Transfer day tomorrow and I’m feeling very lonely...

[Princes14]

Thank you to everyone who messaged me about delaying the soft play date due to my covid swab. I didn’t go, I’ve also cancelled a few indoor type dates! 😬

It’s transfer day tomorrow, I wait anxiously to know a) if I’ve got Covid b) if our little frosty has survived the thaw and c) if I’ve got the emotional strength to get through this ALONE.

How I wish my husband could be there with me to go through this experience as we should, together 😔 I am so sad/scared/excited... all of it! And the worst part is, I have no one to share all this with as my husband and I have agreed to keep as much as possible of this quiet from friends and family... I need an outlet, and you ladies are my audience - I’m sorry 🤦🏻‍♀️ No point to this post just venting really x

[Bibisbibi]

Oh...you are not alone!we are all in this together! All warriors and we can do it!I know it's not great to be without your husband when you go for transfer. I had to travel abroad on my own and did the transfer and came back.But do you know what?When you will have your little baba in your arms ,you will then know it was worth it.Good luck for tomorrow and baby dust your way🧚‍♀️

[LCharlton]

Wishing you lots of luck xx

[Ranchu90]

I perfectly understand you. My husband had Covid just before my stim cycle. I thought that it will be over. I had no other choice just to extend my down reg cycle by another week to offer him more time to recover, at the end of the day is taking 2 to make a baby even in laborator 😂😁 I know that is a very stressful time but try to keep your mind busy with other things it will help you, trust me 😉

I wish you good luck 🤞♥️

[DaisyR]

Hi Princes!

I totally feel you! I had the transfer last week and waiting covid test results was so stressful. I even started to feel symptoms... when human mind can do.

Also, same due to covid situation, my husband was not allowed to the clinic but when have been in touch almost every moment. I’ve talked with him before and after when sending photos of the embryos ( told him : I bring the kids home from the summer camp 😀)

So relax and enjoy the moment! ( for me was pure joy).

[BettyBe]

Hi Princes14,

Don’t feel alone. I had my transfer yesterday and went in alone. I actually felt like crying because I just felt so overwhelmed with it all - excited, anxious, nervous, scared, basically I felt like a mess.

I took pictures in there to show my husband who was waiting in the car outside.

After transfer I felt nothing!! Like a huge anticlimax!! You’re not alone my lovely. I haven’t told many people , only my brother (who kind of gets it but not the emotional side). My husband has been more open with his friends. I didn’t want to tell friends incase it didn’t work and i’d have that to deal with that ontop of grief. It does feel lonely but once you get your BFP you’ll feel better 🌺 xx

[Raluca88]

Good luck Princess, you are strong, always remember that! And like the girls said it will all be so worth it when you will hold your baba in your arms! I had my transfer 6 days ago and with a day before we went in the clinic emailed with the details and at the bottom of the email it said that I can bring my partner. Maybe double check with them just in case! Xxx

[Maisie234]

Vent away! It's frustrating isn't it? Every day is another thing to worry about, but the positive is you have come so far and it's just a bit more. Good luck, think happy thoughts! X

[JNAG83]

You are not alone. <3 <3

[Ivf2020A]

You are definitely not alone, Im in the same boat no one knows im doing this , but the ladies on here have helped me so much I will be forever grateful x just wanted you to know you are definitely not on your own there are some phenomenal women on here !

[Bluebelle1]

Wishing you all the best for your transfer. I haven't told many people we are in the middle of IVF either. I don't like the added pressure especially as not many will understand exactly what we go through. This forum is here for that reason! xx

[Cinderella5]

Wishing you all the best for transfer! I had to have transfer on my own too but its ok, they may even give you a little photo from scan. Good luck.x

[PenguinBlue]

Good luck for your transfer! You’re definitely not alone - we are all here to support you! Xxx