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New clinic guidelines.. I have to decide to continue with FET or not.. What would you do?

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So because of the corona virus my clinic has issued new guidelines.

They won't start new cycles. And will freeze eggs of any people who have just recently started their drugs.

In regards to myself because I'm in the middle of my FET. They have given me the choice to continue with transfer or abandon cycle and restart after this has all settled at no monetary loss.

What would you do?

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Jozie19 profile image
Jozie19

Will they refund you? X

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aamiller405 in reply to Jozie19

Yeah they've said they carry out treatment when things have settled at no extra cost to us x

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recidwen

I am just about done with down-reg with a FET and would give my right arm to carry on with transfer (haven’t heard yet). My thinking is this, there is no known risk to pregnant women and no record of transmission inutero and if it works, it won’t be long till we are all in self-isolation anyways. Xxxx

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aamiller405 in reply to recidwen

This is how I feel too I just wanted to check I wasn't being selfish with wanting to carry on.. I hope you get to continue!! xo

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recidwen in reply to aamiller405

Not at allllllll! We have no idea how this will all unfold. Xxxx

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Chel91

I just had a fresh transfer yesterday. I had to sign some paperwork basically stating that the advice is NOT to get pregnant and I was doing so at my own risk.... Either way, for me the risk seems low to pregnant women and I'm happy to self-isolate. It's an entirely personal decision though, so best of luck to you whatever you decide! xx

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ttcemmie in reply to Chel91

That's so crazy! Ridiculous. That is overkill. It's not people getting pregnant that we need to worry about..... That is not the main risk with this virus! x

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Chel91 in reply to ttcemmie

Totally agree! xx

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aamiller405 in reply to Chel91

Wow that's a lot to put on you.. Wishing you all the best.. Im definitely swaying to go ahead x

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ttcemmie

Hi lovely. When is your frozen transfer? For me, if I am in the middle of a transfer I would want to continue as IVF can be a very long journey (and we don't know how long this virus situation is going to go on!), but this is obviously completely a personal decision. I would be taking every precaution for your safety and your health, but that goes without saying even if you weren't going through IVF! xxxx

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aamiller405 in reply to ttcemmie

I'll get my date on Thurs all being well transfer should be about a week or so away. I'm def swaying to continue cause like you say who knows when this will settle xo

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ttcemmie in reply to aamiller405

Hope it all goes well for you. xxxx

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Libsie3103

My cycle was cancelled yesterday but due to my lining and not corona. I'm gutted as I'll be 43 in a few weeks and I've read that a few clinics won't be doing cycles again until July... If we knew it would work then that would be different but the reality sadly is that it might not work and I'd hate to wait til July and for it then not to work and have to wait longer. If I had the option I would go ahead, based on what I have read about the risk to pregnancies, and self isolate but as others have said it's a personal decision. Wishing you lots of luck with whatever you decide xx

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aamiller405 in reply to Libsie3103

I'm so sorry to hear that you weren't able to continue 😔 x

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October84

I had the same phone call, due to have embryo transfer on Saturday and they told me it’s up to me. I’m going through with it, I’m able to work from home for as long as needed. My work are very supportive. I feel I have waited so long and put my body through too much! I’m doing it, I know to the average joe it sounds insensitive but I do t know how long I’ll have to wait to do it again! Lots of love to you all. ❤️

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Keepingfaith85 in reply to October84

Not insensitive at all! Good luck for Saturday 💫💞xxx

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October84 in reply to Keepingfaith85

Thank you so much! ❤️

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aamiller405 in reply to October84

Best of luck to you... Completely understand your deciosn. Unfortunately I work in an emergency service. So work at home won't be possible. If I get pregnant they can put me on safer posts I suppose but I'll still have to go to work and face the associated risks xo

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Italy300618

Argh! That's so unfair! If it was me I would go ahead with transfer, but go with what you feel is right....xxxxx

What clinic are you with?

