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We have lost our tiny love

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Back in the hospital today after intense pain this morning and huge bleeding.

A 2nd doctor has just rescanned me and confirmed the sac has filled with blood and the heartbeat that we found so reassuring yesterday is no longer there.

I am waiting for a MVA so that I can go home today.

Our IVF journey is over, I cannot do this anymore

Safe travels littlest one, you were so so loved. I hope to meet you again one day.


Update - the “procedure” went well but was obviously horrible. I’m glad I chose that option rather than staying there to have a D&C today. I feel ok physically but waking up this morning and remembering sucks. I wanted to say thanks for your lovely messages, reading them was a real genuine comfort. What a gang we are eh?? Xx

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Oh my God Hun I'm so so so sorry to read this, it breaks my heart .... No words would help just sending you strength, and millions hugs ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Solly I’m heartbroken for you .The relief when I messaged you yesterday and in less than 24 hours this devastation .I’m truly heartbroken for you both.I’m only a message away but take time to process and let the body recover .Always in my prayers and I’m keeping you all in my heart ❤️ xxxx

I’m so sorry 😢 don’t know what to say really. It’s hard to find any words. Just sending you big hugs ❤️

So sorry sending you lots of love xx

Oh Solly, I am absolutely heartbroken for you. I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this. We’ll all be thinking of you and sending so much love xxxxx

My heart is broken for you, I am so sorry you have gone through this, sending love ❤️

Oh Solly, how heartbreaking, so sorry to hear this :( Thinking of you xx

I am so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you... sending you love and hugs. Look after yourself as best as you can in this difficult times. I know it's too early not undermining what you are going through but putting myself in your situation and thinking that perhaps there are so many children who need love & care; maybe when you recover and feel ready you can think of other options like fostering/adoptions.


Oh Solly 💔

I’m so so sorry to read this. How utterly heartbreaking.

Your little bub knows how much you loved him/her and is looking down on you 🌟

Sending you strength today xxxx

Oh gosh I'm so sorry to read this 😥You're in my thoughts. Take care xxx

I’m so sorry Solly … I have no words. I’ve recently been through it.

Sending you love ❤️ Xx

No words can soothe your pain in this moment 😥 Be kind to each other, you and your partner. Accept that you might not react the same way to this, but that there's no right answer to how to grieve. Receive all hugs you can get. Cry when you have to, but don't forget that there's still allowed to laugh when you experience or hear/read something funny. You won't get your so much longed and hoped for back by digging the hole of sorrow and pain so big that the sun can't reach you. This pain will probably be a part of you the rest of your life, but your life doesn't need to be miserable! Take care ❤❤❤

Awww Solly, I'm so very sorry to see your update. Massive love and hugs to you all.💔xxxx

Oh my gosh, I don't know what to say or how to help. I'm so sorry for your loss xxx

Im so sorry for your loss. I admire your courage

So sorry it’s heartbreaking 💔

Oh Solly, I am so so sorry to see this update 💔 sending lots of love at this truly upsetting time xxx

I’m so very sorry on the loss of your little one truly devastating 😢, thinking of you & sending you strength take care xx

I'm so so sorry Solly. This is absolutely heartbreaking 😥 It's been such a bumpy and traumatic time and I wish there was a way to make things easier. Your little one will know they are loved ✨✨

I hope the next stages go smoothly so you can go home to rest and recover as much as you can. xx

Hunny im so so so sorry for you! Sending you all the love in the world 💖

No, no, no. I'm so sorry xxx

Oh Solly, devastated by this dreadful news please take care of yourself. I’m sending all my love xx

Ahh no, so so sorry to hear that, I was really hoping things would improve for you. Please take your time to process it and look after yourself. Big hugs.

urgh ivf is such a horrible git. So much love sent your way right now. I know this is so not how you wanted to end this thing. I hope that now it can't do anymore damage than it already has and that you can release yourself from this sh*t show and have some amazing adventures with your little family ❤️ lots of love sent your way lovely ❤️ thinking of you xxxx

Oh no, I am so so sorry. Sending a virtual hug xx

I'm so, so sorry and sad to read this. Thinking of you ♥️

Sending lots of love 💕💕

Oh solly am so sorry 💗 sending your so much love xx

Solly - I just have no words. I am so so sorry. Just want to give you the biggest hug. So much love xx

Don't know what to write. I am so sorry. It's heartbreaking and you'll be in shock. I hope you have support and please take care of yourself x

There are no words I’m so heartbroken for you 💔 wrapping you in a virtual hug 😢 xxx

Oh gosh I’m so very sorry to read this and for your loss. Xx

So sorry to hear this. Sending you lots of strength and love. ❤️

Heartbreaking 😔 I'm so so sorry Solly ❤️💫 sending you lots of love and hugs. Thinking of you xxx

Im so sorry sweetheart 💙

Oh no darling, I’m so so sorry to hear this. So sad 😢 sending you a big hug! ❤️ Xx

I am so sorry love. My heart is breaking for you.

