Positive stories for anyone that has achieved a BFP after multiple attempts?!

[Pebbles345]

Hello,

I am just shamelessly looking for stories of hope! I know there are so many people go on to have their BFP's after many attempts but today I just really need to see some of the those stories as I just don't know how I can keep putting my body & mind through this relentless process. It's been 4 years and although we've only been through IVF for the last year it feels longer.

This forum has always made me feel connected to others and given me such hope so if anyone has any positives against all odds then that would really help! Thanks everyone. Hope you're having a good day xxx

[Starsoutside]

Hi Pebbles,

I am afraid I don't have a positive story but just wanted to say I totally understand how you are feeling. I am in my preparatory month for my third IVF cycle. I have had four transfers in total with one BFP which ended in mmc. Just feeling a bit overwhelmed and nervous about going through everything again.

I really hope you get your BFP soon and look after yourself xxx

[LMC2020]

My husbands and I’s story. Hopefully this gives a little hope ❤️

We had been trying to conceive for 2 1/2, 3 years. Never ever had a BFP. Tracked ovulation, spent a fortune on ovulation sticks, made my myself ill trying each month and my relationship suffered.

Began fertility tests. My husband had a low sperm count. We were told our chances of conceiving naturally were very low. ICSI was our way forward to starting a family.

Started our 1st round in January this year. Got mild OHSS and had to delay fresh transfer. Started prepping for a FET and it was cancelled due to COVID. Absolutely heartbroken.

Fast forward a few weeks my husband and I enjoyed ourselves. Having a few drinks and eating what we wanted.

At the end of April we got our BFP. No IVF. Just the good old fashioned way. Never did I think this would happen to us. After 3 years of trying and not even tracking ovulation or doing the deed all the time we got our BFP.

I am now 17 weeks!

Miracles do happen.

Never loose hope!

❤️

[Pebbles345 in reply to LMC2020]

Thank you so much for sharing, this is a really lovely story. Here's hoping something similar will happen for us.

Good luck for the rest of your pregnancy xxx

[Vicky-01]

Me and my husband started trying for a baby at the end of 2011, we tried naturally for 2 years then sought help from gp.

We went through lots of fertility testing through local hospital and found that i have pcos and husband has azoospermia due to being a cf carrier and having absence of the vas deferens.

I also had to lose weight to qualify for funding which took 12 months all together.

We were eventually referred to the fertility clinic where we underwent further testing and husband has surgical sperm retrieval and managed to retrieve 4 straws of sperm which were then frozen. We were then placed on nhs waiting list and started our first cycle in August 2017, this resulted in a freeze all as a suspected polyp was seen during stims. We got 10 eggs but only 2 fertilised.

No polyp was found on subsequent hysteroscopy.

We had a fet in February 2018 and had our two embryos transferred, this resulted in a bfn and i can honestly say this left me and the hubby absolutely heart broken, all our hopes since starting this journey were shattered and it really affected our mental health.

We spent the rest of the year having holidays and spending time with friends until we felt ready to try again, we started our next cycle in December 2018 and we got our first ever bfp in February 2019, our beautiful baby boy was born in October 2019 and is now 9 months old and napping on my lap.

Good luck with your future ivf and don't lose hope.

Be kind to yourself and be there for each other.

[Pebbles345 in reply to Vicky-01]

Hello,

Thank you so much for the message, its really given me some hope! Sometimes when you're going through this it just feels like you're the only one but reading other people's positive stories really helps.

Thank you for brightening my day xx

[KiboXX]

Hi pebbles,

I’m so sorry you’re feeling down, I know how hard it is when you start thinking about how many more times you think you can put yourself through this. Wanted to give you my story as hopefully it will give you a little piece of the hope and determination you’re looking for today❤️

Me and my hubby tried for 3 years before starting IVF in August 2018. I got told my AMH was low for my age (8.5 at 33) and hubby had poor motility. First round we got a BFP but miscarried at 6 weeks and had nothing to freeze. Rushed into my second fresh round too quickly, it was a disappointment from start to finish, low number of eggs, early transfer, bfn and nothing to freeze. Third fresh round again bfn and nothing to freeze. I took a few months break, started to deal and process that this might never happen for us and come to terms with that. We decided to speak to a few new clinics and see if it was worth trying another round. We found one that we felt really listened to us and instantly felt it was worth another shot! Did our fourth fresh round in Nov 2019, with a completely different protocol and a freeze all approach with PGS testing. We got three perfect embryos in the freezer and I’m currently 29 weeks pregnant from our first FET of one of those in Jan 2020. Every day I look down and can’t quite believe it.

Don’t give up, always here if you want to talk ❤️ xxxx

[Pebbles345 in reply to KiboXX]

Thank you for sharing this. Weirdly even though our circumstances are different I feel like your hurdles a similar to ours. Something about that constant having to get up and dust yourself off each time.

Your message has really cheered me up and reminded me that there is still hope even if it hasn't happened so far. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy xxx

[E_05]

Hey, I totally understand needing to hear of hope after heartache. Our ttc journey was 6 years which Included trying naturally then 7 months of clomid, 3 surgery’s, 4 cycles of IVF of which 2 ended in mmc but finally my 5th cycle brought me my happy ending who is now 15 months.

I know most days it doesn’t feel like it and treatment is relentless but if you can keep going x

[Ivfgotadream]

I’m Now 8 weeks with twins following 5 rounds of IVF, 4 transfers, 5 miscarriages, 2 ruptured ectopics and loss of both tubes - all within the last 3 years.

It’s been exhausting and we’ve given it everything emotionally, physically, financially as well as nearly dying twice! I had times where I felt like giving up and actually I was at a good place during lockdown without constantly having IVF to think about with clinics being closed and felt like naturally we’d come to the point where we’d be a peace and have no regrets stopping. But it’s taken a while for us to reach that point x

[Bobenhams3]

I had 3 failed cycles before 4 and 5 were successful. I now have 3 boys. Good luck xx

[SJL2609]

Hiya....I know how you feel...we had four years of trying, four cycles of IVF...6 embryos transferred and I am now pregnant with our first baby girl! I know how you feel and how tough it is to keep going...and honestly, i can’t really say anything as to why you should ‘stay positive’....other than just keep going...take it one day at a time and let yourself have a bad day when you need it! Sending lots of love xx

[Lilbid1990]

Congrats on your little girl. Do you mind me asking if you did anything differently in the 4th successful cycle?

[Lauraco1]

Hello, we have been trying for 3 years and had nine rounds of ivf I am now 25 weeks pregnant with a little girl on our 10th attempt through Fet!

Keep going if you can, it's a hard process but just take it one day at a time xx

[Hartley1]

We got married 2009. We had been married for 3 years in 2012 and started trying naturally...3 years later we realised we had a problem. We moved house from north to south London and started the process of IVF in 2015. We saw our GP and started off on the NHS...had few tests done and started treatment Aug 2016. Egg collection and 3 failed cycles from Aug 2016 to Aug 2017. Had a huge break...felt lost as all tries with NHS now over...had to try and figure out which private clinic to go to...eventually settled with the Lister...many more tests done this time as wanted answers. Hubby was referred to urologist...lost 2.5stone in weight, we both made massive lifestyle changes ...I read and implemented lots of recommendations from It starts with the egg, supplements, but also weekly acupuncture, joined gym did yoga three times a week, hired a weekly PT. Had time off work...fourth cycle started Jan 2020...and I've just passed 24 weeks pregnancy I had lost all hope at one point...but something told me to keep going. I even restored my faith in God and prayed on this last cycle...it paid off...dont lose hope xxx