BFN 8dp5dt

[CEBMCR]

Hey ladies, this is my second round of IVF-ICSI. I am 8 days post 5 day transfer and just got a BFN. The 'official' test date for the clinic is 4 days time, on Thursday. I'm 40 and this is my second cycle- I don't have a partner so am using donor sperm. My first cycle was positive but I was spotting from test day and miscarried at 6 weeks. I feel so down about it all.. I respond poorly to stims so haven't got any frosties. I want a baby so badly yet the whole process is an emotional rollercoaster- I don't know how many more times I can bear to go through it xx

[MagicTourmaline]

I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage... Dont get too down about the test yet, maybe it will change in 4 days... I wish you all the best with it and keeping my fingers crossed...I do feel your pain about not being sure how many more cycles you can do... Its so difficult when you want a baby so much!! 😪 coz IVF is really draining physically, mentally and emotionally...

Sending you lots of love and strengh!

[Twiglet2]

I’m so sorry 😢 you are so right it is an emotional rollercoaster, take time to heal and if you need any advice on next steps this forum is amazing! Sending love xx

[Daffodils140]

Hi, I’m so sorry it’s a BFN, that sinking feeling when you’re staring down at the test praying for a second line to appear is absolutely rubbish. Be kind to yourself and take time to be sad and acknowledge how you feel. Then when you feel ready you can think about how you want to proceed. Big hugs x

[CEBMCR]

Thank you so much for your kind words. I started spotting today, just lightly and brown discharge (sorry for the TMI) so I'm sure my period is on its way. I am still taking pessaries and prontogest injections until the official test day (Thursday) so I think that's the only thing holding it off. Already thinking about what my next steps should be- whether to try again or consider the donor eggs route xx