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So I’ve been waiting for my period to start all week (which is normally like clockwork) and obviously this month it is late just to annoy me. Now it’s finally started the clinic aren’t starting any new cycles because of corona AAAAHHHHH!! I was so upset this week and then when I got the news finally yesterday I was almost relieved. I was nearly hospitalised after EC last time and now is not the time for that to happen so maybe it’s fate. It’s just so so frustrating. It just feels like one set back after another. Just can’t catch a break.

Thinking of all those in the same boat. I know there are many. Focusing on the important thing of keeping all friends and family safe at the moment. Which is, after all, the most important thing in these crazy times.

Much love to all

Xx

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Net25

I'm so sorry to hear this and I can only imagine your frustration and disappointment at what is such a critical time for us ladies going through this. If you don't mind me asking, which clinic are you with? Xxx

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hifer in reply to Net25

Thanks. London women’s clinic x

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Hi Hifer, I am in the same situation and am waiting for my period to come next week to do my FET at the same clinic. It is so annoying that the clinic has postponed all treatments. I find the cornavirus has cause so much inconvenience to our lives!

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hifer in reply to

Sorry to hear that. I understand your frustrations I really do. x

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Thanks!!! We are in it together.

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Gem2410

Hi. Mine has been cancelled too. So frustrating. My period was a week late. My clinic said they don’t expect to start fertility treatment again for a few months. Feel like I really geared myself, and was ready to go again for this to happen. I know there’s more important things going on in the world right now. You’re right the main thing is keeping everyone safe. Still can’t believe this is all happening xx

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hifer in reply to Gem2410

Agree with everything you’ve said. Totally know how you’re feeling. Much love xx

Hi hifer, so sorry to hear your cycle cancelled, so frustrating. I was due to do a frozen cycle this month due on over the next week but I am excepting mine to be cancelled as well 😢 as most clinics seem to be. I rang them at the start of the week but they had no update but read the HFEA guidelines and looks they are suggesting not a good time to get pregnant. I am annoyed with my clinic tbh as I would have thought they would have let me know by now. Medication arriving next week so want to know if to cancel it as not sure how long this will go on for and don’t want to exceed expiry date as would mean paying. I appreciate my cycle is not important in grand scheme of things but can’t help feel frustrated as I am 43 and time is running out. Stay safe and look after yourself xx

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hifer in reply to

Mine hasn’t been super good at communicating either which surprised me. I think they are just overwhelmed with the work load. I would be surprised if your meds expired but please don’t quote me. I was using meds this round that were left over from last July which were fine (as long as refrigerated) and non refrigerated lasts a while too I think. Please check though. Maybe call your provider? Really feel your frustration xx

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Clinic just called me to say not starting any new cycles not surprised, I am now stuffing my face with cake in an attempt to make myself feel better 😡🤣 I will be having lots of bad food and drink this weekend that’s for sure as I had been really good diet and drink wise now I think what the heck! Asked the clinic to cancel my meds as thought easier with not knowing how long this will take and frankly would rather not see them as it will only frustrate me further🤣

Yes they are probably over whelmed with work the nurses are lovely and I don’t blame them they are all just trying to keep us all safe and ensure we have a healthy and stress free cycle/pregnancy I am just feeling it today amongst the stress of everything else. At least I know now and can move on rather than being in limbo. How r u feeling now? Xx

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hifer in reply to

I’m going to have a glass of wine tonight too so I’m with you on that one 🍷. Eat all the cake you like!! Yes good shout on meds. Mine are now taking up the fridge when I need the space for food!! I feel better, like you, just for knowing. It’s the uncertainty that’s the nightmare. The thing is, we’re all in the same boat so we can all support each other. Ultimately it’s to keep us all safe so we can’t really argue but still it’s sooooo annoying!! Enjoy your food and drink. Big hugs xx

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You have totally spoken my mind, Coral! I emailed my clinic and was told my treatment has been postponed. I would suggest you calling your clinic to find out.

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Hey Dreambaby thanks for your message, oh dear sorry to hear yours is cancelled it sucks hey and for you to email them and then they tell you is poor. Let’s try and keep our chins up hey, I will probably have 3 chins by the time the corona virus has passed due to self isolation and no ivf cycle!! 😂 xx

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Hi Coral, thanks for your good vibes. Your msg has cheered me up. Lets' keep our immune systems strong ans prepare for our next cycles. Keep in touch! Xx

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Glad it has, yes let’s do this I will follow you and look forward to us both doing a cycle soon take care xx

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Thanks, definitely. Best of luck!!! Xx

Gutted for you, I am in a similar boat.. and with the age clock ticking. I think its ultra hard as it takes time to psych yourself up for a cycle, and for lots of us the positive of starting a cycle really helps as it feels like your are 'doing something' to fix things.. the fact we are all in this horrible limbo is really disheartening. Huge hugs xx

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hifer in reply to

Yes couldn’t agree more. Now we’re in limbo. Big hugs back xx

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Hi Daisy, I totally agree with you!!! Stay safe! X

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Hey Daisy how r u doing hun?

