Just thought Iād hop on as Iām really struggling today. Iām in my tww and had my transfer last Friday.
I was really calm about this transfer (itās our 4th attempt) but today Iām just riddled with anxiety and hopelessness as I literally feel nothing (our 1st transfer I fell pregnant and had lots of cramping, implantation bleed etc - we had a miscarriage at 7 weeks).
This time I had a tiny bit of cramping on day 2 and 3 but thatās it. Iām really tired but I just feel so low and like itās failed again.
I know everyone has different symptoms, some have them and some donāt, but itās just torture waiting and knowing in my heart it feels like my other 2 failed transfers š¢
Is there any hope when you literally donāt feel anything?! I always read people have no symptoms but then they pretty much always have cramping etc.
Sorry for a depressing post!! Xx
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Aww lovely, sorry to hear you're feeling down. SO many people don't have symptoms - not even cramping so please don't compare yourself to others. There is nothing to say that it hasn't worked - you just have to keep the faith! I found in my last 2ww the best thing for me was to not think ahead at all. Literally one day at a time....xxx
Hang in there, we have no reason to believe it didnāt work. This process is Brutal. The best thing to do is everything you can nurture you! Foot bath, hair do, books, shopping. Watch something that relaxes you. I actually went back to work for TWW and I volunteered to do extra projects to keep my occupied. I drove my self insane on my last cycle worrying about stuff out of my control. Sending you love and positive vibes you have all us ladies here cheering and supporting you
Hello my love. Sorry to hear you are struggling and itās so difficult with past complications. I am with you. 4dp5dt today and I was feeling really light and easy about everything but today am super blue. Sending you love and solidarity. I really think you donāt know until you test. Xxx
So sorry youāre having a hard day, this 2ww is one of the hardest things to do, I wouldnāt wish it on my worst enemy!! Thereās so little you can do, and people have no symptoms and get a positive and have loads of symptoms and get a positive and everything in between! Like the other said, take it one day at a time, thatās all Iāve been trying to do. I listen to the mindful IVF app too, that helps a lot. Thereās still no easy way to do it Iām afraid, talk to the amazing people on here to help too xxx
Big hugs. The TWW is so hard to go through. But at this moment you are still pregnant until proven otherwise. But it's hard not to stray into negative thoughts x
This whole process is so difficult and the 2ww feels like torture. If you have any hobbies or something you can put that nervous energy into it can really help. I went walking a lot during this 2ww and it really helped my mental health x
Hi lovely, my first transfer failed and I had no symptoms my second transfer I also had no symptoms completely wrote it off very early on and boom BFP. I know itās so hard and so stressful but until you do the test you are most defo still in! Have everything crossed for you xxx
Yes nothing ...the first thing was the night before I was told to test I had alot of cramping and old blood so thought it was over but nope. Weirdly the time I had "symptoms" I miscarried weeks later.Its so flippin hard the waiting but honestly until that test is done you will never know for sure regardless of what you are feeling or not feeling. Everonenis different and your body will react in its own way. Got everything crossed for you xxx
Ah thanks everyone for your lovely replies. Iām so grateful and Iāve managed to get out the house today and potter round a garden centre š Iām 34 doing on 64 haha.
Iām trying my best to relax but I just find it so hard. I think I just compare everything to my first bfp and so this time just feels like my failed rounds.
Iāll try and chill out a bit!
Weāre all so strong going through this so I wish you all the best of luck if youāre still trying!! Xx
If it helps I have had 5 FETs and each time has been different (all BFN except one chemical) - I couldn't tell you what is a positive sign or what isn't!! You just have to keep on going and you will! xx
Catlady the my first IVF pregnancy with my daughter 3 years ago I had all the symptoms in the 2WW. Cramps, twinges, boobs, implantation bleeding, shortness of breath. I just āknewā I was pregnant before the test date.
This time, I had zerrroooo symptoms. Not even a twinge on day 2 etc. I was convinced it hadnāt worked as I felt like I knew what to look out for having had success before. I was so sad. I tested half-heartedly knowing it would be a bfn but it was positive! Iām now 15 weeks and all good. Just goes to show that zero symptoms means nothing and all cycles are different.
Hang in there youāre almost there!! Keep us posted x x x
Thank you so much, really kind to share. Iām trying to just ignore everything now and get on with it but I just find the waiting torture and I somehow expect that I should know itās worked (like I felt the first time!)
i just saw this and wanted to send you a hug, I hope the torture feels a little better tomorrow, your one step closer to test day ā¤ļø take it hour by hour if you have to XXXX
Hate to ask again even though the zero is emphasized š¤£ did you have sore boobs, cramping at least or you just felt ā normalā. Iām 8dp5dt. I feel Normal - maybe anxious
Iām 3dp5dt and so far all Iāve felt is a tiny bit of cramping or like a dull ache a few times but I donāt think my bodyās probably recovered from the medication / egg collection yet - we forget what we put our body through leading up to this bit so I really donāt think we can tell at this point! Good luck!!!!!
I didnāt have any symptoms right from day 3 to day 6 I felt the same. The only symptoms I showed were very occasional cramps and right now I have seen my BFP so just hang in there and donāt lose hope. Watch a few series and stuff and just try to keep yourself occupied. All the best! Sending you lots of baby dustš
Hi love just here for encouragement, Iām currently on the end of my tww my beta is tomorrow. One thing I remind myself is that as of right now until Iām told otherwise Iām pregnant. Enjoy this moment I know itās like your waiting for the other shoe to drop hit ive had so many miscarriages Iāve literally lost count. Each time I fell pregnant I didnāt have any symptoms. I try to tell myself God brought me this far he will carry me the rest of the way. Best of luck to you ā¤ļø
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