Just checking in

[bms12]

Hi guys, hope you are all keeping safe and well during the current events! I know this is a hard time- especially for those having to prolong their dreams even further and I am gutted for all of you that are currently back in the waiting game 😔. I also know how stressful this time is for those who are now expecting their long awaited baby/babies as nobody knows for sure what impact this may have.

I myself work for the NHS with covid+ patients and I'm 13 weeks pregnant so I understand these concerns. After also waiting 6 years so far to bring my baby home.

Anyway, my point of this post was maybe it would be a good idea to start a wellbeing post where we can all check in on each other, talk about how were feeling right now for old and new members alike.

Sending all love and safe wishes for yourselves and your family xx

[DianeArnold]

Hi bms. Just wanted to wish you well with your ongoing pregnancy, and hope you managed to have your 12/13 weeks scan. Keep safe. Diane xx

[bms12 in reply to DianeArnold]

Thank you, I did but not without some confusion as they didnt want to scan me at first because I work in the hospital.. madness! Just waiting for my NIPT results as the combined testing came back high risk for down syndrome but so thankful to be low risk for Edward's and pateus! X

[DianeArnold in reply to bms12]

Hi bms. I shall be thinking of you too. Love and hugs. Diane xx

[crisps88]

Good luck lovely to hear your story. Wishing you well in your pregnancy xx

[ttcemmie]

Hi lovely. Thanks for checking in! Glad to hear all is well in your pregnancy. Lots of love xxx

[Emmaxxx]

👏🏻for one of our NHS hero’s. What a good idea.

I am due to have a c section in 2 weeks and I am worried that I am going to be left alone to cope with everything as I know and I totally understand that my partner has leave straight after the section. I am worried it will effect all of our bonding xx

[bms12 in reply to Emmaxxx]

Congratulations on your little one! I'm sorry that this unfortunately isnt the mist enjoyable of times. Did you know how long they want fo keep you in afterwards provided everything is straight forward? I know some ladies have been allowed jone after 24 hours and s few that have had morning procedures have been allowed home that night! Hopefully the same goes for you. Your partner and baby will still bond even though there may will be an unpleasant delay and dont ever feel alone as the midwives are doing their absolute best to pick up where partners can't and don't feel as though you aren't able to ask for help and express your concerns. Good luck lovely, you and little one will be home before you know it spending time as a family! 💕

[KiboXX]

Hi bms12,

Glad to hear you’re doing well in your pregnancy 😊😊😊 What a lovely idea to do this post!

I’m 15 weeks tomorrow and it feels so weird. I’m incredibly incredibly happy and grateful to be pregnant after so long and still pinch myself everyday and then at the same time it’s also so worrying! Almost feels like a bad joke that I’m finally pregnant and there is a bloody pandemic! 🤦🏼‍♀️

I haven’t left the house in weeks so I completely commend you for the work you are doing!! Thank you xxx

[bms12 in reply to KiboXX]

Thanks kibo! It definitely is a strange feeling isn't it and I too keep joking and saying trust me to have a pandemic pregnancy Haha. I've never been one for timing- was also meant to go to disney world in September for 2 weeks 😂 inside I'll probably be awaiting induction/ c section 😂. Definitely a worrying time, just make sure if you make a trip the shops just remain 2 metres apart and wash your hands and change clothes as soon as you're home. I've personally been taking cloth rags (will be washable baby wipes in the near future) soaked I'd diluted zoflora and using that to wipe down my door handles, steering wheel and trolly handle with. It's ok to be anxious - it's an enemy we can't see coming. Just do your best to start safe but also remember that if you catch you ar likely just to have mild symptoms and some people dont even realise they have had it - who knows you may had had it already 🤷‍♀️ just carry on doing your best xxx

[Rainbowhope]

I think you're so brave to be working in the NHS right now and being pregnant. I was 13 weeks as of yesterday and have been working from home for 4 weeks now. I'm going slightly crazy. My husband is so paranoid he doesnt like me going out even for a walk. I have been walking but not a lot. The oockdiwn is making me feel lazy and put of shape. I have acute asthma so I am in a slightly higher risk category. I hope everything is okay soon. I just dont see how anything can change without a vaccine. I also find it funny that we wait so long to get pregnant and then there's a pandemic no less! Its mad. Wishing you keep yourself and bump safe. Well done for caring for others at this crazy time. 👍😘🤞🙏❤

[bms12 in reply to Rainbowhope]

Hey lovely, I'm 14 weeks today so due about the same time? I'm just as committed to my clients/patients as I am my baby but it is challenging. I've been asked to go and work at one of the new nightingale hospitals for 4 weeks however I think I may have to decline as much as I would love to go. If your up for it I'd go for a walk early morning, it's a quiet time and also really relaxing. Especially noe its light out at 6

[Rainbowhope in reply to bms12]

Bless you. You're an angel. Just look after yourself. I'm completely shook since reading about the death if a pregnant nurse. I'm not saying that to scare you. I just want you and your baby to be safe. Yes, we are due the same time. I'm 14 weeks tomorrow. 🙏👍🤞❤😘👌🤗

[bms12 in reply to Rainbowhope]

I know it's really nerve wracking the number of healthcare staff that have died and now those that have just given birth. My 16 week phone call appointment is next Friday and I think I will speak to them about my anxiety and stress levels as I am definitely struggling. Even more so now people are treating us care workers like filth on their shoes (my community work - hospital patients have been lovely) and I am sick to my back teeth if it - only a matter if tile before I seriously lose my calm with them. Seem to think the world revolves around them and them alone when actually I'm probably still more at risk then half the clients that I visit - and they tend to be the ones with an issue. Theres my rant for this week Haha

[Rainbowhope in reply to bms12]

Share your concerns with your manager and if they dont listen get your union involved. With everything us women have been through nothing is more important than the health of us and our babies. Xxx

[bms12 in reply to Rainbowhope]

Already have done, honestly nobody is bothered. I've spoken to few people and a maternity legal adviser is calling me on Monday morning but acas gave me different advice depending on the advisor. G.P surgery wont help (always been a rubbish surgury and I wouldnt be under them if I wasnt pregnant - i left them at 16 when I said I was concerned as I wasnt having periods and they responded with - and I quote "well it's not like it matters right now because you dont want kids at your age" and that was it. My maternity assessment period starts on the 7th of may so i cant afford to be signed off sick so just having to put up with it 🤷‍♀️ x

[ocean_a]

Hey, I am glad you are feeling fine. Is it safe for a pregnant woman to work with covid+ patients?? Take care of yourself and your baby x

[bms12 in reply to ocean_a]

At the minute I havent much choice as I've been provided surgical masks, aprons gloves and goggles. Until I'm 28 weeks our saftey doesnt come first unfortunately