Should we go to a wedding?

[Camkid12]

So after 2 years TTC naturally, and a further 18 months of waiting and testing, I finally started Suprecur nasal spray 11 days ago.

We've both been really careful all through covid, and have managed not to get it! However, one of my good friends is getting married on 7th August and we have been invited to the ceremony & sit down meal. I'm not sure if I'm just being paranoid, but I don't know if I want to risk going after waiting so long to get to this point. I'm terrified one of us catches covid and the treatment gets delayed.

I have my second covid vaccine on Saturday, and baseline scan next Thursday so I can ask the clinic then, but by that time it will be too short notice to pull out, and I will feel awful for letting my friend down (although, I'm sure she would understand as she is so sweet and knows what we are going through).

What do you all think? xx

[LuxFleur]

Is there a way to go but do more social distancing? Maybe not stay for the meal? Or request a distanced table, or sit off by yourselves or something to actually eat and stay masked during speeches? That way you can show your love and support but minimize your exposure xo

[Camkid12 in reply to LuxFleur]

Yeah, I think I'll speak to her and see what kind of set-up she has organised. I'd hate to miss it, but also have to think about what's best for us. xx

[fairycakes16]

I feel for you it's really difficult. I have my FET in just over a week, and have been semi shielding. Basically just going out to buy food etc. I've had 2 jabs but not socialised with others the last couple weeks, as I didn't want to risk testing positive or catching covid.

My husband is going to a wedding alone this weekend. It's slightly easier decision for us as this is one of his friends, rather than mine, but everyone was really understanding about me not attending because of IVF. It's awful having to make these decisions, but you should definitely think about what's best for you first.

[Camkid12 in reply to fairycakes16]

It’s tricky isn’t it. Everyone says not to put your life on hold, but in some ways you kinda have to. We have a week off at the end of august, but scared to book any nights away in case I end up having to go for extra scans just prior to stims/trigger (not that our clinic have told us much, just going by the ‘standard protocol’ leaflet they sent us). Good luck for tour FET when it comes ❤️ I think you’ve got the right idea, just play it safe.xx

[JoyfulStar]

Hi Camkid, I think it is a difficult decision but I would do what what I am most comfortable doing. Like you I have been very careful through the pandemic and extra careful during treatment as I know a delay even a notification to self-isolate could lead to a delay in treatment.

For me at 43 time was a huge factor so would not have taken any chances. I was just about to start stims and lost 2 months last year when I received a notification via the contract tracing app to self/isolate because I took public transport one day into London. I knew I did not have Covid because of how careful I was but we ended up self isolating for 14 days in November and my period was due around Christmas so it was a double whammy!

Needless to say, I never took public transport again during or around my cycle. I hope you make a decision that you are comfortable with.

All the best with your journey 🙏🏾

[Belangalo]

I'm sorry you're facing such a difficult decision. I know how scary delays and losing time are so I completely understand you're legitimate concerns.

For me, after a cancelled cycle, delayed cycle and covid delays with the clinic shutting down a lot of its services...I was paranoid about losing any more time so hubby and I went into self isolation once we knew we'd be doing a 2nd cycle. It wasn't easy. We didn't tell anyone we were doing another cycle of IVF so we faced a bit of backlash from friends and family... but having a chance at being a mum was so much more important than "people pleasing" others. 😳

Personally, I wouldn't go to the wedding -if something happened that delayed my cycle I would never forgive myself. 🥺 I'd hope that my good friend would understand my painful predicament (once I explained it) and allow us to take her and her new hubby out for a really lovely celebratory meal after our cycle. My regret of something going wrong with my cycle would outweigh my regret in not going to the wedding.

Please do what you feel best about and what will make you the most relaxed and comfortable going into your cycle. That's your priority 😊 You are allowed to do what you need and want to do for this upcoming cycle. I wish you the absolute best of good luck for your upcoming cycle! 🤞🤞🤞🤞

[RecipIVF]

It’s definitely a tricky one! We have a wedding on 4th September and all being well with my very unpredictable cycle, a transfer could be the following week. My wife is bridesmaid at this wedding so don’t feel like we can let the bride down so I will be masked up and avoiding everyone (including during photos) like the plague!! It’s great your friend is sweet and not bridezilla so hopefully she can help separate you and you don’t have to miss out xx