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aamiller405 in reply to Italy300618

Thank you. I'm with Belfast fertility. Previously GCRM x

Hi

my cycle was postponed, regrettably, I was hoping it wouldn't i was due ec in the coming weeks but just need to carry on regardless until I'm re starting again...

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aamiller405 in reply to

I'm so sorry. X

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Gpmg84

Hi, I’m in exactly the same boat. Wonder if we have the same clinic! Anyway I have opted to go ahead too, this is just dependent on me getting the go ahead on my scan on Friday. My lining was too thin at my last scan so hoping that it’s improved by Friday!! Good luck to you. X

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aamiller405 in reply to Gpmg84

Funny my lining was too thin aswell.. Im in on thursday. Im at Belfast fertility.. Previously GCRM. Hope all goes well! X

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Gpmg84 in reply to aamiller405

Hope yours thickens too! Mine was measuring 5.9mm need to get it up to 6mm apparently. I’ve got history of scarring etc so I’m usually on the thin side with my lining anyway. My clinic is in London. X

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Millbanks

If my clinic let me carry on I am damn well going to! Just make sure I’m super careful and isolate as much as possible. Good luck! Xxx

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aamiller405 in reply to Millbanks

Best of luck to you xo

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Chi17

I’m not sure. My clinic if open will allow me to choose but advise against it. My heart says go all in, have the transfer, deal with it. I also for my own mental health need this journey over one way or another and more waiting and being in limbo is so hard! Realistically if I were to get pregnant then I know in my last 2 pregnancies I’ve needed medical intervention after miscarriage and what if that help wasn’t available because the NHS is so over stretched? What if my clinic can’t offer viability scans etc? Would I cope mentally? I just don’t know what I would/will do!!! Lots to think about! Xx

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aamiller405 in reply to Chi17

There really is so much to consider isn't there! My guy also says go for it.. But I am taking time to consider all the options and risks too.. Good luck with making your decision xo

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Hope4040

If I was in your position I would definitely go ahead. I’m only a couple of weeks ahead of you. I had my transfer on Friday. I’m just doing everything possible to keep myself safe. That’s all we can do xx

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aamiller405 in reply to Hope4040

Thank you.. This forum has definitely helped reassure my initial gut feeling... Best of luck to you x

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Boo718

Hello we had to make the same decision yesterday. We chose to continue and hopefully our transfer will be on Monday. It’s a difficult decision to make but we have been through so much already. I don’t know when we will have the chance to do it again and we really felt that for us the right decision was to go ahead xxx we are all in this together xxx

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aamiller405 in reply to Boo718

Thank you so much.. Me and my husband are both currently in agreement to continue.. I wish you all the best xox

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Boo718 in reply to aamiller405

You too. Lots of baby dust. Xxx

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PenguinBlue

Hellp, I'm about 3 weeks behind you - I would definitely continue with the cycle as who knows what will happen next. It looks like the risk isnt as high for those who are pregnant but wish you all the luck with your decision 🤞🏽xx

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aamiller405 in reply to PenguinBlue

Thank you.. Im pretty certain I'll continue. Best of luck xo

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October84 in reply to aamiller405

I called this morning to confirm I’m carrying on. Baby dust and lots of luck to you. ❤️✨

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JoP32

I’d definitely proceed with transfer. No one knows how long this is going to last for and it could be months before you’re able to start again. Xx

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Hope45

Having gone through 2 failed cycles of IVF, and if I was in your situation, my emotional state would steer me towards having the transfer, the journey of IVF is very taxing on mind and body, if you have time for transfer, then go for it. Strict schedule would have to be followed by myself ,

I would keep all contact from now to minimum, almost isolation, and just sit and plan on how im going to pass my time for the months ahead, because clearly we don't know enough of the virus as yet, and medical advice is not in our favour. That's why pregnant women are in the vulnerable groups.

