Work stress and light pink bleed!

[K84k]

So lucky to have had a positive result on my OTD last Friday [14th]. I had gotten myself signed off sick for the 2ww but I think I foolishly went back to work to early.

My line manager has been beyond poor - not acknowledged any of my correspondence reg. taking time off even though I went into detail on how I was feeling [this was hanging over me in my 2ww] and in my return to work meeting yesterday told me he was 'surprised' to get my email about taking time off and basically made me feel crap for taking some time off. I left the office for the day after that meeting, called HR in my car which I got quite upset. As soon as I came home, there was a small amount of bright pinkish blood after two toilet wipes [sorry if TMI!] Felt real low until I managed to convince myself it was implantation bleed.

Today, went into the office and was very teary all day [not normal for me!] and cried my eyes out in car, on lunch break to HR again. Again, there was a small amount of blood after a toilet wipe [sorry again!].

Do you think it is a coincidence that it happens when I'm upset? I'm terrified every time I go to the toilet incase there is more and what it could mean. Confirmation scan is the 6th March.

Sorry for the moan!

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Hey Hun, I am so sorry to hear that work is so stressful and your boss is such a d*** - I really don't understand why they can't be human? Sometimes it's all we need them to be, just human! I think you're crying because you're upset but also because hormones levels rise in pregnancy - but don't think it's related to the blood when wiping.

It's another long wait until the 6th March, do you have any other way to reassure yourself - maybe a blood test? Sending you calming vibes and lots of love xxxxx

[MrsH17]

Your boss sounds awful. Honestly if I was you I would get to the doctors and ask them to sign you off again so you can relax. By law your well protected especially being pregnant so don’t worry what they will say. This is about you not them and your mental health is more important. Horrible people like him won’t understand what you have been through and may never so all you can do is ignore his awful remarks and think about yourself.

Well done for letting HR know how you feel.

Xxx

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I’m so sorry to hear this and that’s not how your boss should be making you feel and well done for calling HR - at the end of the day the job will always be there you mental health and well-being is the most important right now. Get signed off. Don’t worry if it’s when your wiping that could be a good sign it’s implantation ❤️ Here if you need to talk xx

[Leesara]

Sorry what you’re going through at work. I would echo the comment of others and put You first! I would def encourage you to book gp appointment, talk it through with gp and I’m sure they would too agree that it’s best for you to take couple more weeks off. Thinking of you xx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi K. S srry to hear that you seem to have a "rubbish" boss. I don't think the pink discharge is to do with him/her, it's probably just down to any pessaries if you are using them, causing a bit of irritation. Get your scan booked for reassurance and have a rest "when" you can. Thinking of you. Diane

[ttcemmie]

What is wrong with people!?! Can imagine how upset you are! People need to be more supportive. Of course they might not know what you're going through, but it is not hard to be supportive! Plus being off for two weeks is nothing in the course of business. If your boss can't handle one team member being out for two weeks, then they've got bigger problems! You are completely entitled to have time off and it's hard when we feel enough guilt for going through this and the impact on work already.

Saying all that, I can understand you're worried about the bleeding, but this is common in early pregnancy, and this probably isn't related to work stress.

Well done on going to HR. I would echo everyone else and say to get signed off for longer if you can, as mentally this isn't good for you. The impact on you, rather than the embaby would be my concern. Lots of love xxxx

[KayCan]

Hi there, does your boss know what you have just gone through? And does he know that you are now pregnant? If the answer is yes then you are basically covered under maternity rights now and employers have to make reasonable adjustments for you. If you have an occupational health dept then I'd pay them a visit, they will then write to your boss to tell him of certain restrictions he has to adhere to. If this isn't suitable for the business then they either have to find you a suitable role or send you home on full pay. I know it's a stressful time but you really need to protect yourself and don't take any s**t. You will be feeling very vulnerable, but stay strong and know your rights ❤ xx