Sadly it’s a BFN for us this time 😢

[Kat_15]

Hello lovely ladies

Thank you for all your supportive messages. I really don’t know what I would do without this forum and you all! 🌈❤️🍍

Sadly it’s a BFN for us this time. 💔I had a feeling as when I administered my Crinone gel this morning there was a tiny bit of blood which worried me so we decided to take the test this morning as I was concerned. I think my body was trying to tell me it hadn’t worked to prepare me for the worst!

Luckily I am working from home today so I can have a cry in between writing things and telecons!

I have really struggled to balance work and going through two stimulation cycles and a transfer over the last ten months so I think I have got some big decisions to make now. I haven’t told my manager at work yet but I think I will need to confide in him now as I can’t keep taking so much time off without them wondering why!

I’m so grateful we got this far but very sad it’s not our time this time. Sending you all hugs. I know I will pick myself up and do this all over again when I feel ready. Us IVF warriors are strong ladies! 🌈🍍❤️ xxx

[Kitcat12]

😞 I'm so sorry lovely. It seems like you've got a fab attitude though and will be able to pick yourself up and go again x

[Kat_15 in reply to Kitcat12]

Thanks Kitcat for your kind message. Trying to stay positive as best I can, I did know it was unlikely it would work first time but I still hoped it might! Feeling a bit numb and heart broken today but I know I will get through this. 🌈🍍💪 Xx

[Kitcat12 in reply to Kat_15]

With such a positive outlook you'll definitely get through this, you're so strong! x

[Kat_15 in reply to Kitcat12]

Aww thank you, hopefully we will get our happy ending one day. xxx

[everhopeful83]

I’m so sorry to read this Kat😢💖 sending you the biggest hugs 💜 xxxx

[Kat_15 in reply to everhopeful83]

Thanks for your kind message, I need all the hugs I can get at the moment! Wishing you a speedy 2ww, I really hope you get your happy ending. xxx 🌈❤️🤞

[everhopeful83 in reply to Kat_15]

I hope you’re feeling a little better today💖xxx

[Kat_15 in reply to everhopeful83]

Yes, starting to get my head round it all a bit now. Feel a bit numb but had a good old cry last night which helped too. xxx❤️

[everhopeful83 in reply to Kat_15]

Its definitely good to let it out, hopefully day by day you’ll feel a bit better & eventually strong enough to start again soon💪🏼💖💪🏼xxx

[LKT1]

So sorry it wasn’t your time this time but the drs learn so much each round. Have a good cry and I found it a lot easier after I shared with work. Make sure you take some time to relax and spend time with your partner, maybe plan a nice weekend away together. Sending hugs xxxx

[Kat_15 in reply to LKT1]

Thanks so much for your kind message. 😘 I think I do need to tell my manager now as I only have about 8 days leave left until the end of next March so I will probably need to take unpaid leave when I go through my next round of treatment. Do you mind me asking, did you tell your manager everything or just that you were going through fertility treatment? xxx

[LKT1 in reply to Kat_15]

I haven’t been working during my 2nd and successful round but I was working during my first round. Obviously telling your manager is down to everyone’s preference and circumstances. I did end up telling my manager what stage I was at and when egg collection end transfer was etc because I was in a high risk environment so adaptations were needed to be made to support me after transfer. I just asked her to keep it on a need to know basis so only the people necessary found out. I also told my immediate team members who quickly picked up more tasks and waived off my offers to do extra things so that also helped to make sure I didn’t do too much. xx

[Kat_15 in reply to LKT1]

Thanks for your advice on this, really helpful. Do you mind me asking, did you leave your job in the end? I’m thinking I may need to consider this in the future if our next round doesn’t work. So happy for you that you got your BFP! How are you feeling so far? xxx

[LKT1 in reply to Kat_15]

