Feeling sad I can’t have another baby

[KirstyC90]

Hey everyone,

Sorry for the downer. We can’t conceive naturally and we have a wonderful little boy and he’s amazing. We had him through a frozen cycle of ivf.

I just see all my friends having their number 2 babies and just wish I had this choice to make for myself. I wish I could just say I want another one and be able to do it. I feel like I’m grieving my fertility.

Please please don’t get me wrong, I know I am extremely lucky to have my little boy and he’s the best thing that could possibly happen to us. We just can’t afford IVF again and it just makes me a bit sad.

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[XxjustmexX]

Hey I didn’t want to read and run, I know how you feel we had a little boy via fet couple of years ago he’s 2 now and we wanted nothing more than to give him a sibling. We’ve had to take a bank loan out to fund for this round but we’ve been incredibly lucky and it’s worked again am currently 8 weeks. It’s hard when ivf is so expensive but I do hope further along you are able to try again ♥️ xx

[Running79]

It’s always a difficult one!

We’re currently 13 weeks + 6 on our 3rd round of IVF, we have spent a small fortune. my husband had a son from a previous marriage, but he’s in his 20’s and has his own life

We have 2 Frosties left - I have always said I’d be happy having 1 child.

My mums urged us not to destroy the Frosties if we get the finish line with this one.

It is tempting to have another go, but I’m 41 and my husbands 59 - so for us really that is the deciding factor. So the Frosties will go all being well

[KirstyC90]

It’s so hard funding it isn’t it! I don’t honestly think it’s fair if we can’t physically have children why should we have to pay when others can just have them?! It’s so sad because it’s not like it’s a cosmetic thing we are trying to make a family! X

[Kyell2]

Yeah I feel exactly the same to be honest. I have a wee boy too and I’d love a second but We couldn’t do the stress/pain/anxiety/cost of IVF again. My OH and I agreed we’d only do it once, and when we have a wobble about it we remind eachother how miserable we were during the entire process and that’s usually enough.

We were so lucky to get lucky once and he feels like the happy ending we never thought we would get🥰

[Lou9]

Sorry to hear how you’re feeling. I can relate to this a lot. My daughter is 3 at the end of June, she was conceived via ICSI. Since having her we fell pregnant naturally last year but I miscarried at 8 weeks. I had an ectopic before having her so only have 1 tube left but it now has to be removed so we absolutely know that we won’t ever be one of those couples who fall pregnant naturally after fertility treatment. We are lucky enough to have some Frosties left but the thought of entering into the world of fertility treatment scares me. All of my closest friends are on baby number 2/3 and it can feel quite isolating. But then, like others have already said, I never ever thought we’d be lucky enough to have our daughter and she is one special girl. You aren’t alone in how you feel. 💕

[MissSaoPaulo]

We have a little girl from IVF, for which I'm forever grateful. Last month I miscarried our first attempt at having a second baby. A good friend who was pregnant at the same time as me with our first is due her second in a couple of weeks and my cousin who fell pregnant just before my girl was born has just announced her second. If I hadn't miscarried they'd have been born within a couple of weeks of each other. We still have 2 frosties, but like you, I feel sad and angry sometimes that we can't just decide and go for it but have to go on this nerve wracking rollercoaster of 2 week waits knowing we only have two chances left now and it might not happen xxx

[cazchoc]

Hi I have a 17month old and in the same situation. I have said I'm happy with 1. But sometimes the feelings are there to have another try so she could have a sibling. A few reasons why we won't be trying it's our ages I'm 43 coming up my husband 47, the expense of ivf and that it was a traumatic labour too. I suffered a lot of from the side effects from ivf too and the sadness my husband and I feel if a round didn't work. I couldn't do that to myself. The I am so happy it worked after 4 rounds and our last chance. But when people say will you have another? It hurts and I feel sad. Sending virtual hugs. Xx

[Ell493]

I know how it feels. Having your choices taken away is so frustrating. And I don't like it when people say ,"be grateful for the one you have." There's nothing wrong with wanting more. Having kids is wonderful and you have every right to want more. xx

[Facingreality]

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