BFP worries

[Joanna_]

Anyone else think after bfp is the hardest part...constantly worrying, waiting for it all to go wrong...it seems every post is from someone who's had several miscarriages, its like they more common than carrying full term! 😭

[Emmaxxx]

Yes this bit is hard. But you must not think too much about other people’s experience’s and try and be positive for yourself. Congratulations on your BFP xxx

[Hidden]

Absolutely enjoy it you have your BFP Xxxxx

[Kurstx]

Yes it is hard I’m the same at the moment just worrying about everything 🙈 all you can do is think of how lucky you are to get this far and try and stay positive ❤️ wishing you all the luck in your pregnancy 🥰🥰🥰 xxx

[HollyT7]

It's defo difficult. But it gets easier 💗 I hope you get there soon xxx

[MrsH86]

Hi Joanna, I totally understand it is a very anxious time after a BFP. I think particularly after infertility as it’s something that is wanted for so long but hasn’t happened it makes it seem like it can never actually be real or work out. Hopefully with time and crossing off milestones your journey will become more positive 😊.

I think what you have said about miscarriages is a bit insensitive and you are probably only noticing so much because you are worried. It may sometimes seem like things go wrong but its probably because people come to the forum for support and to share experiences to support others. That’s my favourite thing about here 😊 but it can highlight anxieties on topics that people don’t discuss in normal day to day living.

I do hope you manage to ease your worries over time and start to enjoy your pregnancy x

[Rox1388]

I only got a positive result last week and it is definitely hard mentally, I’m just waiting for something to go wrong, like you said all you seem to read is people have miscarriages. I’m constantly a wreck every time I go to the bathroom incase I am spotting or worse. Wishing you the best of luck xxx

[MissSaoPaulo]

You're definitely not alone in feeling like this. It's so hard to accept that you are finally the lucky one and we are always expecting it to be taken away.

I think it probably seems there is a lot of bad news on here as people are turning to this wonderful network for support whereas those for whom everything is going smoothly wouldn't post here. It might be a good idea to take a step back from the internet (forums and google) if you find it's making you more anxious. Hope you have a happy healthy pregnancy xxx

[Tugsgirl]

It’s all too common after fertility treatment. I was anxious all the time but I also had somewhat of a “history” but like I said, just know that it’s natural to worry over every little thing. It is worse than the tww in some ways. You’re blissfully happy the day you get your bfp then the next day the panic starts.. Hopefully you’ll get the reassurance you need from your scans xx

[Mara84]

I just wanted to say I understand all your worries however we need to enjoy and cherish beautiful moments of our life. All we can do is hope for the best, I know I can not focus on the positive thing most of time but there is no other way...

I’ve been through missed miscarriages twice and thinking about it make my want to forget about pregnancy all together but then I think so many of my friends have healthy beautiful children so it can happen to me too, It can happen to us ❤️

[Rainbowhope]

I totally understand what you're going through. I'm kind of in the same boat too. Please try to relax and know that anxiety and worry will only make things worse. I know it's easier said then done. Why dont u try acupuncture oreven reflexology. If it gets really bad you could even get counselling through your gp.

[ttcemmie]

Oh gosh every part is hard! Understandable there is a lot of anxiety after the BFP (as well as before for that matter) as this is something you want so bad and are worried about losing. Hopefully it will get easier as the pregnancy progresses and you are feeling more reassured. Just for extra reassurance, try and remind yourself that there are probably quite a few posts regarding miscarriages on here as this is a forum for people who are having trouble having babies!!! Miscarriage is not more common than carrying full term! Lots of love. xxxx

[Hidden]

I would echo what MrsH said - the rate of MC on this site is far higher than in real life because people come on here looking for advice. The people who sail through pregnancies without an issue aren’t on these forums they are out buying prams etc

It’s really tough when you get a bfp but you should celebrate because you have done it, worrying doesn’t help and as one of those people who have had multiple MC worrying and stressing didn’t help at all.

Perhaps you should step away from this forum for a bit of its making you worry? Do what’s best for you and your baby

Many congratulations, enjoy your growing bump x

[fridayfever]

Hi Joanna

I'm so glad you posted as I feel exactly the same but feel awful putting it into words as it's not like I'm not happy just frightened to be after all this time and everything we all go through. Very anxious to even start believing but also want to enjoy this time.

My husband said last night when he was trying to put things into perspective that people use this forum for support for IVF and infertility so only the majority of the posts are when things aren't working out and you need the support more.

He also said compare the posts to the number of members and success stories and we are now one of those. He does talk some sense sometimes 😂

Good luck and we will all try and relax and enjoy, everything is now out of our control xx

[Tiddly1984]

It’s a different kind of stress and worry to struggling to become pregnant. Infertility really leaves you with feelings of hopelessness, emptiness and despair whilst pregnancy is anxious and stressful time. Miscarriages are common in early pregnancy but you will hear more stories with that outcome on forums such as this. In reality there are much more successful pregnancies than sad outcomes. Try not to worry...x