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Hi fellow warriors

Thanks so much for all your kind and thoughtful messages. 💛I am so grateful to have this community for support. You’re all amazing, strong people! 💪

I tested at home this morning (day 11 after transfer) and the result was negative. 😭I think it’s probably over for us but the clinic advised me to test again on Friday and I have arranged a blood test too so at least we know conclusively either way. Has anyone experienced this and gone on to get a positive result?

I have lost hope to be honest and just feel numb today. Haven’t slept very well for the last few nights so feel exhausted too!

The end of this year marks four years since we started our TTC journey. I so want to be a Mummy more than anything but this journey is so, so hard. If this is our final result then we will definitely be taking some time away from treatment for a few months. I just need a break from it all mentally and physically for a while.

We are also planning to get a fur baby! We have decided we would like a Cavachon and are on a breeders waiting list. So at least we have something positive to focus on over the next few months. 🐶

Thanks again and wishing those people testing soon BFPs! xxx

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stephben12

Oh sweetheart I'm so sorry! I genuinely thought it would be positive for you! 😣

I dont wanna give you false hope and say yes, it could change.. because maybe it won't 🤷‍♀️ but either way you're so strong and you will get there eventually!

Im on over 5 years TTC now and it is just a devastating blow every time 💔 take some time for yourself, have a nice bath (finally!!) & have a good cry. Focus on your fur baby and getting ready for them! 🐕 I've got 3 fur babies and they've been an absolute god send for me!

Sending all my love ❤

So sorry to read this, I was so hoping for better news x

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Jane8412

I'm so sorry. I really hope things turn around for you soon. Sending lots of positive vibes. I haven't heard of a Cavachon before but i just googled and OMG! Something very exciting to look forward to xx

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Hope_1234

Awwww I am so sorry to hear this 💔 I was hoping this morning for the best results for you 😥

I hope things work out in the end.. take care ❤️❤️

Oh Kat, I’m so sorry... it’s such a tough journey, I have everything crossed for your next test.

Fur baby is a great idea, we’ve reserved a puppy, who is joining us just before Xmas, it will be the perfect distraction.

Sending lots of love xx

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Mar202035

Really really sorry to hear 😔 take care of yourself and I really hope things work out for you 💕💕💕💕

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Lots8788

So sorry to hear that hun. Massive hugs to you and lots of love. Here if you want to talk or vent. We got a miniature dachshund this year and he brings us so much love and joy and I know your little pup would too. Hope your head feels clearer after a break and some Time without ivf. xx

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aamiller405

Im so sorry... This journey is so cruel x

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Georgie17

I am so sorry. Take time and look after yourself. If you need any support or have any questions please do ask as I know how hard this journey is after 8 transfers and over 6 years without a positive. Lots of hugs xx

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Millbanks

Hi Kat, I'm so sorry to hear this - it's just the worst. It's a horrid, long, wait-ful journey this IVF malarkey. Taking some time out to process and plan next steps is a really good plan and a break has always helped me emotionally. But getting a fur baby is a wonderful plan. I have 2 kitties and (alongside my husband) they have been my rocks throughout this whole thing. Sending lots of love and strength your way xx

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Pittapatta

Hi Kat so sorry for you, was really hoping it was your time. I know you have done hpt but still wait for bloods to be sure. Glad you have your fur baby to look forward too. Sending big hugs

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Kat_15 sincere apologies if you saw post within the last 15minutes as there was an awful pre-emptive word in the text. So sorry!!

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Beatrix_K

Hey Kat I’m sorry, It’s absolutely gutting. Tonight get a take away, slouch on the sofa and have good cry.

We all - everyone on this forum- deserves a break. Big hugs. Xxx

Kat no! This is not what i was hoping to read. Its an awful journey and at this point i share your hopelessness.

I always said quitting isnt an option but some days are very dark. There are miracle stories on the internet on testing later and i do wish a miracle to happen. All my love x 💔😢

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HopefulJA

Dear Kat,

I am sorry to hear your news.

The longing feeling is so painful. Taking some time for you sounds like a good idea. You need to recover physically and emotionally.

A furbaby sounds exciting and is something lovely to focus on.

Wishing you all the best and hope you manage to get some healing and rest.

HopefulJA x

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Sas1101

So sorry Kat 💔

A fur baby sounds lovely. Enjoy your time out and focus on you. Big hugs. Xxx

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Dreamingofbaby

Hey so sorry to hear this Kat. So gutting for u. One day I hope. Def can happen. Got everything crossed for u🤞🤞. Exciting to get a fur baby though. We have a dog and she brings us so much joy. Def some similarities to a baby too. They are amazing so hope that can happen soon for u. Take good care xx

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SPLPX

So sorry for you 💔

In other news I have a cavachon and they are the best 😍 definitely good plan and hopefully will take your mind off the rubbish TTC journey we all find ourselves on xx

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Lisichka

Sorry to hear that honey. It’s heartbreaking, I know. It’s a good idea to take some time off all things fertility and focus on other good things in life. Getting a puppy is going to be great as it’ll also help shift your focus. I always took a few months off between transfers and found it helpful. Xmas season is approaching so it’ll be a good to take some time off and start again when you’re ready! Definitely don’t give up, just take a little break xxx

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