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Sadly back to BFN for us

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Core
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Title says it all really, was really hoping we had found a formula for getting pregnant but this morning was another negative. I’m so worried that the last pregnancy was a fluke and it will never happen again for us ☹️

Not the Valentine’s I hoped for but plan is cwtch up on the sofa with a takeaway, wine and lots of chocolate and hopefully get some positivity back over the next few days

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MrsH17 profile image
MrsH17

So sorry to be reading this sad news 😢 I hope you two can come together enjoy some naughty food and get back into a positives head space together. Please don’t give up hope. I am sure you have read lots of success stories after hitting every hurdle possible on here . Sending lots of love xxxx

🙈Dear Core, I am so sorry to hear your sad news 💔it’s heart breaking. Take your time to digest and try to relax and go back to ‘normal’ life. We are warriors and if we persevere we’ll get our babies one day- I know it’s hard to believe but we must keep believing. Sending lots of love and a special warm hug 💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓xxxxx

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Core in reply to

Thanks this is the message I need to hear xx

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Italy300618

I am so sorry to read this 😔😔. It all just seems so unfair, I wish it was the news you both wanted today, for now enjoy those luxuries that you've so missed and give yourself some time to recoup. Big hugs to you xxxxx

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Core in reply toItaly300618

Thank you yes defo treat time for me xx

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KiboXX

Oh Core, I’m so sorry 😢 sending you big hugs xxx

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Solly-44

I’m so sorry, sending love xx

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Mmmpudding

Sorry to hear your sad news, chocolates and takeaway is the way to go! Xx

Oh lovely I am so sorry, I so so hoped you would get some good news. its so hard to comprehend when you know your body has got pregnant before - why won't it do it again.

I am 100% sure it wasn't a fluke - and you will get there again. But for now have a good cry, chug a load of wine and feel sorry for yourself for a bit.

Sending you the hugest of hugs xxxx

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Core in reply to

Thank you so much best of luck for your next round I’ll be keeping an eye out for updates xx

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Picalilli99

Oh no Core I’m so sorry it was a bfn. Absolutely gutted for you. I think the worry is totally understandable after feeling like you had worked out what you needed to do and after your bfp last time. But try not to give up hope it will happen again, I’m sure it will lovely. But for now, give yourself time, feel sorry for yourself (because it is really shit!), look after each other and enjoy that well deserved wine! Sending love and hugs your way ❤️ xxx

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Core in reply toPicalilli99

Thanks so much good luck for the rest of your 2ww xx

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hifer

Really sorry to hear this. Sounds like you have a good evening planned and I hope the next few days are a bit brighter for you xx

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MrsH86

Aww no I’m really sorry to hear this. Your evening plans sound lovely I hope they manage to help cheer both of you up a little. Sending hugs ♥️x

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Lots8788

😘😘 so sorry lovely x x big big hugs to you

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Kurstx

Im so sorry to read this Core 😟 sending you lots of ❤️❤️❤️ xxx

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Keepingfaith85

Oh sorry to hear this Core. I'm glad you are looking after yourself cuddled up with drinks, sofa night and a takeaway. It's so, so hard but it wasn't a fluke before and you will get there. Thinking of you 💐

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Core in reply toKeepingfaith85

Thank you that’s the message I need to hear xx

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Georgie17

I am so sorry, take time for yourself over this weekend xx

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Xtina1234

So so sorry lovely. Had really hoped this was your time. Do what you need to do. Drink all the wine, eat all the chocolate & cry as much as you need. Thinking of you with love xxx

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CLDxxx

So sorry Core. Sending love 💕 xxx

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Gueritarubia

Oh no! Gutted to read this. You deserved so much better... life is unfair, you’ve been such a warrior I had hoped this was your time... big hug 🤗

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Core in reply toGueritarubia

Thank you hope the 2ww is going ok xx

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Gueritarubia in reply toCore

Nah, same old same old. Uneventful, which makes me worried 😉 xx

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Core in reply toGueritarubia

It’s just so hard to tell isn’t it! Everything crossed for you 🤞🤞🤞 xx

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RhinoCat

Awh pet 😞

Sad times 😔😢 hope the wine tastes good .

