I feel so cross with myself for falling into the trap again of thinking I might be pregnant! Allowing myself to get my hopes up and actually believe I might be! Second cycle of clomid and I know I ovulated and had so many symptoms that must just have been the clomid! AF has just showed up a day late! Heartbroken again! Devastated! Looks like clomid isn’t helping me! So it looks like I will have to go ahead with natural ivf!
I have so much admiration for the strength you all have, I don’t know how you do it! At 41 after two years of ttc first baby I feel so drained and hopeless and yet I’ve barely started compared to most people! Has anyone had success with clomid after two cycles? I’m so scared of how I will cope with ivf…… but know I have to do it!
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You can do this, I know it’s daunting but I was 40 when I started and I felt it was the most proactive way to maximise the chances I had left. Keep in touch with the ladies on here because it’s important to have support through IVF and be able to ask questions as you go. Good luck and keep positive 🍀
thank you so much! It’s so nice to be able to talk to people who understand because as much as family friends care they’ve not been through it and most don’t really know much about it, so it’s hard to discuss with them!
So sorry to hear this but I just want to reassure you that IVF isn’t as scary as you may think. I’m 35 and had been trying for 3 yrs before IVF. Two embryo transfers later (2 cycles) and I’m 14 weeks pregnant ( as easy as that! not really but it wasn’t a horrid experience)
In my experience the hardest part of IVF is the unknown; what are my side effects going to be, how will I respond to treatment, what is going to happen in the next appointment? But actually if you just take one day at a time and just focus on your own journey and your own well being it’s not bad at all. Don’t get me wrong some days will be better than others but its very manageable.
Best of luck if you do go ahead with IVF, you will be fine.
thanks so much for taking the time to reply. Huge congratulations to you that is wonderful and gives me hope. Looks like I’ll probably be trying mild ivf! Everything you said make sense thank you
I know how hard it is! I had 9 cycles of Clomid and every month I felt like you are right now. But to give you some hope, IVF wasn’t actually that bad and I got pregnant on first cycle. I have PCOS and I never ovulated. I though Clomid would be enough as that was my only issue so was very upset that it didn’t. The amazing thing is that after my IVF pregnancy I started to ovulate and got pregnant naturally. I did miscarry the first time but 3 months later I got pregnant naturally again and I now have a 2.5 year old and a 4 month old 🥰 I’m a little bit younger than you but not by much. I had my second one at almost 40. Wishing you lots of luck xx
thank you so much for replying! That really does give me hope. That’s amazing and That is wonderful I’m really happy for you! It’s so nice to hear from people who have been through it. Thanks for the support
Hi Buttontin. You're not at the end of your course yet, so don't give up on yourself yet! Clomid can take several rounds to work but might not be the treatment for you. All the best for the clomid and definitely for IVF if you need to go that far. Thinking of you. Diane
Our first two years were hard. It’s the grieving process. Once your done with that, you find the strength to move towards IVF. You keep getting up stronger each time. And you also find the humor in this crazy thing called IVF/infertility. My suggestion to you is to find a reputable acupuncturist and homeopathic clinic. Indulge in massage therapy, expensive candles and bubble baths. Fall in love with yourself. If you are spiritual, hand it over to them. If your atheist, hand it over to the cosmos. Let yourself off the hook. Lots of love.
-I’m 4 days post transfer.( Second IVF try. 7 IUI’s ) male factor infertility.
Thank you so much for replying I think there is a lot of fear involved about wether I’ll be able to afford more than one go! But thanks for those tips! I guess you have to just take one step at a time and not jump ahead! I’ll have everything crossed for you and wish you all the luck in the world!
The cost is so stupid expensive that it will make you laugh and cry at the same time. My husband and I are still paying for our first round. We did a go fund me page, begged, borrowed and stole. People really shocked us when they stepped up to help with round two.
I did 2 rounds of 4 months with clomid and although it worked with regards to ovulation and we did fall once with a early miscarriage. I found that that the mood swings and not feeling right on them hard and frustrating that they weren't helping us fall. I was swapped to letrazole and took one months of the round of 4 and now expecting in June 2023. Maybe ask about letrazole.
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