I’m feeling very tired and keep falling asleep everywhere! But I’m fine thanks. I did leave my job because I was very stressed as I worked with children with high SEND and emotional needs so quite a few were prone to be physically violent. Even with other staff knowing I couldn’t be totally out of risk so I decided to leave. I didn’t think it would work whilst I was feeling so stressed (and being knocked about so much). I left My job end of June and had a couple weeks off to relax before the ivf started and have been unemployed since. I do think this has been a massive help with the success because I was so stressed at work. I think it depends on how much it stresses you out. There is a down side to leaving as work is a very good distraction from your thoughts. Everyday I’m home alone most of the time and I’m missing having a challenge. However, I’m starting a new job still with children but should be much lower risk and its slightly less hours Xx

[Kat_15 in reply to LKT1]

Aww bless you, make sure you put your feet up as much as you can and take it easy.

What a wonderful job you do but sounds like you absolutely made the right decision. I imagine it was a very hard decision for you to make though. I really think the impact of IVF on women’s jobs is such a hidden issue. There is no real guidance out there or policies to support us in most work places. I really hope that changes in the future.

Wishing you lots of luck in your new role. Sounds perfect for what you need at the moment.

I’m thinking I will stay in my job for now, talk to my boss about what I’m going through and look into unpaid leave or getting signed etc for my egg collection etc. I think it the next cycle doesn’t work then I will consider leaving my job. It’s such a hard decision as I really enjoy my job but I want to be a parent more than anything else. xxx

[Hidden]

I am so, so sorry to hear this. I am in exactly the same position. You aren’t alone. I am currently at work trying to pull myself together and not break down completely. It’s so hard.

I actually just quit my job today - I couldn’t take the pressure of running between meetings and going to the clinic. So I understand what you mean about the stress of balancing life with IVF.

Just remember you have your beautiful embryos waiting for when you are ready ❤️

Sending love and strength xx

[Kat_15 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks so much Anna, sending you bigs hugs. It’s incredibly hard to put a brave face on at work when you feel so sad.

I think may get to a point where I have to leave my job too as it’s so hard to balance everything.

Wishing you all the best with your onward journey. xxx 😘🤞❤️

[emiliajj]

I’m so sorry to hear your sad news lovely xx big hugs xx

[Kat_15 in reply to emiliajj]

Thanks so much for your kind message. Wishing you lots of luck for your second cycle. I really hope you get your happy ending. xx 🌈🤞🍍

[Jessy1280]

Sorry to hear this Kat_15. It's heartbreaking. We will pick ourselves up in time and keep on fighting. I've already informed my clinic and I have an appointment weds afternoon to start another plan. It's my way of coping tbh. Big hugs to you xxx 🤗

[Refocus in reply to Jessy1280]

BFN for me as well... Just can't believe that it continues to be one failure after another. I can't help but feel that I'm just not supposed to carry a child and I shouldn't be forcing something that just isn't meant to be. Totally numb xxx

[Kat_15 in reply to Refocus]

So sorry to hear you got a BFN. Sending you bigs hugs. 🤗 I know exactly what you mean, I have had these thoughts too but we will get there. It’s just going to take us a bit longer. Us IVF warriors are tough cookies! If you can get through IVF you can get through anything! 💪😘🌈🍍xxx

[Kat_15 in reply to Jessy1280]

Hi Jessy. Absolutely, so glad I have the weekend to get my head round things too. The earliest we could see our consultant was in three weeks time. I’m looking forward to getting started on planning our next cycle too. I’m hoping we can go through a fresh cycle next time so it is a bit quicker. Wishing you lots of luck and sending hugs. xxx 🤗🌈

[Jessy1280 in reply to Kat_15]

Ive two frozen embies left at the mo so will push to transfer both next time. My clinic flatly refused 2 this time around as it was my first ever cycle, my embryos were apparently good quality and nothing wrong with me. They said it wouldnt increase my chances. I'm planning on insisting this time though. Are you nhs or self funding? Mines starting to cripple me financially already. 🙈. I'll never give up though 🤞 xxx big hugs 🤗 xx

[Kat_15 in reply to Jessy1280]

Yes you should definitely push for that. We are very lucky to be NHS funded at the moment but not sure how many rounds we have left now as we had to go through stimulation twice to get enough embryos. Me neither, we have to keep fighting! 💪🌈 Big hugs to you too. 🤗 xxx

[aamiller405]

Aw im so truly sorry to read this but you sound like an amazingly strong woman.

