Frustrated, Weight Loss, Pill, IVF

[SuzanneAM]

Haven’t been on here for a couple of years, but don’t know who else to talk to because family and friends just say “it will happen” …..I have gone from 19st 10 to 16st 10 and my journey of weight loss still continues (gained weight in lockdown) however for me to begin IVF I have to go on the pill for several months as I do not have periods and I never have which is why I have to have IVF with the help of a donor (I have embryos frozen) and use the pill to make me have periods.

I done IVF back in 2015, 3 times and I was very very lucky to have a baby boy the 3rd time. I was on the pill from the age of 16 to help investigate why no periods, stopped once they new the reason and was put back on them when it was time for IVF in 2015, my weight was 16st when I had my son. I am being told now that the rules have changed and you now have to be a certain weight to go on the pill? This is so unfair when I could be starting my IVF journey by just being on the pill and continuing to work on my weight goal to help increase my chances of IVF. And I’ve been on them before, what if a person wanted the pill to stop to get pregnant would they be refused contraception? I’m 36 soon and I just want an opportunity to try again, I feel as I get older there is less chance of success? Yet again the life of wanting a child is controlled by other people telling me what I can and can’t do 😢. I’m so sorry that there is some struggling out there to have there first and it is a horrible emotional journey to go through 💙 🙏

[Boo718]

yeh I hit this wall too. I was 16 stone and had to get down to 11 for my bmi to be correct to get the pill. It was a nightmare. We ended up going abroad they were more interested that I was healthy rather than my weight xxx

[JA-fnuk Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

It can be difficult but even losing a little weight can help Slow and steady is better than rapid loss So go for simple steps - smaller plate - increase vegetable portions- no rich creamy sauces etc If crisps/choc/biscuits are your downfall try using low calorie versions Increase your steps - if using bus get off couple of stops earlier and walk If a car driver park in the faraway part and walk- use the stairs instead of lift etc On Fertility Network UK website there is a Fertility Weight Loss Group that has monthly meetings online

Thinking of you

Janet