Take care and be safe,

Kind regards

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October84 in reply to Hope45

I’m really lucky, had eggs harvested Monday and work have said I can stay and work from home until I know if my cycle has been successful. They have been brilliant. Have an amazing family who straight away have said continue. IVF is so draining on the body and the mind, I feel in a good position in so far as after the transfer I can isolate at home completely. 😊

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aamiller405 in reply to October84

Yes I'm def going to continue I've decided. However self isolation is not an option for me. I work in emergency services but will take as many prescautions as possible and do everything I can to keep the baby safe x

I would carry on with it! Just need that hope these days x

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aamiller405 in reply to

Thank you.. Yes I'm going to continue! x

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aamiller405

So I've had a phone call from the clinic. She said they are strongly advising against continuing. Said that any viral infection in pregnancy highly increases the risk of miscarriage. So much is unknown that they don't know the risks to the baby now or how it might have affected them when theyre born. She strongly emphasised I would be doing this against advice.

I said I wanted to continue against advice and she said OK come to scan tomorrow and prepare for them to bend my ear again.

This is a stress we all don't need at this time.. And I'm so glad I have this forum to make me feel better about my decision to continue cause she just made me feel pretty awful!!! x

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RhinoCat in reply to aamiller405

Well, then any virus that’s already here could have the same effect. Flu a and flu b would be just as bad 🤷🏼‍♀️ seems weird they’re so against it without evidence . Go tomorrow and ask for clear reasons and scientific evidence they’ve based their decision on . My understanding was they are being cautious down to known virus impacts . But, if that was the case, ivf would never be safe 🤷🏼‍♀️ so many opinions and none with evidence to be sure . Hope tomo goes whatever way you hope 😘💖💐

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Chowlady14

I’m in a similar position to you although I’m a housewife so don’t have the risk of being on the front line with this virus. Given what you are going through do you think you could be moved as soon as you have the embryo transfer to a safer position? If the answer is yes I would press on and get the transfer done if possible. It’s such a long process any delay in it has a really negative affect on your mental health. Good luck xxx

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aamiller405 in reply to Chowlady14

yeah ill have to discuss options with my managers and see what we can do xo

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Boo718

Hello we are in the same positions hopefully getting transfer on Monday. It’s soo tough but I’m prepeared to get transfer get home somehow (I’m in spain🤦‍♀️) and hibernate for the foreseeable xxx good luck to everyone. Do t feel bad about the decision you have made xxx

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aamiller405 in reply to Boo718

aw best of luck to you! and i hope you make it home soon after xo

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hannahkc

Hi aamiller, I'm in a similar situation, my clinic rang today to advise that we have the choice to postpone or continue with FET as I am 8 days into HRT.

At the moment I am swaying towards going ahead....

When would your fet be?

Mine would be happening week beginning 30th march, but who knows where we will be by then...

The decision may be out of our hands if clinic staff have other priorities or too many of them are self isolating...

I feel like I am letting my heart rule my head in many ways but at 41 I feel I m not getting any younger to wait this out for who knows how long!

Good luck with what you decide my dear xx

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aamiller405 in reply to hannahkc

Mine would be in about 7 days or so. I should get my date tomorrow. Yes I feel like i know my heart is ruling my head but you know what we might lose a lot of things in times to come.. But I don't want to lose hope and positivity aswell x

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Liana1989

I wouldn’t carry on with the FET until all this blows over.... its a nerve wracking time being pregnant after fertility treatment never mind when the world is in a panic like this. I’m pregnant and I’m keeping my distance from everyone and anyone, and so is my immediate family I’m not risking anything- there’s a reason why pregnant women get a flu vaccine and they don’t know much about this new virus, a fever in pregnancy is bad enough and you just don’t know how your body is going to react xxx

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aamiller405 in reply to Liana1989

Thank you for your reply.. And I definitely do appreciate what you're saying.. I've made the decision to carry on.. But I do know the risks. All the best with the rest of your pregnancy x

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