Take time out to look after yourself xoxo

[Kat_15 in reply to aamiller405]

Aww thank you so much, I’m not sure I am but I try to be positive as I can. My lovely hubby keeps me sane too! ☺️ Hope your 2ww is going well so far and really hope you get your happy ending. xxx

[aamiller405 in reply to Kat_15]

Glad to hear you have a great hubby.. We need them at times like this.. Thank you very much xo

[Kat_15 in reply to aamiller405]

Definitely! xxx

[Lolepops]

I’m so sorry that it hasn’t worked this time . Have a good cry and try to keep the positive attitude that you have . I told work when I was going through it ( I’m a teacher so it was hard getting time off ). Everyone was so supportive so I was very lucky . Might take some pressure off you if you are able to tell your manager . Take care of yourself and big hugs x x x

[Kat_15 in reply to Lolepops]

Thank you so much Lolepops for your kind message. I definitely think telling work is the way forward for me. Just had a look at your profile and your little boy is gorgeous! So glad you got your happy ending. xxx

[Millbanks]

Sending lots of love 💖💖💖 xx

[Kat_15 in reply to Millbanks]

Thanks so much for your lovely message. Wishing you all the best for your onward IVF journey. 🤗❤️🌈 Much love xxx

[Millbanks in reply to Kat_15]

I’m so impressed with your positivity. It’s so hard to pick yourself up and the frustration is unreal at times. But you sound like a strong lady and you will keep trying because that all any of us can do. Wishing you all the luck in the world xxx 🤞🏼

[Kat_15 in reply to Millbanks]

Aww thanks so much. 😘❤️🌈🍀💪xxx

[Poppy_2018]

Hi Kat

I am so so sorry about your result, I know how devastated you must be. Make sure you take time to have a good cry, treat yourself and spend some quality time with your other half. Be kind to yourself.

I definitely found telling work (just my manager and select senior people) really helpful for managing my appointments but also my workload which really helped me with my stress and anxiety levels during my cycles. My work were really supportive and I actually found it quite therapeutic being able to talk to my manager about IVF - she was really interested and willing to listen but I know that not everyone is the same!

Take care of yourself, big hugs xx

[Kat_15 in reply to Poppy_2018]

Hi Poppy. Thanks so much for your kind message and for sharing your experience of telling your manager at work. I definitely think it’s time for me to do that now.

I had a good cry last night which definitely helped. Feeling a bit numb today but starting to feel like I’m getting me head round things.

Wishing you all the best for your onward journey. xxx 🌈❤️🍍

[Lots8788]

I'm so sorry hun. Sending you lots of big hugs. Hope you can log off at a reasonable time and then take it easy and chill and look after yourself over the weekend. you're so strong and brave xx big hugs 😘❤

[Kat_15 in reply to Lots8788]

Thanks for your kind message. I need those virtual hugs! 😊🤗 I feel numb today but a little better than yesterday. Wishing you all the best with your onward journey. Xx ❤️🌈

[Lots8788 in reply to Kat_15]

Ah 👌🤗🤗 ah bless you. Glad you're feeling a little better and hope that continues. Thanks lovely 😘❤ xx

[sarahJE]

So sorry to hear this. The disappointment never really gets any easier does it? For now, look after yourself, cry and then when you’re ready do some things that make you happy and spend time with loved ones. Sending much love xx

[Kat_15 in reply to sarahJE]

Thank you for your kind message. No it really doesn’t. I’m feeling numb today but a bit better than yesterday. Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy. Sending love to you too. xx

[JojoWash]

