Age 23 and one failed fresh embryo transfer.

[timasanni]

It is a really hard process, I have wanted children from as soon as I can remember. I was lucky to have found my now husband at 18 I am currently 23 about to be 24 and we have been trying since we were 20. I knew I had PCOS so it would take time but we didn't know until about 2 years ago that he had a really low sperm count. The process is so hard and I feel alone, my older sister who is 32 has the same issues but it is still so lonely. people/friends my age don't get it because they are not in the mind frame to have children just yet or have gotten pregnant by accident and everyone older than me just got pregnant so easily. It really had as people always say well get married so I did buy a house so I did get a good job so my husband did and he joints the Army with good pay and I have a decent job. but non of those things bring a child. I feel more depressed now as I have all the things it is more in my face that I'm missing a child. I am grateful for what I have it is just still lonely. People always tell me don't worry you have plenty of time but the thing is time is not promised and even if I did IVF cost money having all the time in the world will not give you money. People say you have women in their 40s that are doing the same thing as I should be happy I'm in a better position just by age but unfortunately life doesn't quite work that way.

[ZiggyandBC]

Hey, I know exactly how you feel. I’m 22 and have been told I’ll need IVF due to blocked tubes caused by endo. We haven’t started IVF yet but will be hopefully referred in the next few months. It’s such a daunting experience. Sending you lots of love xx

[timasanni in reply to ZiggyandBC]

Yes, I think I just turned 22 when they told us we had to wait for NHS funding as its starts at 23 which was painful. I hope the best for you too.

[Crazy_girl]

The sentiment is the same for everyone on this journey irrespective of age..from your perspective, all you will be thinking is for it to work since you have really been trying all that you can to get things to work..

It’s easy to say, but try to take suggestions from people whose thoughts align with yours and also who understand your feelings. Sometimes, you don’t need anyone to give you suggestions even, you just need someone who can just listen to you without being judged..

This forum is such a breather for all of us in this journey..at the least most people here will relate to or understand your feelings..

Carryon doing all that’s required as per your consultant..IVF has worked for many and let’s hope it will for us too ☺️

All the best to you..

[timasanni in reply to Crazy_girl]

thank you for your kind words