Adoption or ICSI

[Hopeful28]

Hi there

I was keen to hear people’s stories on adoption and attempts of second child through ICSI.

I really want another child and adoption is always something that I wanted to consider (before I knew of my fertility issues). I have been so lucky to have been blessed with my 2 year old daughter (through ICSI) but I would love her to be a big sister.

Recently we decided it might be a good time to think about having ICSI again for a second child but I have also been thinking about adoption too.

Does anyone have any stories positive or negative on further ICSI for second child?

Does anyone have two children where one is adopted and the other isn’t?

xxx

[Cswanlake36]

That’s great you have your beautiful daughter. Congratulations on the success 😊💗

We are waiting to start our 1st cycle of ICSI. Going to go for two cycles. If it doesn’t work then we are going to adopt. We want two children so no matter what we will be adopting. So say we have a baby from one of these cycles then that will be amazing. Then once the child is one or two, when we can we will get on the adoption list to adopt one child. So that will be the same as you if you do adopt as well as have your own daughter.

Say these two cycles fail then we will get on the adoption list as soon as possible. To adopt two siblings or one and come back a second time to adopt another child.

We have always said that if we have our own genetic child and the other is adopted that they will be equally looked after and no difference made. I always wonder myself how this works out for the families.

I’m interested to see how it goes for you if you do have a further ICSI or adopt. Have you made up your mind yet? 😊💗

[Hopeful28 in reply to Cswanlake36]

Hi. I have looked into it and contacted Barnardos. They have said we cannot adopt until our daughter is 4 as there is set age differences etc and the adopted child has to be younger. I have not contacted our local authority yet so not sure if they will be different.

We still haven’t fully decided if we should try ICSI again whilst we wait. Though that wouldn’t put adoption off the table. I have always wanted to be a foster parent and still do I just never felt I was experienced enough before having children of my own. So it’s just how we decide to proceed. Again don’t think we can foster until our little one is older.

Good luck with your ICSI 💞

[Cswanlake36 in reply to Hopeful28]

That’s great you have answers about adopting and fostering 😊💗That actually has helped me too. I just want to get the ball rolling with having even one child and especially if I would have to wait until my child is 4. So the sooner I have this ICSI the better. Getting called for the egg collection in May. I can’t wait to get that stage done.

If you have to wait until your daughter is 4 until you can adopt you could try ICSI again. It all depends on how you feel. It’s your body at the end of the day. It’s great you gave taken the time and haven’t jumped in to anything. Your decision will come to you soon. Two years will fly in. Meanwhile enjoy your daughter 😊💗🥰

[Hopeful28 in reply to Cswanlake36]

It’s an absolute rollercoaster of a journey.

I’m 38 and low AMH so time is definitely creeping up on us. We are seriously thinking about trying ICSI just now whilst we wait.

I’ll hopefully hear how your treatment is going. 💞

[Cswanlake36 in reply to Hopeful28]

It is isn’t it. My husband has a low sperm count and my AMH was slightly lower than what it should be for my age. I’m 36 and I’ll be 37 this year. We started trying TTC 4 years ago. Then got on the NHS waiting list in 2019 but we are now being seen privately.

Good luck and I look forward to hearing what your next steps are 😊💗I’ll let you know how we get on xx

[Hannakallas in reply to Hopeful28]

We contacted Barnardos 4y ago to adopt; I wouldn’t recommend them. You’re better off contacting your local council xx

[Hopeful28 in reply to Hannakallas]

Oh really. I had read up some reviews but I don’t know anyone personally who has adopted so can’t really ask anyone. Would you mind me sending you a wee private message to hear about your experience?