Oh bless you Kat! I’m so sorry. It’s so hard mentally as well as physically, you should confide in your boss, most definitely! All the different hormones and drugs you are taking will themselves make you feel unwell, let alone the emotional side. Be kind to yourself xx ❤️ xx

[Kat_15 in reply to JojoWash]

Hi JoJo. Thank you for your kind message. ❤️ I definitely think I will tell my boss soon. I haven’t got much time off left for the rest of the year so I will probably need to take unpaid leave. I’m feeling a bit numb today but better than yesterday. Wishing you all the best with your onward journey. xx 🌈

[KriSho]

Sending you lots of hugs and love. I think you making the right decision telling your work. My work has been really supportive and allowed me the time for going for my appointments. Make sure you look after yourself xx

[Kat_15 in reply to KriSho]

Thank you for your lovely message and virtual hugs, I need them at the moment! Thank you sharing your experience about telling work, I definitely think I will do that soon. Wishing you all the best with your onward journey. xx 🌈

[Cici85]

I am so sorry kat_15. I know this is a very hard time for you. Try to stay positive for the future and be good to yourself. 💕💕

[Kat_15 in reply to Cici85]

Thanks so much for your kind message. It’s been a tough couple of days but feeling a little better now I have got my head round things. Wishing you all the best with your journey too. xx ❤️🌈🤞

[Hidden]

I’m so sorry I was really hoping you would get some good news. Sending big hugs. I know what you mean about work, I’ve had three cycles and a load of other stuff and not told anyone but I am struggling not to stand up and scream ‘I don’t care I am struggling with infertility and having ivf’ in team meetings but so far managed to not to. Good luck for your nice round xx

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Can totally relate to this Daisy for me work really only funds the IVF it is a means to an end & how I haven’t managed to tell some people to u know what off whilst I was on my medication for my fresh rounds I will never know!! 😳

[Kat_15 in reply to Hidden]

Me too! Especially when colleagues talk constantly about their kids or pregnancies! 🙄

[Kat_15 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for your kind message Daisy. I know exactly what you mean. When my colleagues are moaning about their kids or talking about their pregnancies before going on maternity leave, I always think if only you knew! I’m definitely going to tell my boss soon, I don’t think I can continue taking so much leave without explaining plus I haven’t got much leave left now. Wishing you lots of success with your next cycle. xxx ❤️🌈🍍💪

[Core]

So sorry to read this, BFNs are so hard to deal with but you sound like a tough lady and that attitude will help enormously xx

[Kat_15 in reply to Core]

Thanks so much for your kind message. I try to be positive as I can but it’s tough. I am very lucky to have a very supportive hubby which helps! I hope your next cycle goes well and you get your happy ending. 🤞🌈💪xx

[Core in reply to Kat_15]

Thank you, yes I feel the same try to be positive but there are some days when you just need a good cry and to not do anything xx

[Kat_15 in reply to Core]

Absolutely, a good cry always makes me feel better in the long run. Sending hugs. 🤗 xxx

[Olivia1980xxx]

Oh no I couldn’t read this 😔😔

I’m so so so sorry hun 😔😔

I don’t know what words will make u feel better. Ivf is such a battle going through all that ...and when doesn’t work all world collapse ....

I’m scared so much to test ...I don’t know if I can pick up my pieces if doesn’t work for me 😔

Oh kat I’m so sorry hun 😢😔

[Kat_15 in reply to Olivia1980xxx]

Thanks so much for your kind message Olivia. I really appreciate it. 😘 I really hope you get your happy ending soon. Sending lots of positive vibes and hugs. 🤞🍀🌈💪 xx

[Dreamingofbaby]

Hey Kat so so sorry to hear this. Feels so unfair. All here for u. Big hugs.

Def good to have time for u then maybe reassess the next steps for another cycle and with work. You would hope that ur manager would be understanding and supportive.

Take time for u Hun to recover. Know we here for u.

