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One week away from embryo transfer and it’s cancelled due to corona virus

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I am so angry I could punch a wall in. I am crying as I write this. All embryo transfers and any ivf plans have been cancelled in Greece. They are only allowing egg freezing, but they are not allowed to assist pregnancies because they just don’t know what this virus can do in the first three months. I realize I may sound selfish so please don’t judge me in my moment of weakness. I am devastated. Who know when this will all end and I was one week away

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LizzieBW

Hi Corchi,

Aww - no judgement whatsoever from your fellow IVFers. This is absolutely sh*t news 🤬 hugs from my end or we can all punch a wall with you 👊 xx

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Corchi in reply to LizzieBW

Thank you. I am so angry at all that is being robbed from all of us. We have gone through so much already and now we are going to be denied getting our embies put inside us????

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LizzieBW in reply to Corchi

I don't have any words good enough to express how sad and unfair this is 😢 do what you need to today whether that's letting the tears out, screaming into a pillow or hitting the gym to punch the life out a punch bag. What a rollercoaster ride xx

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Corchi in reply to LizzieBW

I know ... all these women being robbed now because of this stupid virus ... I’m gutted 😔😢

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cggregory in reply to Corchi

It just doesn’t make sense to me. Are they telling the general population to avoid pregnancy? Or just people receiving fertility treatment? It feels discriminatory. If they were cancelling because they need the hospital beds, I’d totally get that. But it should be your choice whether you want to have a transfer (at least at this stage, when there is very limited evidence on how this affects pregnancy).

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Corchi in reply to cggregory

No they are saying that they can not take the risk of assisting pregnancies as they are not sure what could happen in the first three months of the “dangerous”’part of a pregnancy. It’s the new law here in greece where I am. I agree with you and that’s what I said but this is not from my doctor but from the health and reproductive something or other of greece and if doctors go ahead they can loose their license or get a fine

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cggregory in reply to Corchi

Yes, at some point I suppose we have to just trust the experts and respect the law. But it still doesn’t take the pain away 💔

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Corchi in reply to cggregory

Exactly

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Italy300618 in reply to cggregory

I agree with you xx

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KiboXX

Oh Corchi, I’m gutted for you. You don’t sound selfish at all, it’s completely ok to feel devastated. So sorry, sending you a big hug xxx

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Corchi in reply to KiboXX

Thank you stay safe xx

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Italy300618

Oh gosh Corchi, I am so sorry to hear this, as if you havent been through enough, its so unfair! I want to punch that wall for you! Argggh xxxx

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Corchi in reply to Italy300618

Thanks now I just feel numb. I’m sure I’m a few days I’ll feel better but right now I want to scream at how unfair it all is

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Italy300618 in reply to Corchi

My heart goes out to you. I would feel exactly the same, I still dont know if mine will be cancelled yet xx

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Corchi in reply to Italy300618

Where are you based?i hope you are luckier than me love xxx

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Italy300618 in reply to Corchi

UK- Midlands at private clinic. On Friday it was proceed as normal, but things are changing daily x thank you x

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Corchi in reply to Italy300618

Pray for you

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Cinderella5

Im so sorry Corchi, its gutting when you have had to wait and even worse when you've planned to go ahead. Bless you, sending hugs.xx

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Corchi in reply to Cinderella5

Thanks Cinderella ... who knows when this will all blow over. Doctor said indefinitely until further notice. Could be months. Panic attack

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Cinderella5 in reply to Corchi

I know, I just heard from my coordinator first thing this morning that she is cancelling all treatment for the forseeable. We were hoping to go out to Athens end of April but not looking that likely now! So disappointing.xx

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Corchi in reply to Cinderella5

I’m so sorry. I know how much you have been through. Sending love

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Cinderella5 in reply to Corchi

Well there isnt anything we can do about it! Its all a bit shit but we've been through worse and can only hope they relax things a bit in the future!!xx

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cggregory

Oh, love, I really feel for you. You are not selfish at all; I would feel the exact same way. This process is hard enough already without a global pandemic to contend with. Sending love ❤️

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Corchi in reply to cggregory

Thanks for understanding. This forum is the only thing that really makes me feel better in some way. No judging just listening ...

No not at all selfish. You had set your heart on going to Greece and we're looking forward to the trip although not the procedure itself but you had set your heart on going through the procedure hopefully get a baby out of it and then at the last minute you get told no it's not happening and it stinks and it hurts if that's any help.

Thing is when you were told the Greece thing was off your hopes and dreams were shattered and when that happens it can really hurt!

Of course you are devastated as this was something you really wanted and it hurts when you look forward to something get psyched up to go only to be told at the last minute no it's not happening and it is upsetting and it's like offering someone a bag of sweets and then taking the bag away!

I have had many incidents myself when I have cried in frustration in situations where there was nothing I could have done about it and once I had thrown a file across the sitting room as like you I was so frustrated and hadn't known what to have done with myself!

