2 eggs fertilised, hoping they will survive the night

[Mrs_MT]

Dear warriors,

I am currently on my first ivf round at age 36, turning 37 in November. Got told today that we had two eggs fertilised out of the eight collected yesterday. I am nervous with these numbers. Anyone else going through the same? Anyone have a transfer on day 3 vs day 5? Successful? How do you not lose your mind to this?

[elinamonkey]

I cant advise on this but i wish you all the luck. I takes only one to stick and if you look at statistics 2 out 8 is not a bad result as long as they are good quality

[Mrs_MT in reply to elinamonkey]

Thank you ❤️

[Florencenightingale]

I only got 4 eggs (age 33 and pretty healthy) only 1 fertilised and got to day 5, currently 32 weeks 🌈

The best advice I can give you is RELAX RELAX RELAX, put your faith in the docs and be positive. Wishing you the best of luck xxx

[Mrs_MT in reply to Florencenightingale]

Thank you ❤️

[Purple276]

Hi Mrs Mt,

Great work on getting 2 fertilised. It's such a tough time waiting for those calls especially after all those injections so all I can suggest is to try and do things to take your mind off it even for a little while.

Everyone's circumstances are different but to help me get through it I looked at it like a check list to understand what might not be working and each stage was a step closer to the dream. You know that some embryos fertilised so you know that element works which is good. We only got 1 fertilised but it made it to day 5 Blastocyst so at least know that that element works too. It sadly didn't end in the positive result but I feel better knowing that we could get a Blastocyst so worth paying for another round and 🤞 this time lucky.

Sending lots of positive thoughts your way and good luck on getting to day 3 or 5 whichever you chose. Xx

[Mrs_MT in reply to Purple276]

Thank you 🙏🏻

[Shelleybean]

We had problems with embryo development, so only ever had a few still dividing (very slowly!) on day 3 and so had 2 transferred back in on day 2 or 3 each time. We had a mmc at 8 weeks after the first cycle, then two failed cycles and now have a 4 month old from our last! So it is definitely possible. Sometimes I read of clinics pushing people to day 5 when there’s only one clear front-runner and then they have nothing to transfer 😢 Think my story highlights that the best place may sometimes be back where they belong, as we only ever ever saw one very poor quality Blast develop in the lab, but still managed to get pregnant 50% of the time. Personally I felt happier giving them a chance on day 3 and having to endure the 2ww, rather than holding out for day 5.

As for staying sane, I think I had far more of a what will be will be attitude in the final cycle. Took some time off work and enjoyed a little staycation with lots of days out. IVF is often a numbers game and I’d made peace with using Donor eggs the next cycle if that one hasn’t worked, so it seemed to take the pressure off. Good luck. I have everything crossed for you! 🤞 🍀 xx

[Mrs_MT in reply to Shelleybean]

Thank you for sharing your story and so happy it worked out for you. Waiting for the call day 2 and really don’t know what to expect. The hubby and I were discussing if we should risk pushing to day 5 because of better outcomes associated (at the risk of losing both). But your story has made us think that maybe we should consider day 3 transfer, esp if our clinic pushes for it. Thank you for the luck, I’m storing them all!! All the best on your journey x

[Shelleybean in reply to Mrs_MT]

I think the benefit of a day 5 transfer is selection of what is likely to be the strongest embryos. The better outcomes seem to be linked to this. If you have low numbers so don’t have the luxury of any choice between them then there’s not really anything to wait for and certainly no evidence that I’m aware of which indicates that an embryo would do better in the lab waiting til day 5 than back in your own body. Our clinic said put them back where they belong asap, unless you can’t stand the tww/ higher likelihood of a negative test (if they weren’t the best quality). Or possibly as someone has said below if you’re wanting more information to know what you should do next, but that isn’t always foolproof as my story highlights- no Blasts in the lab til our 3rd cycle (and this was the only one ever) yet still managed a pregnancy 2 out of 4 times.

It’s such a tough journey with lots of difficult decisions along the way. I just tried to think which option I would regret least if it was a negative outcome, but that’s not an easy thing to work out I know. Wishing you lots of luck xx

[Mrs_MT in reply to Shelleybean]

The embryologist called to say they survived!! They want me to come in for the transfer tomorrow but will give me a better update on their quality tomorrow morning. I am so relieved. Thank you for taking the time to respond, it’s come just in time to reassure me that day three transfers can be just as successful as day 5 ones. Xx

[Shelleybean in reply to Mrs_MT]

Yeyyyy, great news! Hope all goes well with the transfer tomorrow xx

[Bistbee]

We had one cycle where only 1 fertilised out of 8 eggs, it was out second cycle and I was absolutely devastated. It’s so hard when you don’t find yourself falling into the ‘average’ rates but fingers crossed those 2 are both little fighters! It really is so hit and miss with the numbers - some cycles we’ve lost over half by day 5 whereas others we’ve still got all embryos in the running, it’s so inconsistent! As for not how to drive yourself insane, i still haven’t found the answer to that! I find the days after egg collection to be the hardest as it’s totally outside of your control at this point - it’s so hard. Keep hanging on in there and good luck!!

[Mrs_MT]

Thank you 🙏🏻. Just trying to distract myself and keep things in perspective!! It is so frustrating because there is no rhyme or reason, no way of predicting how things will go X

[Bistbee in reply to Mrs_MT]

No there really isn't, its the total rollercoaster of ivf. Doctors can only give you averages and no one knows specifically how your cycle is going to go. I've learnt to literally only look ahead one scan/appointment at the time and try not to predict well if x happens then y will, because it NEVER works out that way and usually you just end up trying to come up with all possibilities in your head which is truly what drives you insane. Its a lot of just living in the now which is incredibly hard to do but I've learnt the hard way that its an easier way to get though this than constantly second guessing how thing might turn out.