Lots of hugs xx

[Kat_15 in reply to Dreamingofbaby]

Thanks lovely, I really appreciate it. Thank you for all your supportive messages. I had a good cry last night which made me feel a lot better. Feeling a little stronger today.

Definitely going to tell my manager soon as I think I will need to take unpaid leave so will need to explain why.

Taking it easy this weekend and going shopping to get some new things for our house to cheer ourselves up. Lots of hugs to you. xxx ❤️🌈💪

[Dreamingofbaby in reply to Kat_15]

Heya u glad u had a good cry and are having a quiet weekend. Do what ever will support u both through this tough one. Sounds like a good plan to have some leave and tell manager. May help to take a step back to assess all.

Take good care and enjoy the buying new things that cool

Big hugs xxx

[crisps88]

Oh love I am so so sorry for you. Absolutely gutted for you. I know you said all along you had a feeling, we’re so intuitive aren’t we but there’s no expectation that would prepare you for this. I’m really devastated for you. Be kind to yourself , you juggle so much. All my thoughts with you darling. Xx

[Kat_15 in reply to crisps88]

Thanks so much lovely, I really appreciate your kind message. Felt heartbroken yesterday but feeling a little stronger today. Taking it easy this weekend. Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy, so pleased for you. Xx ❤️🌈🍍

[crisps88 in reply to Kat_15]

Just so sad for for you, genuinely am. Was really hoping the best for you. You must be just in a rubbish place, worst feeling in the world. We’re all here for you and anything you need, your body and mind haven done so much and you’ve been so strong and amazing please don’t forget that. Thinking of you lovely Xxxxx

[Kat_15 in reply to crisps88]

Thanks so much for your thoughtful words which I really appreciate it. Yes it’s so sad as we had such high hopes (even though we tried not to get our hopes up too much which is sooo hard!) but I also knew it was unlikely it would work first time. Just hope round two can happen soon so we can try our luck again. We will keep on fighting and hopefully get our happy ending soon. Xxxxx

[crisps88 in reply to Kat_15]

Definitely, round two will be your lucky one. This is just a hard trial and error and you’ll be able to improve and modify your next cycle and know what to expect. I think that stresses you out less as well. So sorry for your news though, please give yourself time you’ve done amazing. Don’t forget that xxxxx

[Noah1981]

Oh sweetheart I’m genuinely heartbroken for ya I was so looking forward to seeing good news but you know what it ain’t over for us yet it just wasn’t your time to sparkle into mummy hood just yet BUT IT WILL COME .We all believe in one another and I believe he just hasn’t touched upon us just yet stay strong flower big massive hugs for you xxx

[Kat_15 in reply to Noah1981]

Thanks lovely for your kind message, I really appreciate it. ❤️ Yes absolutely, our time will definitely come. We just have to keep on fighting! 💪🍍 Sending you bigs hugs too. xxx

[Kat_15]

Thank you for all kind and supportive messages today. I was working from home today which helped so I could have a cry in between telecons and deadlines. I found it so hard to concentrate this morning but I had deadlines for some urgent pieces of work which somehow I managed to meet. Amazing where you can find strength you didn’t know you had!

Called both of our parents to tell them the sad news at lunchtime which was very hard and heart breaking in itself but they really comforted us.

Have booked to see our consultant on 21 August to discuss everything so looking forward to getting a plan in place.

Feeling more heartbroken and exhausted now as it has really sunk in what has happened and that we need to start the whole process again from scratch. I know we will pick ourselves up but my goodness it is tough at the moment.

Thanks again for all your support, I will reply individually to your thoughtful messages soon. xxx 🌈❤️🍍

[everhopeful83 in reply to Kat_15]

❤️❤️❤️

[Kat_15 in reply to everhopeful83]

❤️😘

[Shelleybean]

So so sorry to hear this, it’s truly heartbreaking 💔 Take some time to spoil yourself and gather the strength to continue on your journey. Sending love 💕💕 xx

[Kat_15 in reply to Shelleybean]

Thanks so much Shelley for you kind message. Felt heartbroken yesterday but feeling a little stronger today. We will keep fighting and hopefully we will get our happy ending one day. 🤞🍀Going shopping this afternoon to get some bits for our house to cheer ourselves up. ☺️ Wishing you all the best with your journey too. Sending love too. xx ❤️🌈💪

[Solly-44]

Oh love, I’m so sorry this wasn’t your time.

