so haven’t mentioned to the clinic yet!)

[Elmo13]

Hi there,

Firstly I’m so sorry for your loss and I hope you’re doing as well as can be expected. I had a silent miscarriage at 7 wks and I know how devastating this can be.

After my miscarriage, I had 2 frozen embryos left and pushed for a double transfer. I’m 42 and this was my 5th transfer so the clinic agreed. Unfortunately this ended at 6 wks with a spontaneous miscarriage last week. I don’t regret having the double transfer despite the outcome as at my age the chance of both embryos being good enough (they were not tested) is quite low and I was prepared for the risks.

I think it may depend on your age, whether you can accept the risks of a multiple pregnancy and also how many embryos you have left. Also, if you’ve had or previous miscarriages or chemicals, may possibly be worth additional testing prior to transferring?

Good luck, whatever you do.

X

[Hidden in reply to Elmo13]

oh Elmo I’m so sorry!! Nothing anyone can say makes it easier but just mind yourself and don’t be afraid or guilty to feel every emotion! When I had the d&c I felt relief it was over then felt terrible for feeling the relief through such grief! I wish u all the luck with your journey xx

Thanks so much for ur response and sharing with me ! I’m 34, in a same sex marriage (we are using donor sperm), so no known fertility issues that was my first transfer and my first pregnancy. I just have such a gut feeling if it’s a single transfer this time our bee won’t stick!

[Elmo13 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for your kind words. Honestly in the past two weeks it feels like I’ve felt every emotion and I’m so worn down now both physically and emotionally I have covid to top it all off!

I hope you too are taking the take time you need to build back up. A d&c following your first transfer is a lot to deal with. Especially after going down the medicated route first. It’s very cruel but the battle scars make us stronger in the end and it will all be worth it when it works.

Take some, albeit small, positives in that you had a positive from your very first transfer. Some say that after a miscarriage you’re more likely to pregnant so hopefully with the next cycle they will stick. You also have a good amount of embryos too which is great!

If you want to explore the double transfer maybe open the conversation with the clinic and see what they say? My clinic were adamant that I should get single transfers and wouldn’t even discuss with me until after my last transfer failed when I really pushed for it. I hope your clinic will at least discuss with you.

Take care and good luck xx

[Hidden]

Best discuss it with your clinic/embryologist and see what they say Good luck with your treatment

Take care of yourself

Janet

[Hopenevergiveup]

hi there firstly I wanted to say Im so sorry for your loss. It’s so hard to build yourself up again after that but I wanted to share some positive news re a double transfer. I was 44 and had two untested embryos transferred and one stuck! It definitely increases your chances of getting pregnant. X

[Hidden in reply to Hopenevergiveup]

thanks so much and omg congratulations you must have been so over the moon! I think I’m going to beg the clinic for double and go from there! For us the process started in September and we only managed one transfer in that time. Everything and anything seems to be blocking us (I know I’m dramatic but the impatience is winning at the moment 🙈). Thanks so much I love to hear positive stories ❤️ I hope you and your family are doing amazing x

[Gerbear22]

Sorry for your loss.I know the pain of having the whole process dragged out.We had to have 3 scans before miscarriage was confirmed and then had to wait another week to have the D&C.First pregnancy(natural).

I am now nearly 38 weeks pregnant with our baby girl after a second double transfer at age 40 with untested embryos.Wishing you the best of luck whatever you decide to do.xx

[Hidden in reply to Gerbear22]

so sorry for all you have been through Gerbear! Similar we had three scans before medicated treatment, then medicated didn’t work! Took over 5weeks and just felt completely deflated… not only could I not bring my baby to term but I couldn’t even miscarry alone!

I’m so delighted you shared this amazing story I wish u all the best with the rest of your pregnancy journey and the arrival of the little gem! X