Donor eggs - any advice on feelings?

[Seren0119]

Dear all,

I am considering a donor egg journey next year - I am completely new to this world (although not IVF!).

I recognise all the positives, but I was hoping anyone could shed light on the more difficult aspects (potentially feelings at the beginning of the process or even during pregnancy/after birth etc) so I can really comprehend the whole picture and mentally prepare myself for any feelings I might have.

Thanks so much x

[honeybeanbee]

Hi, I have a friend who used a donor egg when trying for their baby. They have a beautiful girl now who is about 5. They are all very happy and loved up. They were open with her from the beginning and read her a book most nights about the journey of her birth and the fact she came from a donor egg. She understands and feels confident and happy in herself and her parents love her very much. I hope that helps in some way, whatever you decide. Best of luck xxx

[Boo718]

hello we are using double donor. When we realised that ours wasn’t going to work it was sad and we were both gutted but we knew that we wanted a family. We started with donor eggs and sperm although I was only 33 at the time I knew my husband was more attached to his sperm and that I would carry it. When that proved it wasn’t going to work either we moved to double donor. It was something we had spoken about a number of times over the years previous to finding out our own were a problem. We are now 12 weeks and honestly could not love this baby more. It is sad we will never know what ‘our own’ would be like but I know that this one is ‘our own’ the love we both felt when we saw it on the screen was incredible xxx good luck on your journey.

[JA-fnuk Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Take a look at hfea.gov.uk - Treatment options and scroll to Using a donor It gives useful links such as Donor Conception Network dcnetwork.org that gives support for families undergoing donor conception

Good luck with starting treatment next year

Janet

[LoveToGive]

I have had three failed FET with donor eggs. I was against it in the beginning but I think that’s the natural reaction and when the dust settles and you realise this might be the only path to motherhood it’s easier to digest. I honestly wouldn’t feel any different having a child with donor egg because we are carrying the child so it’s a different feeling and connection. Good luck and I hope 2023 is a great year for you. ❤️❤️

[M_fox]

It takes a lot to consider but sitting here with my 4 month old that wouldn’t have been possible without Donor eggs. We tried for 15 years so she really is a miracle.

Feelings and worry about how you’ll feel during pregnancy and after birth is natural, my clinic let us speak to a councillor first to ensure you can discuss your feelings and to make sure you’ve thought of what might happen in the future.

I worried all the way through, but the little kicks and turns and her first cry’s made me realise I had nothing to worry about. She’s mine, my little angel. Wishing you all the luck xxx