You definitely will pick up yourself up though, take time to cry and do whatever it is that gets you back to your usual, strong positive place. Sending those hugs your way xx

[Hidden]

Hi Kat, I am so sad to read this I have been thinking about u all day & hoping for the best. It’s so disheartening and disappointing. Sending u a virtual hug. All I would say is try to focus on u & allowing urself time to grieve, it is all too easy to let ur mind run away with u & thinking of all the things like work, next cycle and how it will all fit in. I went through that on Wed & felt worse worrying about everything, so I have tried to put that to the back of my mind and tried to just focus on me & my boyfriend & just getting over this cycles disappointment. I have frankly stuffed my face with bad food as I have been really good lately which has made me feel slightly better!! 🙃 this weekend we are going shopping and out for a nice meal and some drinks. I am trying to keep busy I have my moments but trying to look forward and plan some nice things with friends and family. This may help. U r a 💪 strong warrior We will get thru this feel free to pm me if u need to take care xx 💕😘 xx🌈🌤

[Kat_15 in reply to Hidden]

Hi Coral. Thank you for your kind message, I really appreciate it. 😘❤️Sendings you lots of big hugs too. We are doing very similar things this weekend! ☺️We went shopping today and bought lots of nice things for our house. We are having an Indian takeaway tonight and I’m having my first glass of wine in months!

Thank you for your advice too. I started doing the same thing today (I am a planner) but you’re right it made me feel a bit overwhelmed! I wish I had a crystal ball to see into the future. Enjoy your meal and drinks out. Chat soon. xxx ❤️🌈💪🍍

[Hidden in reply to Kat_15]

Well done for going out and about that can’t have been easy but hopefully took ur mind off things even if only temporarily. Yes I am a planner and control freak at times so find this whole process really hard. Once u have had ur review and asked questions at the hospital take this may help and then u can start to process all ur concerns and questions they I’m sure will still feel overwhelming but breaking them down one by ones may help. Oh yes a crystal ball would be great hey, hope u r doing ok today take care of urself xx 🍀🌈💕 xx

[Hidden]

Am so sorry! I just wanted to say I also really struggle with the juggle between work and IVF. It’s not just the practical juggle of scans and egg collections but also the stress of putting on a brave face when you have bad news. I completely understand! Am also pondering how best to deal with the balance of everything going forward. I hope you feel better soon and wish you all the best for your next try xx

[Kat_15 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks so much for your kind message Lexy, I really appreciate it. 😘It’s so tough putting on a brave face at work, particularly if you aren’t feeling great or having a down day. Doing IVF and usual life is so challenging but somehow we continue to do it! 😊💪🍍 Wishing you all the best with your journey, I really hope you get your happy ending soon. xxx ❤️🌈

[Hidden in reply to Kat_15]

Thank you - your message really cheered me up. I have just jabbed myself with menapur and it’s a bit stingy - so encouraging words were really well timed! X

[Kat_15 in reply to Hidden]

Aww I’m so glad it helped a little. 🤗Another injection down and hopefully one step closer to your BFP. 🤞🍀💪 xxx

[Georgie17]

I am so sorry to hear this. It is heartbreaking but I am so impressed with your strength. It is so hard juggling work and treatment and I have always found that planning for the next one is the only way I've managed to keep going. Sending you lots of love xx

[Kat_15 in reply to Georgie17]

Thanks so much for your kind message Georgie. 😘Thinking of you on your OTD, really hope you get positive news. 🤞🍀🤞 Sending lots of love too. xxx 🌈❤️

[Georgie17 in reply to Kat_15]