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Corchi in reply to

Thank you 🐈 👧 you described exactly what I felt. Feeling kind of numb now after so much crying and wailing. It’s the week before that gets me and all the meds and hormones for a medicated cycle that I now have to continue adding in progesterone 3 times a day (so feeling crap) for another ten days to make sure my cycle is not fucked and then going on the pill too until this ban is lifted. If it’s lifted and then panic attacks. What if virus doesn’t go away what if it’s months and months? What are we never going to have our babies? This is fucking ridiculous and at the end of the day shouldn’t it be our choice????????

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The only thing you can do is take each day as it comes and worry about those things should they come up and deal with them then.

Yes it is bloody ridiculous in my view as yesterday myself and my sister in law thought bugger it we were going out for sunday lunch anyway and bugger this silly virus threat and that we did and really enjoyed it!

It’s completely crap I’m so sorry, such a devastating disappointment for you. No judgment here. Damn virus! My sister who lives in Canada was due to come over to the UK & I haven’t seen her or her children for nearly 5 years.☹️I’m gutted I was really looking forward to seeing them & for them to meet Francesca. Hopefully this blows over soon xxx

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Corchi in reply to

So many plans and dreams taken. :-(

in reply to Corchi

It must be truly awful. I had times where I had to put my trying on hold for endo surgeries which was frustrating but on medical grounds in my best interest , however to have a cycle cancellation because of a virus must be a kick in the teeth. I hope it isn’t too long a delay. xxx

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Corchi in reply to

I hope so too <3

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More than likely it will have blown over in a couple of weeks like the swine flu thing did in 2009.

Where I worked previously there was a girl there who was really wanting to go to Cancun and then there was a threat her dream trip to Cancun may not happen and she was upset and I had said about how it always stinks when you are looking forward to something and a threat appears and there's a chance it may not happen and I had suggested perhaps putting Cancun off for another time and was there anything else she fancied instead and she had cried saying how she had really wanted to have gone to Mexico so I had comforted her saying how it's always upsetting when you are looking forward to something only to have some threat appear and it might not happen and myself have had plenty of times when I was looking forward to things and not have them happen and had felt devastated as you do and had said that when I am reliant on others for things I have a number of other options on the go just in case the first one falls through then it doesn't sting as much as I go to the other things I fancy on the list!

I could have been spiteful and had said how she couldn't have everything she wanted but that wouldn't have been kind as when someone's upset I sympathise with them and do my best!

The colleague did go to Cancun after in 2009 as planned but a lesson in this is always have other things on the go but with infertility treatment it's different when you have psyched yourself up to go for treatment that day and then to be told it's postponed stinks!

You must have been really disappointed looking forward to seeing your sister only to be told no it's not happening and well same as the poor people who were going to the Scotland v Wales game on Saturday only to be told no it's not happening!

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CLDxxx

So sorry Corchi 😥 I really feel for you.

Sending love 💕

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Corchi in reply to CLDxxx

Thank you love

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Rainbowhope

Oh sweets I so sorry. Nobody is judging you. We do so much work to mentally prepare ourselves fo treatment and to have it cancelled due to this must be heartbreaking. I'm sorry xxx

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Corchi in reply to Rainbowhope

It is but I don’t want to sound selfish when so much is going on bigger than us but I am so angry!!

in reply to Corchi

Perhaps bigger things are going on but that doesn't change your problems and how devastated you are as what's silly to one isn't to another.

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Corchi in reply to

I know but you know what I mean. This is all so much bigger than us. I just want to scream 😱 thank you for your support xxx

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Rainbowhope in reply to Corchi

Everyone on this forum understands how hard it is to get your hopes up for ivf and then get them dashed. You are not sounding selfish at all. We all understand. Xxx

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Corchi in reply to Rainbowhope

Thank you. I was soooo looking forward to this amidst so much crap and I thought at least I may be pregnant and then it will be so much easier to stay home. Greece has been on lock down for the last week and I was already depressed and agitated. This just floored me.

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Rainbowhope in reply to Corchi

My friend's clinic in Greece have just started looking for a donor for her but told her it might be a while because of coronavirus. She is frustrated too. It's just so irritating. I just want this to go away. It's like we're facing some sort of end of worlds sanario.

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Corchi in reply to Rainbowhope

Gosh I’m so sorry. It’s such a stressful time. I have calmed down a bit after initial shock and trying to be positive and logical about the whole thing. Hard but I’m trying.

in reply to Corchi

It's always the way isn't it how everything goes wrong at the same time!

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Corchi in reply to

When it rains it pours I guess

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Bunnywoo

oh sorry to hear this Corchi . It's ok to be grumpy and disappointed, and as others have said, we all totally understand and I expect many of us are in the same position xx

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Corchi in reply to Bunnywoo

Thank you 🐰 woo xxx

I just got a phone call from belfast RVH to stop my nasal spray they have no clue when I can restart again they apparently are stopping all from this week sooo upset atm 😭😭

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Corchi in reply to

I know it sucks big time. More time wasted. Precious time. But what can we do but wait. It’s in gods hands 😢

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Mar202035 in reply to

just had the same call :( devastated, its challenge after challenge, praying we don't have to wait to long again x

in reply to Mar202035

Hopefully not huni best wishes and baby dust for the future❤️❤️for now it's a large glass of wine chocolates and a movie x

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Mar202035 in reply to

thank you xxx

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Corchi in reply to

Yes lots of Netflix wine and chocolate

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Corchi in reply to Mar202035

I pray for all of us (and I mean everyone) that this ends soon. I can not believe they are putting pregnancies on hold.

in reply to Corchi

❤️❤️Thank you and same to you ❤️❤️💕

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J3nna

Aw I’m so sorry! I can imagine you are so angry and upset! Thoughts are with you! Just take it as time to really prepare your body for your little bundle xx

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Corchi in reply to J3nna

Thank you J3nna ♥️

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JoP32

NO! Oh Corchi I am so upset for you. I 110% understand how angry/devastated you must feel. You do not sound selfish at all.