I’m so sorry. My last miscarriage happened the same way. Sac filled up with blood and I almost needed blood I lost so much. My heart aches for you. Sending you so many hugs and courage ❤️🌈

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Solly-44 in reply to Corchi

Same, they had to test and in the end just gave fluids. I’m so sorry for your loss, it’s traumatic on many levels. Big big hugs back to you xx

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Corchi in reply to Solly-44


Heartbreaking, so sorry to read this 😢 Sending hugs x

Solly, so so sorry to hear this. Sending you love xx

Heart-broken 💔 for you . So sorry . Sending big hugs . Xx

So sorry solly … sending you lots of love ❤️ xxx

I am so so sorry for what happened. Please take care of yourself sending you lots of love and hugs

Thinking of you during this difficult time in your life. Sending u hugs

So sorry for you loss. Thoughts are with you all. So hard xxxxx ❤️

So so sorry for your loss ❤️ Sending hugs xx

So so sorry for your loss. 😔💗 xx

So sorry 😞💔 xx

I’m so sorry to hear this 😢 sending you so much love & strength ❤️

Oh honey you poor thing thing.I'm so sorry you had to go through such an experience. It's OK to be upset and grieve

Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Oh, love, I am so so sorry for your loss. It is just so heartbreaking 😢😢😢 Take the time you need to grieve and look after yourself. Take care, lovely. Sending you a BIG hug and lots of love xxxxxx

I’m so so sorry. My deepest condolences ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

So so sorry! I know the pain all too well.So sorry you have to go through it all, wishing you strength in this difficult time 💖🌺

My heart breaks for you xx take care of yourself ❤️

Im deeply sorry to read this my heart gies out to you. Sending you love and strength ❤🙏

I'm so sorry Solly that this end up this way 😪😪😪 huge huge hugs xxx

I am so so sorry reading this. My heart breaks for you. There are no words I could write that could give you comfort. It is just cruel. Mind yourself 💕💕💕


I’m so so sorry for your loss. I know nothing I say will make it any easier but just wanted to send all of my love and strength to you ❤️

Oh Solly, my heart breaks for you! I am so very sorry for your loss. I am out of words but please just give yourself time to heal. I am thinking of you and sending you a big hug. Xxx

My heart goes out to you 🤗 I’m in pretty much the same boat here. Wanted to give my daughter a sibling but lost my pregnancy around a week after we saw a heartbeat. You don’t really expect it because we’re always told a heartbeat is a good sign. Stay strong and look after yourself xxx

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Solly-44 in reply to Nenad

I’m so sorry you’re going through this too, I wish it could have been different for us both. You definitely feel a lot safer after seeing a heartbeat even though it’s still early days. Sending you big hugs xxx

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Nenad in reply to Solly-44

Thanks so much for your kind words 🤗🤗 wishing you all the best xxx

Oh gosh, so so sorry to read this. Thinking of you. Make sure you get plenty of rest as you've been through such a horrible ordeal xx 😔

I'm so so sorry for you immense loss.

Oh lovely, I’m so sorry to see this. God it’s shit ☹️ Sending you the biggest hugs 💔 xx

So awfully sorry to hear this Solly, it’s just so horrible to go through something like this. Sending love & the biggest hug. Take your time as it’s just so much for you both to deal with.xx

Solly I'm so so sorry😞😞😞 there are no words. Sending you so much love ❤️❤️❤️

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Solly-44 in reply to SK73

Thanks lovely. I hope your scan went well xxx

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SK73 in reply to Solly-44

Such a difficult journey, please look after yourself❤️ the scan went well thank you🤞🤞 still spotting but hoping all will be ok xxx

So sad to read your message....😞

Im so sorry ,thinking of you and your loved ones 😔xxx

🥲so sorry to hear this .. ♥️♥️♥️sending prayers and hugs

I’m so sorry to read that. 💔 I’m sending so much love to you. 😘😘😘

I just wanted to send my love. I’m so so sorry. Xxxx

Oh no hun, I'm so incredibly sorry 😥 it's heartbreaking. Sending you so much love and hugs 💗 xx

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