I tested this morning and it was a BFN. I am devastated but I'll keep going. Just need to figure out why it keeps failing. Comfort food for me tonight xx

[Kat_15 in reply to Georgie17]

I’m so, so sorry Georgie. Sending you big hugs. 🤗 I’m thinking of you. xxx

[Hidden]

Sorry to hear this Kat. Well done for being so strong. Take some time to gather yourselves for the next go. Big hugs.xx

[Kat_15 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks so much Hannah for your kind message, I really appreciate it. 😘I had a good old cry last night so feeling a bit stronger today. Had a nice day shopping with my hubby and having a takeaway tonight. ☺️Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy, so pleased for you. Big hugs to you too. xxx🌈❤️

[Hope76]

Sorry I just seen this, am so sorry to read your sad news Kat. Hoping you have a great support network around you. Regarding work and going forward as I am now on to my 5th transfer I confided in my Boss & HR, best move I ever made as they were so supportive. After my BFNs the only way I could cope was planning dates for our next go.

Wishing you loadsa luck for the future and sending hugs 🤗 keep your chin up x

[Kat_15 in reply to Hope76]

Thanks so much for your thoughtful message. 😘 How’s your 2ww going so far? Really hope your get your BFP. 🤞🍀🤞 Yes my hubby and our parents have been super supportive so we are very lucky. Thanks for sharing your experience about sharing your news with work. I definitely think that’s my next move. Wishing you lots of luck and sending hugs too. xxx 🌈❤️

[Hope76 in reply to Kat_15]

Glad you have plenty of support around you 😘. Well am only 5 days in and it feels like forever. I have to wait until 13/08 as my clinic are 15 days .....seems such a long wait. But from past experience first week always drags then I will be praying for second week to slow down. I keep feeling I have symptoms such as cramping, frequent trips to loo even in middle of night. Emotional... however am aware too early and could just be the progesterone x

[Kat_15 in reply to Hope76]

I know exactly what you mean, the first week felt like the longest in my life!! Really hope 13/08 cones round quickly for you and it’s positive news. 🤞🍀🤞Rooting for you. 💪🤗 xxx

[Hidden]

So sorry to read this , although we are all strangers you really feel for other people's losses and negative results don't you!

You have such a wonderful attitude, keeping everything crossed going forward XXX

[Kat_15 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks so much for your kind message Laura Jane, I really appreciate it. Hope you’re feeling a bit better now? Sorry to hear about your breathlessness. Really hope you get your BFP, I’m rooting for you! 🤞🍀🤞 xxx 🌈❤️

[Kyell2]

Aw Kat I’m so sorry. Sending you lots of hugs xx

[Kat_15 in reply to Kyell2]

Thanks so much, I need those virtual hugs at the moment. Sending you lots of positive vibes and luck for your onward IVF journey. xxx🌈💪🍍

[Scarlett13]

So so sorry and hope you keep going xxxx

[Kat_15 in reply to Scarlett13]

Thanks so much Scarlett, I really appreciate your thoughtful message. Sending hugs to you. Hope your pregnancy is going really well so far and you’re feeling okay. xxx 🌈💪🤗

[3005]

Sorry to see this Kat, its such a tough time when it doesn’t work. I like you had to start all over again and that was the one thing I focused on the most but I have to say this second round I’ve been a lot more laid back about the whole thing. I’ve got my EC tomorrow (3rd sedation of the year bring on the snooze fest) and I’m bricking it but also excited.

Basically what I’m trying to say is yes it’s crap and I would strongly suggest speaking to a counsellor because it is grief and that’s a tough time for anyone. However, over time it gets better and when you’re ready you will go though the process all over again because it’s just what you gotta do and you’re strong enough to do it and keep believing that one day you will get that BFP and all this crap will be a distant memory.

Xxx

[SparkleCock]

Sending you a huge hug Kat. It’s just so unfair. Especially when some folk are just popping them out and not even looking after them properly! Your time will come. You’ll be an amazing mama soon. Lots of love xoxo