This is such a rollercoaster of a journey as it is, and to have this thrown into the mix as well seems so very unfair.

I have no words to console, because nothing can make this shorty situation better. I just wanted to say how very sorry I am for you and if you ever need to have a massive rant please feel free to PM me at any time.

Stay strong lovely, you will get through this. Sending you lots of hugs in the meantime 🤗 xx

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Corchi in reply to JoP32

Thank you a million JoP32 having people understand me helps me more than I can say. My husband is gutted too and hates seeing me sad but can’t really comprehend what it means to do all of this to our bodies and prepare and get so close. He is like I understand baby but we can do in a few months. No one but us women get the urgency and the time tick tick ticking away robbing us of the children we so desperately want. Anyway ... what to do eh? I guess I should feel lucky all my family are well in this devastating time and be quiet!

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JoP32 in reply to Corchi

No, you’re right. It’s only us that really understand.

Yeah, feeling thankful for what we have is definitely a good thing but equally you’re aloud to feel pretty pissed off and upset about this current situation.

I guess the worst part is you don’t know how long this travel ban is going to be on for? Have they given you any kind of idea so you can at least look forward rather than being in an indefinite limbo?

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Corchi in reply to JoP32

Nope. An indefinite limbo. Good wording that’s exactly what it is!!

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JoP32 in reply to Corchi

Oh god. What a nightmare. I’m so sorry lovely. So sorry. Hopefully things will start up again soon. I’ll keep everything firmly crossed for you. 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 Xxxx

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Corchi in reply to JoP32

Thanks hun xxxx

in reply to JoP32

It's so bloody unfair isn't it?

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Corchi in reply to

So much so much so much

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ttcemmie

Corchi, so so sorry to hear this. This post almost made me cry, so can only imagine how you're feeling. You don't sound selfish and this is devastating news. Sh*t sh*t sh*t. So sorry my lovely. xxxx

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Corchi in reply to ttcemmie

I’ve been crying all day. I was already depressed and anxiety super high as we have been stuck indoors for a week but I was like ok I have this to look forward to. It’s such a bummer and has just added to this numb depressed state I feel ... thank you so much for your concern though

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ttcemmie in reply to Corchi

When does this awful journey stop throwing up curveballs and hurdles along the way? 🙁 I did not even know this was a rule in Greece now until reading your post. Seems massively unfair and really controlling. I can understand putting in measures to protect the public from coronavirus generally (I'm all for that) but can they make the decision for you if you get pregnant or not!!!! That doesn't seem logical to me. Sorry, not trying to add fuel to your fire. Really thinking of you (and now all ladies who were expecting to get treatment in Greece). xxxxxxx

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Corchi in reply to ttcemmie

That’s what I said to my doctor. But it’s not his call it’s the government. Absolutely agree with you it should be MY CALL. They are MY embryos, MY body and MY choice. Surely??

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L400ynd

No one will judge you on here sweetie. We all know how devastating the whole journey can be. I’m so sorry things are at a standstill for you. Lots of love and hugs. Please believe things happen for a reason and it will all be ok. ❤️❤️❤️ Xxxx

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Corchi in reply to L400ynd

Trying ♥️♥️♥️😢😢😢thank you.

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L400ynd in reply to Corchi

Keeping in mind that you are allowed to feel upset. All of us would in your position. 😘😘😘 xxxx

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Corchi in reply to L400ynd

♥️💋

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hifer

Oh no!!! I am so so sorry for you. No one is judging you and everyone is feeling awful and frustrated for you. I can’t believe this is happening to so many people. Massive hugs. Just such sad times xx

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Corchi in reply to hifer

Thank you ♥️

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Corchi

This is why my clinic shut down in athens greece :

eshre.eu/Press-Room/ESHRE-News

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RoxyJo

I understand completely as I’m in the same position as yourself, we had our cycle postponed last week which was 5 days away from collection due to our clinic closing to send Drs to other departments where they are needed, I’ve stopped the injections but have been told to continue on the nasal spray (synarel) and I’m still waiting to menstrate which I was told could take 2 weeks or so, we’ve been told the clinic is booked up to the start of may but we are on a priority list when they are up and running again. Fingers crossed this Coronavirus passes quickly

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Corchi in reply to RoxyJo

Fingers crossed for you ♥️♥️

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RhinoCat

I hear ya, they stopped my bloody stims three injections away from egg collection . It majorly sucks . Hugs to you 😘

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