8dp5dt, 1st donor round and BFN

[Maisie234]

I tested this morning and it's negative. I had two embryos transferred, double donor and no frozens to try.

I'm not as bad as I was the first three times, which were really really dark days. Maybe I'm just used to it now. What I am is exhausted from the drugs and energy it takes to go through this. I was hoping to have some news for Xmas but I am already anxious over any situation where I have to be with the in laws and the in law's children or friends who have babies. I'm sick of it!

But I guess my question is, I don't want to waste any more medication or carry in with injections as I don't see the point of wasting money. If I was to try again, I seriously need to avoid wasting money. My OTD day is in 6 days. Surely the result won't change now.

[Millbanks]

Sorry to hear about your negative. I know it's tempting to stop the meds but it can definitely change in 6 days. I would wait to day 10 at the very least. Fingers crossed xx

[Maisie234 in reply to Millbanks]

Thank you. I will take your advice, it's so good to have a second opinion when I've no clue what to do for the best! Xx

[Millbanks in reply to Maisie234]

Aww I know - I think you always have a gut feeling, but that doesn't mean it's right. When I was in my last 2ww I also had early an negative test, but another girl on here had the same as me (8dp 5dt) also negative, but the next day it was positive. Unfortunately didn't happen for me, but it can! Fingers crossed for you xx

[Maisie234 in reply to Millbanks]

Och I know. Stranger things have happened I suppose. Thank you and I'm so sorry for your result too. It has to be our turn soon. Were just another day closer to it. Xx

[Millbanks in reply to Maisie234]

Thank you - it's literally the only thing keeping me going! It has to happen at some point right?? xxx

[Cinderella5]

Im sorry that you have had a negative so far Maisie....I know what you mean about getting used to it, still hurts though! Are you using a really good reliable sensitive test such as an FRER? I understand you wanting to save money but personally I think you should at least hold out a few more days, day 8 is still quite early.xx

[Maisie234 in reply to Cinderella5]

I used the first response test and there wasn't even a hint of a positive. I'll hold out till the weekend. I just needed to check what is best. Yep still hurts, it's exhausting and trying to travel abroad in a pandemic just to add extra stress! Thank you though, I'll plough on through.

Glad you're keeping well. Xx

[Cinderella5 in reply to Maisie234]

I still think realistically give it a few more days even if it feels futile. It is very exhausting, you are right there. Hopefully your efforts and tenacity will pay off soon. Hugs.xx

[Maisie234 in reply to Cinderella5]

Thank you 😊 x

[Rebecca2384]

It’s still early, hang in there and give it time xx test again in a couple of days 🤞🏼

[Maisie234]

I'm glad you are saying that. If I was to ask the clinic, they'd keep me hanging till the bitter end.

I will keep my fingers crossed for you. I got my Amazon first response kit yesterday too, and you are looking good. Xx

[Justus1]

I know the feeling. My test day is on Thursday and I feel like I’m out. Just have a feeling. We had two donor embryos but back in on the 6th October. This will have been the 3rd embryo from the 5 in the freezer. Just like you I want to stop the meds, but will wait till Thursday. I know the feeling so I’m so sick of the injections and this feeling and the drugs are just making me so emotional now.

[Maisie234 in reply to Justus1]

I've another batch of lubion arriving today at £260, I don't want to touch them or poke myself any longer with needles. I will carry on till Thursday or Friday and then contact the clinic and tell them my thoughts of stopping.

Did you go to Spain too? I will keep everything crossed you xx

[Justus1 in reply to Maisie234]

No, we have done pervious cycles aboard. But the egg donor we found in the UK. So a little easier.

I know the feeling my last blood thinning injection I have is for Thursday. If I did get a positive I would need a new box, but refuse to buy a new box and inject myself on my needles if I don’t need to after Thursday. I’ll happy go get some on Friday if things turn out differently

[Maisie234 in reply to Justus1]

Sounds like a good plan. Friday is a good way off yet. I will keep everything crossed for you xx

[Justus1 in reply to Maisie234]

You too. Xx

[Hidden]

I hope and pray its a late implanter. So sorry for your hard journey its absolutely heartbreaking. You have every right to be fed up. I dread gatherings so much nowadays. But your not out yet lovely. Fingers crossed 🤞

[Maisie234 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for saying that. I had a friend sending me baby pics last night and the thought of Xmas makes me cold. That's the hardest part now. I gave this 200% this time by going abroad.

Good luck with your journey too. xxx

[Hidden in reply to Maisie234]

We will get there lovely. One way or the other. ❤️

[Hidden]

Sorry about the BFN. Have you thought about having embryo donation. It supposed to be more reasonably priced and less invasive than double donation IVF.

[Maisie234 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. At this point I'm open to anything. Would they give you details on the donors? My only ask would be that there were similarities in looks to at least one of the parents. I think I read somewhere that is more difficult?

[Hidden in reply to Maisie234]

I don't know anything about it. It is just the women on a Facebook group said they were thinking of trying it. It might be worth researching it abit more. I think from what I have heard they will try to match you as close as possible with the way you look.

[Maisie234 in reply to Hidden]

I will look into it. I have some savings but I really don't want to take out a loan and it's all so expensive getting. Thanks x

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

I have seen by previous posts you are over 40 and trying. This is why I started trying on my own at 36. Eventually I got pregnant through donor sperm and my own eggs at 39. I think if I had waited to meet the right person to have a child with would be in the similar situation. Still, can't turn the clock back.

[jengi]

I think it’s worth giving it a few more days! I’ve always stopped myself from testing early because I know the mental/emotional impact a negative would have on me. I like to live in a bubble of hope right up to OTD. Best of luck & look after yourself! Big hugs Xx

[Maisie234 in reply to jengi]

Thank you. I will do. I'll give it to the weekend/Fri.

Flipping IVF! I'm so so pleased for you and that gives me hope. Xx

[Lillilly]

I agree with what others have said on here: it’s still early. Especially if implantation was late. You might have a snoozy lazy one there so don’t quit the drugs yet. I know it sucks but it’s just a few more days and you’ll know for sure. Xx

[Maisie234 in reply to Lillilly]

Thank you Lilly. I will do, I'm glad I asked the question. Xx

[Picalilli99]

I’m sorry your test today was a bfn. But like others have said, it is still early. So whilst I totally understand how crap it can feel carrying on when you feel the hope has gone, it’s definitely worth carrying on with your meds for a bit longer if you can. Big hugs xx

[Maisie234 in reply to Picalilli99]

Aw thank you. I thought I was ok, but as the day goes on... you know.. All these comments cheer me up though! Tomorrow will be a better day. Good luck on your journey too. Xx

[Picalilli99 in reply to Maisie234]

Thanks. I’ve got everything crossed for you that you get your bfp v.soon🤞🤞 xxx