Yes agree when I am going through a cycle I feel like something is happening even though I am dreading the outcome in case it’s negative. Now with nothing happening I just feel super sad. But hey I will get over it people on here have been through worse including yourself and you are always so positive so I am trying to take a leaf out of others books and not let it get me down. Take care been thinking about you since your last cycle xx

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londonrc

I’m sorry your cycle has been cancelled - so deeply frustrating when you just have your mind set on it and prepping etc - it’s such a weird time - try to stay healthy and fit and as positive as you can - it’s all out of our hands at the moment - your time will come. X

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hifer in reply to londonrc

Thank you xx

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Cinderella5

I feel exactly the same lovely! I thought we were finally catching a break when we got those magical new embryos but now we cant even plan to use them. My period hasnt arrived yet which is a good thing this time as it was going to be perfect timing for planning our next move and now we cant plan anything! So utterly pee'd off at the world but I guess we have to be grateful that we're healthy. I work in a hospital and the amount of stuff getting cancelled and delayed is truly awful and for patients that potentially are facing cancer diagnosis' and no operations being carried out etc it must be hell for them!! Love to you too and keep safe!xx

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hifer in reply to Cinderella5

It’s so frustrating isn’t it and I know you’re going through such a tough time. Yes we have to think about all other people that are facing more potential life threatening issues. You’re so right and it really does put things into perspective. They must be so stressed and upset. Stay safe and thank you for being one of our amazing troopers that keeps the health system going xx

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Cinderella5 in reply to hifer

Thank you! It really is frustrating, I had a fall out with my brother last night partly due to my frustration and his severe lack of sympathy! Oooops! Then again we fall out regularly so hey ho Im sure it'll blow over!xx

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hifer in reply to Cinderella5

It’s so frustrating. It’s like a different level of frustration I’ve never felt before. So out of control. People that haven’t been through IVF will just never get it. Sorry he wasn’t empathetic. We’re always here for you when you want to vent. Much love xx

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Hey there just to say wishing you well Cinders, you are right there are worse off than us. Hope you are taking care of yourself xx

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Cinderella5 in reply to

There are but its hard to see it sometimes.....Im so pee'd off right now but the fact that AF has just shown up probably explains me being a grumpy, weepy cow.....or that's my excuse and Im sticking to it! Ha ha ha Hope you're doing ok too!xx

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Yes you are so right I really feel for all the people affecting by the CV and those that have it worse my friend died of cancer last week and I keep telling myself what I am going through is nothing in comparison but then I just feel really sad and frustrated that I can’t have what I want most in the world and feel really sorry for myself, guess we all have days that like.

Oh sorry you are feeling so crap it’s always horrible when af comes anyway especially after a failed cycle and the all the hormones don’t help together with everything that is going on in the world. Sending you a virtual hug xx

I think I will be the same when my period comes in fact it’s not due for another week and I am still grumpy and frustrated 🤣🤣 take care xx

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Cinderella5 in reply to

Im so sorry to hear of the loss of your friend, that's terrible! Virtual hugs right back at you!! Yes, I just feel we've been punished enough and now we cant even do IVF which isnt exactly a pleasure in itself. Urrgghhh anyway, nothing we can do but moan here and grin and bear it! You take care too.xx

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Yes agree this place is a godsend as you are never judged can speak your mind and let it all out as everyone knows exactly what you are going through, we pick each other up when times are tough and offer positivity xx

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ttcemmie

Oh noooo. Sorry to hear this. IVF is just one setback after another! That is the whole journey, it feels like. You're right though - wouldn't want to risk going to a hospital during these times! That is my main worry - that, and running out of food because of the hoarders! Stay safe! xxxx

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hifer in reply to ttcemmie

God I know. If corona doesn’t get me then scurvy might!! Finding fruit and veg in London is proving more difficult!! Xx

I feel you! I hope we get this under control as soon as possible but dont have hope it will happen soon. Praying for a very hot summer so it might help overwinning the virus. Im also anxious that after it is under control waiting lists will be longer due to all cancelled cycles😢 biological clock please stop ticking!! X

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hifer in reply to

I know I’m so with you. We are also looking at having to cancel our wedding in July too. Seriously you couldn’t make it up! Xx

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Cinderella5 in reply to hifer

Awww noooooooo! This whole situation has a blood lot to answer for! You must be devastated......and I thought I was pissed off!xxx

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hifer in reply to Cinderella5

Yes but we’ve kind of lumped it all together in the ‘at least we’re alive and well’ category. Now I care about my friends and family and staying well. We’ll see what financial implications it all has!! Wine is the only answer right now 😉xx

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Cinderella5 in reply to hifer

Ha ha ha yes wine or gin is definitely required.....I'll have some for you too!!!xx

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hifer in reply to Cinderella5

Please do xx

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Lavender96 in reply to hifer

Aww Hifer, that’s a double blow, I’m so sorry!! I was pretty annoyed at my FET getting cancelled but that’s nothing in comparison! Definitely get on the wine, I’ll also be having one for you too xx

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hifer in reply to Lavender96

Thanks hun. I know it’s literally all a nightmare!! We’re drinking through it tonight xx

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RhinoCat

So sorry pet 😐 it’s all a mess everywhere just now, it’s a world thing though and decisions, hard decisions, are being made to save lives.

You will be annoyed for a few days but as you already know, now is not the time for any extra things on the nhs.

Rest up sweet one 💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💖💖💖💖💖💖

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Italy300618

Oh gosh 😱 I am so sorry lovely 💔 its devastating. Its just not fair is it. We cant fo ahead with treatment either (was meant to start sunday) its painful. But I think maybe it's done us a favour, he world has gone mad, ivf is tough enough as it is without this in the background. Sending a big hug xxx

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hifer in reply to Italy300618

Totally agree!! So sorry you’ve been delayed too. Fingers crossed for when you can start xx

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