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I wrote a poem needed to get it out *Potential Trigger Warning* It is what should have been my due date on Sunday 12th April.

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Something that most men and women take for granted, for the rest of us it is something that can leave us haunted.

Trying and waiting with no success, month after month trying not to obsess.

The doctors then say "IVF would be next", this is exciting, you think, but then come all the checks.

Tablets, injections, blood tests, and scans, unpredictable appointments meaning you can no longer make plans.

The two week wait, the fight between being positive and realistic. Could it be side effect of medication or a symptom of pregnancy that is making me sick?

The stress and strain, then all made worthwhile, we finally got those two lines... we are no longer infertile.

The wait was over, our dreams had come true, well to be honest with the vomiting and exhaustion deep down I already knew.

The joys of sharing our amazing news, "it worked" was it enough to say, they didn't need any clues.

Only telling those closest, because of the 12 week unwritten rule. A notion that implies a miscarriage before then would be any less cruel.

The feeling of excitement, hope and happiness was indescribable. The bond and amount of love we had for our baby instantly was truly unbelievable.

Knowing the risks within the first dreaded 12 weeks, "its okay we have done everything right, googled all the tips and techniques".

Thinking surely it's taken too much for us to get here, life cannot be that unfair? Unexpectedly that hope you have leaves you completely unaware.

Feeling lucky and grateful everyday, which can be so quickly and painfully snatched away...

In the bathroom sat crying in the corner, in a split second I had gone from a mother to a mourner.

Pleading with my body to make my baby stay, praying to anyone listening, please don't take my baby away.

Our baby couldn't stay, despite the love it would receive. "It's nothing you have done" is something that took me a while to believe.

The questions, blame, guilt, depression and self-doubt. The happiness, future, plans gone, vanished, over, bang lights out!

The Doctor said it was chromosomal abnormalities, that meant your baby couldn't stay, unfortunately 1 in 5 pregnancies will end in this way.

My due date is nearing, something that should have been life changing. Instead this day will forever be painful and draining.

But we have to pick ourselves up and prepare for round 2, 3 or 4. To hopefully one day fill that hole that is deep within our core.

The amazing support from the fertility community has really helped me get through. Strangers bonded by pain and hope from a subject and process which is still so taboo.

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MD123

Lovely poem, captures everything perfectly! ❤ Thinking on you xx

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JadeH92 in reply to MD123

Thank you so much! Take care ❤

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Rainbowhope

Thank you for sharing this. I'm thinking you. ❤🙏👍

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JadeH92 in reply to Rainbowhope

Thank you 😘😘

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Ladyjay81

Beautiful poem. This will resonate with so many of us.

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JadeH92 in reply to Ladyjay81

Thank you! It's awful to know people will resonate because I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy but its comforting to know we aren't alone ❤❤

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KiboXX

Jade this absolutely hit me right in the heart this morning. So beautifully written, I have felt every second of it. Thank you for sharing it with us xxxx

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JadeH92 in reply to KiboXX

Thank you! ❤

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aamiller405

This is perfect. My due date should be 15th.. Youve captured it perfectly. Love to you as this difficult date approaches xox

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JadeH92 in reply to aamiller405

Thank you and the same to you! Take care 😘

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Tryagain45

What an amazing poem...it's everything we have lived through....thank you so much for sharing.. and due dates are so hard...but the lead up is worse I think....and afterwards I hope you will feel some relief...I know I did. Huge hugs for Sunday❤️❤️❤️❤️

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JadeH92 in reply to Tryagain45

Awe thank you, it's not perfect but it's honest and I hope so to! Thanks again ❤❤

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Ranchu90

Amazing, amazing, amazing ❤️❤️❤️ I love poems... but this one is special

Sending you 🤗 and ❤️

Stay safe!

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JadeH92 in reply to Ranchu90

🤗 thank you! So kind! You to xx

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Pinkpaw2

That’s so lovely made me cry 😢 x

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JadeH92 in reply to Pinkpaw2

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So relatable reading every word of this😢 no words because you said it all. No matter how far we were along i like to believe the little one is another angel that is wishing you well from above❤️ stay strong lovely

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That is a lovely thought, thank you! 👼❤

This poem is absolutely amazing. I went through a miscarriage in February my self and it doesn’t ever get easier but this poem is everything I feel❤️ it’s beautiful x

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JadeH92 in reply to fertilitystruggle

I am so sorry for your loss. It doesn't get easier but you learn to cope and you learn to laugh and live again (I didn't think I would again for first few months) so it will get easier. Thank you for your kind words! Take care ❤ xx

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MyLittlePinkness

I‘m just reading this now, in tears, just so sad and true. I see it was written 2 years ago. I hope you got your little miracle in the meantime💕💕💕

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