You deserve it 😘

Love and hugs 🤗

I feel your pain 💐💖😘😞🙏🏻

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Core in reply toRhinoCat

Thanks hope you’re doing ok xx

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RhinoCat in reply toCore

Not too bad . Wine helps 😘

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Tryagain45

I'm so sorry to hear your news. It's so tough after last time. Sending big hugs xxx

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Woolly16

BFN here too at 10 days past transfer, thinking I'm definitely out and just feel broken this time. 3rd round but only 2nd transfer. We are planning a takeaway tomorrow night but unfortunately no booze as I want to be 100% sure it's a negative first. Sounds ridiculous but just want my period to come if I'm not preggo. Dont know how to carry on with normal life this time ☹

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Core in reply toWoolly16

So sorry to hear you’re news I understand not drinking I’d be the same until OTD. Really hope it turns around for you xx

So sorry to read this Core, it just sucks when we don't get what we have worked so hard for 😥. Take as much time as you need foryourself ❤️

Sending you hugs xoxoxo.

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Core in reply to

Thanks xx

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FrancyItaly

Oh no Core, I’m so sorry to read this. I hope you will feel a little better in a few days! If not, we are here... 💕

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Core in reply toFrancyItaly

Thanks this forum is such a lifesaver xx

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Corchi

So sorry for your loss. Take a deep breath, time is your best friend. I feel you xxx

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Core in reply toCorchi

Thanks xx

I’m so sorry to hear this sending you lots of ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Look after one another and remember it’s ok to cry get your emotions out xxxxx

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Core in reply to

Thanks xx

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Star26

I'm so sorry to read this. I had my negative this morning on test day. Second round of ICSI with first round not even reaching any fertilisation. I have never been pregnant naturally. My OH doesn't want to go through this anymore so I really don't know where to go or what to do. I have probs with egg quality and quantity and he has probs with motility so I don't think it will ever happen naturally for us. I just don't know what to do now. 😕😕 xx

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Core in reply toStar26

So sorry to hear your news. Do you think it was just OHs initial reaction? Hopefully in time he will come more round to your way of thinking xx

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Star26 in reply toCore

Unfortunately I don't think so. He is very black and white with the whole situation. It is an awful one for me to even think about coz I don't want to be without him but I also can't imagine my life without children. So I don't really know what I am going to do. 😕😕😕😔😔 xxxx

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Core in reply toStar26

I really feel for you, this would break my heart coz like you I couldn’t imagine life without hubby or without kids. Do you think maybe seeing a counsellor would help?xx

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Star26 in reply toCore

O yes. Definitely on my to do list thank you. I need to get my head around the fact that I could never fall pregnant naturally coz of my low quality/low quantity eggs. So I definitely will speak to someone. Thank u. 😊😊 xxx

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Core in reply toStar26

Your welcome and always here if you want to talk xx

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ttcemmie

So sorry to hear this. Devastating news. ☹️☹️☹️ Sending you lots of love and hugs. xxxxxx

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Core in reply tottcemmie

Thanks xx

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Cinderella5

Awww core I completely sympathise!! Such a disappointing time, we thought we had a winning formula too. I hope you had a nice evening together last night, well as much as you can do! Massive hugs, it's just not fair!!😕xxx

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Core in reply toCinderella5

Thanks, was shattered last night but it was what we needed and feeling better today. It really isn’t fair hope you’re doing ok xx

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Cinderella5 in reply toCore

It does take it out of you! I hope you manage to get some rest this weekend. I'm doing ok, I've had a good cry but I'm feeling a bit better....I even shed a wee tear at bloody Hollyoaks last night as there was a baby scan!🙈 Getting there though!! Having some treats this weekend, nice food & drinks and a cosy time with hubby.xxx

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Core in reply toCinderella5

Yes that’s exactly the plan! Takeaway last night and feeling a bit stronger today so have booked a meal out. Hope you’re also doing the same and having a lovely time together xx

So sorry to hear this. Don't give up. Take time to heal. All the best. X

Im so sorry to hear it was a negative, you take care of you. I'm sure it wasn't a fluke I just think there are just so many factors that have to be right, try not to give up hope xx

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